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ok, so ill admit to my pre-pervert status. Ever since probably 8th grade, ive been a frequent masterbater. I remember at first when i started to experiment, i could get turned on and get an erection from the simplest things. Ill admit, i probably jerked off at least once every two days, usuing mostly sites like red tube and what not, and now i find it extremely hard to get turned on by anything, videos or pictures, and it was all normal until this past january. I have acquired myself a girlfriend now, and when we would hook up, id be rock hard, but thats with my pants on. When my pants came off, my erection literally dissappeared. And ill admit to this one as well, i have the kind of dick that goes from like 1 and a half inches soft to about 6 inches hard, so there has to be a lot of blood being pumped to my dick for a full on erection. Even though i can get a ***** while we are hooking up, while shes not looking at it, its not at its full potential. I havent been able to get my full 6 inch erected dick for a while, i cant even remember the last time i did while watching porn. Im scared cause i dotn wanna have to use something like viagra for the rest of my life. Im 16 years old, i dont know what is wrong with me. I was thinking maybe i have become immune to porn and what not cause im so used to seeing it. I have stopped watching porn entirely, for about two months, and it hasnt really helped. When i was younger i could of thought about any random girl and achieve an erection. Now i cant send any blood to my dick by thinking about anything. Im really scared cause its embarrassing. I have talked to my girlfriend about this, and she always blames herself, and i feel terrible because all i wanna do is make love to her, but this problem is making it tough. Last night she was giving me a handjob from under the blankets, and id say i was pretty hard. But when she went to give me a ********, i lost my erection, I dont know why. I guess nerves have to effect this, like im nervous or something without realizing it, but that also doesnt explain how getting an erection when i wanna masterbate is really tough now, and i can never truely feel turned on any more, its really sad and pathetic, SOME BODY please help me, I know this has been extremely long and tedious to read, but i really need your help. Should i visit a doctor, i mean im only 16, this shouldnt be happening to me.
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replied May 18th, 2011
Hello and welcome to e health forum.

From the history given, it seems that your issues could be due to psychological causes (Stress and performance anxiety).

Good sex , needs a prepared and relaxed brain. When in stress or when self doubt takes over, the confidence and hence the performance drops.

The best sexual experience is when the couple is confident with their own body and sexuality as well as confident and are having a healthy sexual attraction towards their partner. When such a confidence builds in, then you will find that your issues will be solved.

Since you are able to have a erection with masturbation as well as other means, you might not be having a major cause of ED.

When you dont get erections, it means that your penis needs some time, to get active. This happens often in most males and is not a thing to worry. Probably you are not aroused completely or you are stressed out. In such a situation, instead of beating yourselves up, just relax and cuddle together, for some time.

Seek your partners help for complete stimulation (Mutual masturbation , oral sex, etc can help in sexual arousal).
Watching movies which promote sexual intimacy will also help.

Once you are properly rested and aroused, you will have proper strong erections, and have satisfactory sex.

You might consult your doctor or a sexologist, who can prescribe you medications like cialis and viagra, which when used for a couple of times will help you gain your confidence.

I hope this helps.
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