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Why does it hurt so much?

My bf was abusive so I left.
Now why do I feel like such a horrible person?
Why do I feel like I made the wrong decision in leaving?
I know leaving was the best possible answer especially after he told me that I should consider myself one of the lucky ones(he says his exes all had it a lot worse).
That scares me even more,what if I had stayed?
He nearly broke my hand,nearly strangled me and nearly broke my neck.
Each time was either a fractured wrist,bruised neck and swollen spinal discs.

I know all this happened,why do I feel like I made a mistake in leaving?

(just in case people are thinking I might be I am definately NOT going back!!!)
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replied July 30th, 2008
Aw, Honey! I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through! You ask a lot of questions and I wish I had the answers to them because I went through this myself. This was many years ago and I still don’t know why I felt guilty or why I stayed.

All I know is that today I’m with the most wonderful man alive, and yes, I had my doubts. A lot of them. Ask Lonestarguy all about it. He helped me to work through those fears of committing again. It takes years to fully recover from an abusive relationship, but you CAN do it. You are such a sweetheart and I’m sure you will be fine because you’ve got such a strong spirit.
If you need to talk we are all here for you, Honey. Or feel free to pm me.
Hang in there.
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