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What if I can't have children?

I'm 19 and a college student looking to graduate in a few years and shortly get married. My fiance has infertility issues, but are fixable with him just taking a pill regularly. We are not wanting kids for a few years till we can support a family and are haply married. Now that that's been said.

My first problem is that I am terrified I can't have children. I was pregnant this last January and had a miscarriage. I was on birth control and under a lot of stress at the time. I didn't know I was pregnant till it was to late. Since then I have been having bleeding issues. Were I'll bleed for three to four weeks before I finally stop. I'm starting to worry there is something wrong, but don't have the money to go to a doctor.

My second problem is that I want a child so much. I know I'm not in a position in life to were I could have one and be fine, and we are not planning/wanting a child right now. It's just babies make me cry and get this feeling of such great longing it hurts sometimes. Add me wanting a child with all my heart and being terrified that I won't be able to have one.. I'm a bit of a mess. Any advice would be helpful.

Also please do not go on a spiel of how I am to young to raise a child and it will ruin my life. I'm not saying I am trying to have a child at this moment or planing to. I'm saying that I'm scared that in the future I won't be able to, and that I am so lost to why I want one so bad when I know it's not the right time to have one. Thanks!
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replied February 1st, 2013
I'm scared tooooo!!
Dear music lover; I hope this reply finds you well, and elated. As far as I can find on this link, no one has replied and this shocks me. I too, and worried about the possibility of never having the pleasure of conceiving. This literally, scares the $#!+ out of me, as I have wanted kids since I was a little kid myself. I have had ammenorhea (opposite to your problem, as this is a LACK of menstruation and I have had this since i quit a "too strong" birth control, now 13months since my last period...!!!!!) and I am terrified I will not be able to bear a child and that is all I dream of. ugh. I hope you have found sound advice, and comfort. Good luck to you, beauty, your yearn will drive you to appreciate what you have when you finally get it <3
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