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My Family Wants Me to Abort (Page 2)

Should I keep the baby?
Keep it
Keeping it would be selfish
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February 4th, 2006
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You ask if it would be "selfish" to have the baby. Of course it would -- but there is absolutely nothing wrong with being selfish. You are the only person whose interests matter in this right now, and if you feel you are able to cope, and even if you need to make a few adjustments to your plans and lifestyle that these are ones you are willing to make, then it is absolutely no one else's opinions on this that matter. Just as no one should force you to have the baby because *they* say it's what you should do, no one should have any say in it if you decide it's what you want.
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replied February 4th, 2006
I think you should try not to think about what anybody else wants and think about your life with a child. Then think about your life without a child. Both circumstances will be hard. But the question is what do you want?
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replied February 4th, 2006
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Exactly do what you want to do, and what you are able to do. Do not expect anyone to help you, make a list and plans on how you will be able to do this alone.(if need be) this is about you and what you want, but no matter what you choose it can be hard.
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replied February 13th, 2006
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When I was pregnant and contemplating abortion, the best advice I was given was to not listen to anyone but yourself. Your family will be there for you not matter what, they love you and in their own way they probably think they are looking out for you but in relatilty they arent!
Parents arent always right and in this case they should be listening to you and telling you that it is your decision whether you want to keep the baby or not. Having an abortion does not make it go away (i'm sitting here three years on still regretting mine every day!). If you have an abortion you need to know that your decision is 100%! My family coerced me into having an abortion and since then things have not been the same with my family.

You need to do what is right for you, if you want the baby, go for it!

Good luck in your choices!
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replied February 20th, 2006
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Re: My Family Wants Me to Abort
slp wrote:
i am almost 22, I have 1.5 years left in college. I am 4 weeks pregnant. The father is supportive -- he says that he will be supportive of whatever decision I choose, and he will not give me his opinion because he doesn't want to sway me either way. We talk about the pros and cons of raising the child, adoption and abortion, but he realizes it is ultimately my decision. My family, however, believes that I should have an abortion. I've always wanted a child, but I do realize that having 1.5 years left of school is not the best time to have one. I hope that the father will be there, he says he will be there, but life is funny and who knows what will happen. My family thinks that it will be selfish of me to keep this child when it will effect everyone else. I just moved back into my parents house. They feel like I won't be able to give him/her the best first years that it deserves. I know that I would give this baby everything it needs. I want to keep it. What should I do?


the last thing you have wrote on this post is 'i want to keep it, what should I do' by putting this I think you have answered the question yourself. If you want it keep it! You will have so much bitterness and resentment towards your family if you dont, and your boyfriend says he'll stand by you right?
With unplanned pregnancys mums + dads have a tendancy to get alittle mad at the beginning maybe theres a chance they will calm down, your 22 so it could have been worse. The most important thing is that you do what you want to do, good luck with everything!
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replied February 20th, 2006
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Never have an abortion because someone else "thinks it's best". You should only have one if you are certain that it's right for your situation.
As difficult as it may be, stand up to your family and tell them you're having your baby
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replied March 19th, 2006
Hi, I recently found out I was pregnant and had an abortion only becoz my bf n family wanted me to. You have to make the decision thats right for you and trust me I looked at every web site and read every post on all these sites and all them told me to go with what I wanted, and I didnt. The only advice I can give you is do what you want and only you!! I hate myself now for feeling pressured into making a decision I 100% didnt want from the start. The worst part of it is afterwards, maybe not the first week but the weeks after when you walk into a shopping centre and see pregnant women everywhere and little babies, and realise what you could have had. But on the other hand I know some girls who have no problem at all with the emotional side of having had an abortion so it depends on what you decide, they all made the decision themselves right from the start.
I cant stress enough that you need to do what you think is best =)
if you need to talk pm me.
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replied May 5th, 2006
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Jess
I listerened to my parents when they said abort I did an I resent my parent for taking away my child its your body your baby your life
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