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What can I do or take to get my sex drive back after menopause?

I have been in menopause for over 10 years now and have no interest in sex at all. My sex drive is totally gone. My doctor prescribed vagifem for vaginal dryness because I would bleed just by wiping myself after using the bathroom. I am only 57 years old and really would like to still be enjoying sex with my husband. I feel so bad for him, but the thought of it just actually turns my stomach. Can anyone suggest anything?
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replied July 24th, 2013
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It sounds like you need to have your hormone levels checked. Your vagina basically goes back to its prepubertal state after menopause. Everything gets thinner and dryer. Sensible replacement of testosterone and estrogen can restore it significantly. These hormones also controls your libido and sexual appetite.

Regular masturbation when you do not have sex is also important to maintain vaginal tone after menopause. The arousal cycle brings blood and oxygen to all the tissue in that area.

If it is just intercourse you have a problem with there are various other ways to be sexual together and please each other without intercourse. Balancing your hormones should however make it possible to make slow and passionate love again. Hard and rough sex will however likely not be an option ever again.

Best of luck!
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replied August 5th, 2013
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I can relate, taybey. If you had a hysterectomy (especially if your ovaries were removed), are you on HRT? Not having any hormones really does a number on the urogenital tissues and it can take awhile to restore their health. I had a hysterectomy and I'm on HRT. It helps that area quite a bit but I oftentimes still have to use lube if I'm not using a vaginal estrogen product.

Another thing that can be helpful is Replens. It's a vaginal moisturizer that lasts 3 days. But it sounds like you need more than that. Hope you find something that does the trick!
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replied August 31st, 2013
The vagimen will bring back moisture to normal levels. It doesn't happen immediately, takes a few weeks. Testorone , through a compounding pharmacy, will bring back your drive and then some. It takes about 60 days, but your drive will come back and your hot flashes will leave.
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replied September 13th, 2013
Hi, Taybey
I can relate to what you are going through. Why don't you try to get a natural product that can help you with your symptoms and also with your low sex drive... I tried a product from bell lifestyle products and I am feeling much better after taking it, but again there are other good products in the market is just a matter of researching. Good luck!
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replied October 17th, 2013
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Hello, since menopause, the body's hormone levels, leading to decreased sexual desire, you can enhance the nutrition and help improve libido.
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replied November 14th, 2013
Hi there. Using lubricants during sexual intercourse will also be a good way in increasing your libido and sex drive.
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