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Unsupportive husband during pregnancy

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I am 35 weeks pregnant and seriously contimplating leaving my husband. My pregnancy has been very difficult due to his inability to be completely supportive of me during this time. In my 1st Tri the cat scratched me and started to become very aggressive toward me, hissing etc. I asked him to remove the cat, but he felt as though it was a shared responsibility & didnt do anything about the cat. I couldnt because I didnt want to go near the cat in fear of getting scratched, plus it was his cat & I didnt want him resenting me. In my 3rd tri she attacked again, I got an infenction,had to go to the hospital-the doh was contacted & he wound up having to take off from work to handle the situation. His complaint was that he has to do everything. Since my 3rd tri he has done some of the grocery shopping to help, but refuses to pick up after himself around house. He doesnt understand how crazy this makes me and is verbally, emotionally abusive when i ask him to wash his dishes, saying i am a nag

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replied March 24th, 2010
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Hi, welcome to the ehealth forum and I am glad to help you.
You seem concerned by the emotional lability during pregnancy along with the feeling that your husband is not supportive and is emotionally and verbally abusing you.
Two main hormones, estrogen and progesterone cause mood swings during pregnancy. Emotions are always unstable and feeling of depression is normal as any other body changes during pregnancy. The third trimester is the most anxious one. This is the period when mother-to-be worries about everything and anything that she can think of. However her major cause of anxiety lies not just on the labour and delivery process but also in baby care and parenting in general. You might be feeling physically uncomfortable with the growth of the abdomen and may feel irritated with the lightest noise as you lack sleep in general. It may be more extreme if your partner is unresponsive to your special requirements during pregnancy as he may not realise that the mood swings are normal in pregnancy. However, if the mood swings of anxiety, sadness and anger continuously persist more than two weeks you must meet the practitioner. You may be suffering from depression that needs immediate care and attention called bipolar disorder. A survey states that untreated emotional health problems can affect your baby's physical well being and increase the risk of preterm labor and postpartum depression. Get treated with the right psychotherapy and medication for effective results.
Hope this helps. Take care.
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