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Why can't i feel pleasure during sex?

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My question is sexual. I would like an answer from a professional. I'm 19 years old and I became sexualy active 6 months ago. I have only had one partner. Yet i don't feel any pleasure during sex. I can only feel a pleasant massage in my vagina. But nothing else. I have never orgasmed during sex and this is putting a lot of pressure on my relationship. I have only climaxed 3 times due to clitorical stimulation which my partner initiated. I'm very attracted to my partner he arrouses me sexualy and I am the one who mostly initiates sex. I crave penetration, but i always end up dissapointed and feeling broken as a woman. I've read many tips (e.g. helpful positions) but nothing works. PLease help. I want a healthy sex life.
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replied December 13th, 2011

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Woman do take time to get excited and have orgasm and it requires mental and physical relaxation to enoy sexual intercourse.Other than that anxiety,stress for getting orgasm,can also be an issue.
Ask your partner to have lots of foreplay and start slowly.Do not just focus on getting orgasm and start lightly.Ask him to do fingering and use lubrication if you are not getting excited.You should also involve yourself completely and relax your mind without having any thoughts.Enjoy different positions and woman enjoy with clitorial stimulation only which is quite normal.
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