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Dh Is So Not Understanding!!!

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i am so frustrated! i am almost 10 weeks now, and i have no desire whatsover to be sexual at all. i have been told this is very normal. he is getting upset because i don't want to be bothered with anything like that most of the time. i just feel tired and bloated and like i just want to sit without someone coming on to me. i know that might sound cold, which he said i am cold and distant, but i can't help it! how can i get him to understand how i feel right now??? am i crazy?? i have done other stuff for him just not actual sex. advice please!
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replied February 25th, 2007
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i lost all sexual desire and now i have a 9 month old and still never feel like it.. sometimes i have to force myself because otherwise our relationshipt would turn to sh*t .
my bf doesnt understand it either.
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replied February 25th, 2007
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he sounds like a jerk. if he's mad at you because you don't feel like having sex, then that's ridiculous. you're carrying his baby. you're going through so many changes & he should be supportive of you. pregnancy isn't easy. & .it's completely normal to lose your sex drive. it isn't fair that he's angry with you for not wanting to have sex with him. i hate men like that. sex is important in a relationship, of course. but for him to get angry..
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replied February 25th, 2007
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that is funny, i have had that jerk response from other people!
i just wish he would understand that it isn't because i don't want him but i just don't want anything at all, ever! anytime my hormones are messed with i lose my sex drive completely. the clomid did it to me too, but not this bad. i am glad that the pregnant ladies know how i feel or i would feel like i was the crazy one! i think he just doesn't like being rejected all the time. and that is understandable but i still can't change it. and i don't want to lay there like a lump either!
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replied February 25th, 2007
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I am 14 weeks and have no desire either. I am hoping that as I get further along I maybe will because I feel so bad for my dh. He tries sometimes but I have to say no (mainly because I have been getting infections) and he just gets a sad puppy dog look and I feel terrible. He says that he feels like he is single again only he has to sleep next to the girl that he has a crush on. Oh well, I am trying to make him feel better so I told him he could pick out the boy's name. Unfortunately he chose the name Titus. Oh boy, I am praying for a girl!
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replied February 25th, 2007
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i had a small drive when i was preggy, but now that im not preggy i dont really have one, i miss it.... shawn misses it too... i wish it came back
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replied February 25th, 2007
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I was the complete opposite when I was pregnant. I think if anything, I was hornier Laughing

.Michelle
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replied February 25th, 2007
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It's worse when you are instructed to not have sex by your doctor due to pregnancy.

Now even if you didn't have a desire before, the mere thought of not being able to makes you want it all the time. Imagine - around 9 months no sex...crap!!!
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replied February 25th, 2007
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i had nooooo drive at all for most of my pregnancy. but ever since .i've been like 27wks or so, my sex drive has been offfff the hook. it's even worse because .chris is scared to have sex. he keeps thinking that my water is going to break all over his winky. Rolling Eyes Laughing
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replied February 26th, 2007
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arcadia wrote:
i had nooooo drive at all for most of my pregnancy. but ever since .i've been like 27wks or so, my sex drive has been offfff the hook. it's even worse because .chris is scared to have sex. he keeps thinking that my water is going to break all over his winky. Rolling Eyes Laughing


Laughing My husband was like that, too.
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replied February 26th, 2007
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i hope mine does come back at least a little. thanks everyone for letting me know i am not alone! i think he just needs to realize how it is with a pregnant girl! it is still annoying though!
i went to the Dr today and my baby has arms! hooray!
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