Im 18 years old and for some reason I want a child.I just need a little HELPFUL advice because I think its strange.
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replied February 10th, 2009
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i think alot of girls around this age start to feel this way. i think its normal to feel this way, because i thik every one has said at one time or another 'i cant wait to have a baby!' or 'ohh! i want one!'
but its best to wait till your older to act out this want of a child.
your still young, i bet wanting to go to college or experience things as a young adult, have the freedom to do what ou want when you please, and just have fun.
a child takes alot of that freedom away.
i can tell you from first hand experience, i got pregnant at your age, and im not 19 and my son is 5 months old, sometimes i wish i could go hang out with my friends when i feel like it, but i cant because i have to care for a baby, i dont mind it much, but i would have liked to be older before having kids.

alot goes into having a child, sometimes boyfriends are not as supportive as we would hope or want them to be, my boyfriend stayed with me and we are still together, but some pregnant teens end up raising their baby alone because the boyfriend is not ready to be a parent, denies the child is his, sometimes parents are not supportive...
im sure youll get replies from other teen parents on here too and they'll tell you as well.

its normal to think this way, but completely different to act on this thought. just think of all the things you would miss out on as a young adult.

if you want to PM me about any other questions feel free to.

<3
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replied February 10th, 2009
Well I dont already feel like the normal teenager. Im already married, I've been married for about 6 months. We already bought our first home, we have our own car. This of course without any finacial assistance from anyone. So for the most part I feel like it should be the next thing. We arent the typical couple either I know alot of people say that but we arent. Neither one of us party which would cause tons of conflict. I dont know, he's feeling the same way. I guess for the most part we live very adult lives that I think we might think the same as I do that it should just be the next thing.
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replied February 10th, 2009
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your a new couple, everything is fresh, new exciting, why not enjoy married life for a while longer i mean you've only been married 6 months.
do you have savings put aside? im sure you already know a child is very costly..over $40,000 and up to just give a bit of an estimated price.
you seem to be a bright girl. but have you and your husband given this any thought really? your not the party type, ok thats fine, but im sure you both enjoy a night out, maybe to a movie..dinner etc. usual things couples do, it wont be like that when a baby is in the picture.
i think maybe your thinking a baby is the next step in the relationship your in because its the norm. in our society; get a house/appartment, get married, have kids.
you do have the option of waiting maybe until youve been married for say..a year?

before jumping into trying for a baby, really think about it, maybe open up a savings account and put money aside for your future child cuz god knows your going to need alot of it lol, talk this through and really talk it through with your husband, he may not think the say way as you think he does.
and enjoy being married.
a baby needs a lot of attention, and that bonding time you spend with your husband wont happen as often after a baby comes in the picture.
your only 18, your married, your young, you have so long to wait and plan a baby.
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replied February 10th, 2009
yes, I trust me we get made fun of because we act like old people. We've had money put aside since before we got married. We both have a huge fear of not having money when we need it. But your totally right about the whole it being the "norm." I dont know at first I thought it was just a phase I was going through but its been in my head for a good while. But thank you for all the advice its really helpful.
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replied February 10th, 2009
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your welcome hun, if you ever need to talk you can always PM me and i'll help as much as i can.
enjoy your new marriage!
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replied February 11th, 2009
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whitney, is your husband also 18? If he is, that is pretty amazing that you two could buy a house right out of high school. Smile
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replied February 11th, 2009
No, my husband is 21. And he works really hard. We saved and saved even when we were both in high school, we always knew we would end up getting married.
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