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Trying for a baby at 16 (Page 1)

Im 16 and in 5months me and my boyfreind are planning for a baby,we have been 2gether for 8 months now and love eachover very much, Two months ago i feLl pregant and had and abortion because we wasn't ready yet, but we have been dicussing it and in 5months we want to plan for baby, I will be almost 17 by then.I know having a baby is alot of hard work and can be very tireing but i know i will be able to get through it,Also i know morning sickness is very horrible i had it before it was the worst thing in my life but i will go through it all agen just to have my baby (in 5 months) I know what people are going to say u got youre hole life ahead of you but im ready now, I no im young i wont be able to go out parties and clubbing but i would give it all up im 16 now and have done alot of stuff ive been to clubs ,house parties ,iv'e smoked weed a couple of times and used to drink every friday , ive had my fun lol but im just wondering how i would tell my mum in 5months time that i will be trying for a baby i will have enough money to support my baby also my boyfreind is 18 with a stable job , WHAT do you think ? ..... please reply so i can have other peoples opinians please xxxx
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First Helper x3tnsfj
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replied November 17th, 2009
No. Just, no.
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replied November 17th, 2009
well why not ? can i atleast have a reason ?
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replied November 17th, 2009
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At 16:
Risk of miscarriage 40%
Risk of serious reproductive damage 75%+ depending on health statistics, higher since you've previously aborted.
Risk of stillbirth 24%
Risk of dying on the operating table 18%. Bear in mind this is your dying, it's still very likely that your child will survive but your boyfriend is unlikely to get custody if you're not married.
Risk of Low Birth Weight and associated mental or physical disabilities 80%

These risks drop measurable when you're 17 and are virtually non-existent around 22. Your body is not physiologically ready to create a life.

Cost of childbirth in America: just under $100,000
Annual minimum household expenses for a family of 3 with a newborn: $35,000 - $70,000, with a special needs child those expenses could be half-again as expensive for additional medical expenses.
Average annual wages for a teenager without a high school diploma: approximately $9000, that assumes that full-time employment is even available, which it may not be in this economy.
Children of teen mothers face elevated risks of CIDS
Teen mothers face an elevated risk of Alcoholism.
Teem mothers are more likely to be accosted by child protected services.
Mothers pregnant at 16 have a less than 20% chance of finishing high school.
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replied November 17th, 2009
oi look ive already hear what uve sed before and i dont live in america ad i have finshed highschool n yes ur body can create a new life at that age and ill take my chances with youre % or wat eva Smile
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replied November 17th, 2009
im 16 and i just had a baby two months ago. i love being a mom its the greatest thing in the world and i think if you know you can handle the responsibility and know your ready to have a baby then go for it. i honestly dont think its that hard to take care of a baby i think its fun. but my only suggestion is that you wait till you get married to have a baby because the daddys sometimes change there mind and leave which happened to me.
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replied November 17th, 2009
thnx x3tnsfj Smile
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replied November 17th, 2009
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lolipopAngel wrote:
oi look ive already hear what uve sed before and i dont live in america ad i have finshed highschool n yes ur body can create a new life at that age and ill take my chances with youre % or wat eva Smile


You asked for reasons, I gave them to you. If Death Illness and Poverty don't motivate you, then by all means take on the consequences, we're not here to mother you. However please don't subject a helpless human being to live the kind of life you're contemplating when it can so easilly be avoided by taking your time to provide a good life for a child.
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replied November 18th, 2009
death and ill ness can happen to anyone and poverty wont be problem coz i will have enough money to support my child nd iwill be able to provide a goodlife for my child
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replied November 18th, 2009
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look lolipopAngel
You keep asking if this is a good idea in thread after thread and people keep telling you that death and misery lies ahead of you if you don't wait. If you don't want to listen to our advice for the love of GOD please stop posting questions. There are people who legitimately want direction in the life and aren't looking for someone that will endorse their desire to obliterate their life and the lives of all those around them. If you don't want advice get out of the way of people who do.
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replied November 18th, 2009
actualy ur the person i keep talking to thread aftah thread and theres onli been ne other person who sed no,ur reasons not to have one is quite poor and ur thery is wrong so get youre facts right before you try and scare people out of something, and for info this was actualy the onli thing question ive posted
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replied November 18th, 2009
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Excuse me? State census reguarding teen births for Pennsylvania Florida and Louisiana doesn't apply to you? Are you not a human being? Are you 16 in Dog years? because when a 16 year old human gets pregnant they face massive risks to health and put their child in danger. Additionally They don't have hundreds of thousands of dollars to provide adequate care without depending on parents or the state. You want straight facts take a the same grade-school level health class every other human on the planet has. You're not out of puberty, you body has not fully developed sexually, you are not prepared to successfully produce offspring and are unlikely to succeed in crerating a healthy child. It's not rocket science darling.
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replied November 18th, 2009
i was 15 when i got pregnant and my baby was perfectly healthy and so am i. anyone can have health risks from being pregnant it just depends on the person not there age.
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replied November 18th, 2009
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x3tnsfj
Medicine disagrees with you.
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replied November 19th, 2009
I totally agree with Wolf, the facts are right and y the hell you want to care for a child at a young age? You should be thinking about your future, career..

One day you'll get to deliver your baby once you are mentally, physically, financially stable!!

P/S:x3tnsfj, stop encouraging her! You screwed your life don't let others follow your footsteps! Being left alone to care for your child, is that how you want your child to be too? Having to grow up without the father.
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replied November 20th, 2009
You aren't even an adult yet. No matter how grown up and responsible you think you are, there's more to be learned. Foster who YOU are before creating another life. Obviously you have some doubts in your mind or you wouldn't be posting the original question/restlessly defending what you think would be fun or cute to do. And.. please work on your typing skills.
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replied November 21st, 2009
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lolipopAngel
You keep asking for advice and you keep complaining when you get it. Maybe this is your sign. Stop posting about this until you genuinely want information.
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replied November 21st, 2009
first of all...are u from nigeria? u spell just like nigerians..and why do u want to have a baby?? for u? ...or the daddy? or maybe the baby???? this is a stupid question...and you're just trying to get attention
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replied November 21st, 2009
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i had my son when i was 20 years old, i was making $26.k/yr, living in a $550.00 a month two bedroom apartment. i didnt have help from my family or child's father. it was so hard with daycare and going to work, it was hard when he got sick.

there was many days i cried to God because it was so hard.
the only 16 year olds i know that have kids tend to throw their kids to the grandparents.

in this economy there is no such thing as a stable job. and sarah palin's daughter shouldve taught you that it's not easy. she has a child and she's going to college.
if i was a therapist i would ask you do you think your missing something in your life, like lack of love and attention.
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replied November 21st, 2009
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how could it be fun taking care of a child when the father "skip town". no father, probably no child support.
i m 33 and my son is 13, and i love him to death but if i could start over again i would. i would try to do it the right way.
answer this question, if you think your ready for a baby why not wait until you get married since yall love each other.
actually i think your boyfriend should be put in jail for sleeping with a minor.
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