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Very depressed, constant pain, unhealthy stress

I have a problem, my dad is always drunk, and always swears and shouts at me and my brother. I'm very depressed and i am scared to have social chit-chat because of this. I am afraid to speak to girls because i always assume the same reaction that my dad gives. He never sees his mistakes and we always have to apologize to him and it's never the other way around. What do i need to do? I am really done because when he's sober he always tries to talk over what happened with stuff like "nice weather huh?" Or "thats just how i am, accept it or leave"

Please, i need advice... i want to be able to talk to girls and people, and have more friends. I am full of stress everyday and music isn't solving it anymore. Even listening to my favorite songs don't do anything anymore.

I only feel pain everyday, i just want to be happy. And i have thought about what it would be like if i'm gone. sometimes these thoughts enter my brain. Since i'm just 18, i don't think it's healthy to have this much stress and pain.

Thanks a lot, i really aprriciate you taking your time to read this.
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replied January 8th, 2019
Thank you for asking at Ehealth forum!

I read your question and I understand your concern.
You should try and take him to rehabilitation center and he might need constant counselling therapies that might help him with his drinking issues, try this when he’s sober and ready to listen. As far as you’re concerned don’t stress yourself out too much for a person who is an addict and there’s nothing really you can do about it. Try and continue with your social life by ignoring his harsh words and tone and don’t think about finishing life by doing better things like joining a gym, going for a walk, yoga, music and other stuff you like or enjoy doing. That way your brain will be occupied and you won’t get a chance to think about all this. Also try and make an appointment for a talk therapy that might help in this regard.

I hope it helps. Stay in touch with your healthcare provider for further guidance as our answers are just for education and counselling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit to a doctor.
Take care
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