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How to Prevent Tearing During Childbirth (Page 1)

Hi, although i'm not pregnant I am ttc, and I am very anxious of tearing during childbirth, I have heard many stories about the tear not healing properly and painful scar tissue.


So, is there a way to avoid tearing, is there a certian technique, or a certain way to push.

Eta: also those of you who did tear during childbirth what was the recovery like?

Tia

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replied August 14th, 2006
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My doctor used a "new technique"..Not really sure what it is called but she massaged me down there the whole time I was pushing ..She told me that it helps you relax and streches the hole wider in order for the babys head to slide on through easily...Although I did end up with 3 stiches ...I never felt or had trouble with them..The only thing that ended up causing me trouble after having my son was my hemroids(sp)...Those things were horrible..--and I hardly could sit down because of them...But babys are wonderful gifts and in the end its worth all the pain ...And you'll look back and be glad!...


Good luck...!!
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replied August 14th, 2006
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I dont think there is a way to prevent tearing or a special way to push. It has nothing to do with the way you push........It depends on you, your size, the baby's size.......If there is some new thing im not awre of ladies share! Besides the massage!
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replied August 14th, 2006
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Tearing was, by far easier than the episiotomy I had. That was awful! The tear was quite small compared.

Your doctor / midwife can talk to you about techniques to use - like pushing slowly when the head/shoulders are coming out. Using mineral oil as a perinatal massage. I don't think this works leading up to birth, use it during birth. However, I could be wrong on the leading up to birth part.

By the time you are that far, you won't care - that is the truth. You will have been through approximately 40 weeks of weight gain, puking, breast tenderness, heartburn, stomach upset, constipation, constant peeing, irritable hormones, crying hormones, weight gain, greasy skin - or dry skin, greasy hair - or dry hair, stretch marks, shifts in balance, no sleep, restless leg syndrome and/or cramps in your legs, wiggly baby from the inside, too small of a bladder, etc, etc, etc.

By the time you get to birth you are like, ".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y! Let's get this baby outta here!" ;)
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ingi wrote:
restless leg syndrome and/or cramps in your legs, wiggly baby from the inside, too small of a bladder, etc, etc, etc.


By the time you get to birth you are like, ".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y! Let's get this baby outta here!" ;)
hey,how early can the leg cramp thing start?
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replied August 14th, 2006
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melissa_20 wrote:
ingi wrote:
restless leg syndrome and/or cramps in your legs, wiggly baby from the inside, too small of a bladder, etc, etc, etc.



By the time you get to birth you are like, ".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y! Let's get this baby outta here!" ;)
hey,how early can the leg cramp thing start?


mel, they can start right away! Some women actually say it was one of their pregnancy indications.
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replied August 15th, 2006
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Ok im not sure if this actually helps but ive been trying it...I was given advice from my friend who said it works anyway. If you massage vaseline down below where the tearing could occur, it apparently softens it and makes it less likely to tear. Ive stopped doing it now that ive got to put my thrush cream on, but its worth a try
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Rose, .I've heard that actually does work. My doctor told me it may seem weird, but massaging that spot can actually help, because it increases the elasticity. Anything is worth a try. Especially if you have a ridiculously tiny vagina like me! :p
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replied August 15th, 2006
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emma2 wrote:
melissa_20 wrote:
ingi wrote:
restless leg syndrome and/or cramps in your legs, wiggly baby from the inside, too small of a bladder, etc, etc, etc.




By the time you get to birth you are like, ".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y! Let's get this baby outta here!" ;)
hey,how early can the leg cramp thing start?


mel, they can start right away! Some women actually say it was one of their pregnancy indications.
omg,are you seri? Lol I woke up with a massive leg cramp in my right leg yesterday and its barely gone now. Its in the back of my leg.
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rose, .I've heard that actually does work. My doctor told me it may seem weird, but massaging that spot can actually help, because it increases the elasticity. Anything is worth a try. Especially if you have a ridiculously tiny vagina like me! :p

ive stopped doing that now since ive had to put my thrush cream on four times a day, but thats still massaging the area isnt it? Im scared of it tearing since I have the same problem
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replied August 15th, 2006
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Yeah .I'd say it'd still help, .Rose.
I'm terrified, too. I'm seriously so small.
It's really hard for .Chris to get inside me after
we don't have sex for 2 days. :shock:
&.It hurts me pretty bad.
Sometimes even fingering hurts.
Yikes.
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replied May 6th, 2012
Sounds like you need to use lubrication.
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ingi wrote:
tearing was, by far easier than the episiotomy I had. That was awful! The tear was quite small compared.


Your doctor / midwife can talk to you about techniques to use - like pushing slowly when the head/shoulders are coming out. Using mineral oil as a perinatal massage. I don't think this works leading up to birth, use it during birth. However, I could be wrong on the leading up to birth part.


By the time you are that far, you won't care - that is the truth. You will have been through approximately 40 weeks of weight gain, puking, breast tenderness, heartburn, stomach upset, constipation, constant peeing, irritable hormones, crying hormones, weight gain, greasy skin - or dry skin, greasy hair - or dry hair, stretch marks, shifts in balance, no sleep, restless leg syndrome and/or cramps in your legs, wiggly baby from the inside, too small of a bladder, etc, etc, etc.


By the time you get to birth you are like, ".F.I.N.A.L.L.Y! Let's get this baby outta here!" ;)


ingi's telling the truth, you truly don't care. Besides all the preggo complaints you just get sick of being in labor. The head is the worst part. Afterwards the shoulders and the rest of the body feel like a relief. You seriously don't even notice you're just glad it's over. I had a some stitches and while the area hurts afterward it's not intolerable pain. And the sitz baths and dermoplast really help the second day. Just buy one of those butt donuts and remember firm chairs are better than soft ones when it's time to get up!
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arcadia wrote:
yeah .I'd say it'd still help, .Rose.

I'm terrified, too. I'm seriously so small.

It's really hard for .Chris to get inside me after
we don't have sex for 2 days. :shock:
&.It hurts me pretty bad.

Sometimes even fingering hurts.

Yikes.

i get the exact same problem which is really frustrating. It hurts alot more having sex during pregnancy with me because I am never really in the mood and go weeks without having sex and it hurts when it comes down to it. I guess we wont really notice when the baby comes because we will just want it to be over and with the pain afterwards, we wont care then either because all well be thinking about is our babies.
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replied June 30th, 2012
im also in the same situation.im too tiny for ma husband to penetrate and im not in the moods at all coz i take like months without having sex.and when we do ,i feel so terrible pain coz he cant get through so easily.im so worried about the stitches coz of my first experience with.infact im worried of going for labor since it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me
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rosejackson wrote:
ok im not sure if this actually helps but ive been trying it...I was given advice from my friend who said it works anyway. If you massage vaseline down below where the tearing could occur, it apparently softens it and makes it less likely to tear. Ive stopped doing it now that ive got to put my thrush cream on, but its worth a try


this is called perineal massage and is practiced all the time during delivery.

Http://en.Wikipedia.Org/wiki/perineal_mass age
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rosejackson wrote:
arcadia wrote:
yeah .I'd say it'd still help, .Rose.


I'm terrified, too. I'm seriously so small.


It's really hard for .Chris to get inside me after
we don't have sex for 2 days. :shock:
&.It hurts me pretty bad.


Sometimes even fingering hurts.


Yikes.

i get the exact same problem which is really frustrating. It hurts alot more having sex during pregnancy with me because I am never really in the mood and go weeks without having sex and it hurts when it comes down to it. I guess we wont really notice when the baby comes because we will just want it to be over and with the pain afterwards, we wont care then either because all well be thinking about is our babies.



are you having twins rose?
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replied June 13th, 2009
It really hurts to tear but its over in a second and afterwards I never have stitches and am in a lot of pain for weeks after, but im sure it would be more tolerable if you had stitches. After my 2nd i had to pee in the bath for a month! im terrified of tearing again with my 3rd so am gonna try the perenial massage, its the only thiing I can find which is meant to help! Good luck all!!
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replied July 20th, 2009
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Thats crazy I've never heard of not being stichted up afterwards! It's my first time being PG so im trying to learn everything I can....I'm terrified of ripping my friend tore all the way to her butt, What was the reason they didnt stitch you???
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replied July 22nd, 2009
I'm 11 days away from my second child, with my first the doctor had to use forceps and i tore from the inside out. I am so scared of this happening again. it was very painful and the scar still hurts from time to time, and after sex. It has definently killed my sex drive in some ways.. just knowing its going to hurt afterwards is enough to make me second guess doing it. I dont know of any ways to prevent it tho, i think overall it really depends on the size of the baby, my first was only 6.9 but he had a huge head!
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replied November 11th, 2009
With my first child I had grazes rather than actually tearing so I was not stitched and it hurt when I went to the toilet for about 2 weeks and had to pee in the bath. It did hurt alot and I think it had a part in the reason why I suffered from post natal depression. But once it healed all went back to normal and Ive have a second child and luckily I did not tear or graze at all and so I had no pain at all after birth. Im 27 weeks pregnant with a third (must be a nutter) and am scared of tearing as I have 2 other children to care for and do not think I can cope with that type of pain again. Think I will try the masssage gel. I didnt feel pain while giving birth as I had an epidural but it was the after pain that I felt. Wish there was something out there to prevent this!!!
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replied December 15th, 2009
I tore horribly with my first- 8 lbs 6 oz all head!!! The doc gave me a spray bottle that actually helped with the pain. Can't remember exactly- it was 20 years ago, but maybe it numbed it? Just used it when I peed. But they are all right, you won't be thinking about it. You will be too focused on your new bundle of joy. Good luck.
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