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Bfn :( Big Fat Negative on pregnancy test

Yep, my dh "forced me to take" a hpt and it was a bfn. Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad And he said something that broke my heart....He said, "Well I dont know why ur not prego but i know is not me, if you really loved me and want to have a baby with me then you should do something about it." I just stayed quiet because maybe its me the 1 with the problem...I cant do anything about it though Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad
I guess its just not time for us. I know that if i break down that its going to be worse so like i said b4 i am just blocking everything out. My dh asked me if i was ok and i told him that why would i be sad for something that i already knew...But inside i want to just break down and cry. If I am not pregnant then were is af???? Crying or Very sad Confused Life can be so cruel sometimes... i am not going to say God is cruel even though i prayed so hard yesterday. Well girls seems like this 10 months have been the worst 10 months of my life. ill be ok, i am a strong women and i am going to just wait it out.

Now i have more to be stressed about. I did gain weight so i have to get on a diet cause i dont feel good now. Something that is so funny though is that i actually thought something happened this month, but i guess is just not our time and there is nothing i can do about it. I am going to focus on things i can change and forget the things i cant change.
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replied May 16th, 2007
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I'm sorry about your bfn. But dont give up yet. Not until af shows.

How late are you now?

I'm sorry about your dh. Sometimes, they really don't think before they speak.~Big hug~. My dh said just this last weekend "are you ever going to get pregnant" Evil or Very Mad Like I wasn't trying or something. I asked him what the f he though we had be doing. And it hasn't even been that long. But I cried like a baby. All day. He will start thinking before he speaks now.

~Big hug~
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replied May 16th, 2007
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mc4ever02 wrote:
I'm sorry about your bfn. But dont give up yet. Not until af shows.

How late are you now?

I'm sorry about your dh. Sometimes, they really don't think before they speak.~Big hug~. My dh said just this last weekend "are you ever going to get pregnant" Evil or Very Mad Like I wasn't trying or something. I asked him what the f he though we had be doing. And it hasn't even been that long. But I cried like a baby. All day. He will start thinking before he speaks now.

~Big hug~


Thanx mc. I am still feeling a little blue but i'll be ok... I was supposed to get it when i spotted on the 2nd. I spotted on the 2nd and 3rd and thats it. I cant wait till the end of the month that way i can go the dr. and get the ck up and also request more tests done. Also i was going to make an appointment at a acupuncture clinic to see what they could do for me so i guess i am excited about that. I am hoping there is nothing big and bad happening with me because i am so ready to be a mom and make my dh a father again.
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replied May 16th, 2007
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It's good your going to the doctor soon. Hopefully, they will do a blood test while you are there. Do you already have the appt set?
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replied May 16th, 2007
Don't let you dh get you down, men have no clue about how we feel or what we go thru when it is something like this. They just see it as no big deal most of the time, when it happens it will happen and that's it.
Me and my dh have been trying for almost 3 yrs, we have done the testing, the iui's, the clomid, the scheduled um sessions, all to no avail. The more I read of you other women going thru the same things me and my dh are the less alone i feel.
I'm sorry your husbands can be so insensitive, but hey they're men right.
Me and my dh, well more me cause i just cant take it no more, have decided to stop trying and just concentrate on other things I will be going back to school for my degree, and in the meantime we will just be more prepared when we do get pregnant.
Point is don't let him get you down and don't worry that a problem could be with you, its unfortunately likely that there isn't anything wrong except unexplained infertility like soooooo many women have. Hey my mom had it her and my dad tried for 7 yrs to get pregnant, went to drs and everything no reason for it just not happening, then when they were about to adopt she got preg with my bro, then stayed pregnant for the next 4 yrs til drs advised her she shouldnt have anymore they caused to much strain on her. So me and my dh are just hoping it wont take as long as her but once we start it will be easier.
So you just have to hang in there.
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replied May 16th, 2007
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Lele316 wrote:
Don't let you dh get you down, men have no clue about how we feel or what we go thru when it is something like this. They just see it as no big deal most of the time, when it happens it will happen and that's it.
Me and my dh have been trying for almost 3 yrs, we have done the testing, the iui's, the clomid, the scheduled um sessions, all to no avail. The more I read of you other women going thru the same things me and my dh are the less alone i feel.
I'm sorry your husbands can be so insensitive, but hey they're men right.
Me and my dh, well more me cause i just cant take it no more, have decided to stop trying and just concentrate on other things I will be going back to school for my degree, and in the meantime we will just be more prepared when we do get pregnant.
Point is don't let him get you down and don't worry that a problem could be with you, its unfortunately likely that there isn't anything wrong except unexplained infertility like soooooo many women have. Hey my mom had it her and my dad tried for 7 yrs to get pregnant, went to drs and everything no reason for it just not happening, then when they were about to adopt she got preg with my bro, then stayed pregnant for the next 4 yrs til drs advised her she shouldnt have anymore they caused to much strain on her. So me and my dh are just hoping it wont take as long as her but once we start it will be easier.
So you just have to hang in there.


Thanx i really appreciate the support. I am trying to hang in there. You try and hang in there as well. Baby dust to us. Crying or Very sad
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replied May 16th, 2007
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I am sorry that your hubby is being so insensitive, has he been tested? It is good to know that you are doing everything in your power. I got pregnant after I quit trying too as sometimes stress does not help. I wish you the best and know that we are here for you! Please, try not to let him get to you even though I know that it is easier said than done as someone said before, men are men.
Baby dust to you!
Hugz!
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replied May 16th, 2007
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Like everyone else has said, don't let your hubby get you down. Men just do not know the best things to say at the best moments. The truth is that it could very well be him that has the problem. He might not have very good swimmers. All kinds of things can affect his spermies, like
smoking (anything), drinking, prescription pills, his package being to hot. There is a whole lot of things that could be causing this and you won't know until you go to the doctor.

It isn't the end of the world sweetie, we are always here to talk to if you need us. Just try to stay positive and busy until you get to go to your doctor at the end of the month. Chances are they might refer you to a specialist without you being at that 12 month mark.

Keep your faith. It will happen one day for all of us.
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replied May 16th, 2007
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Hi
wantingajr,
honey I am sorry for the bfn and men in general. You are not alone and men just don't get it. Hang in there and do something special for yourself. You will be ok...We all will be ok one way or another. I am still waitng for my results too, cause I may be misscarrying.

Think positive thoughts and be good to you. you are so pretty and should not worry about a few pounds. I know it's easier said than doen, but we are all here for you. big hug
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replied May 17th, 2007
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negar wrote:
wantingajr,
honey I am sorry for the bfn and men in general. You are not alone and men just don't get it. Hang in there and do something special for yourself. You will be ok...We all will be ok one way or another. I am still waitng for my results too, cause I may be misscarrying.

Think positive thoughts and be good to you. you are so pretty and should not worry about a few pounds. I know it's easier said than doen, but we are all here for you. big hug


thank you negar. I am hanging in there (i try). I am trying so hard not to break down and like you said i am going to do something for myself. Maybe I go to the beach in corpus christy this weekend. I really, really hope u dont miscarry. I am keeping you in my prayers. **sticky baby dust to you**


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replied May 18th, 2007
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Like everyone else has said, don't let your hubby get you down. Men just do not know the best things to say at the best moments. The truth is that it could very well be him that has the problem. He might not have very good swimmers. All kinds of things can affect his spermies, like
smoking (anything), drinking, prescription pills, his package being to hot. There is a whole lot of things that could be causing this and you won't know until you go to the doctor.

It isn't the end of the world sweetie, we are always here to talk to if you need us. Just try to stay positive and busy until you get to go to your doctor at the end of the month. Chances are they might refer you to a specialist without you being at that 12 month mark.

Keep your faith. It will happen one day for all of us.


its so hard to keep the faith when every month i get a bfn ya know. Well i am trying to no loose it. Thanx!
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