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What's the Point In Living (Page 3)


March 2nd, 2010
huntingmay and all the others. Most everyone feels like life isn't worth living at one time or another. It's worse for victims of abuse and neglect. So, what do you do about it? First, please, please consider that you were put on this planet for a positive reason. Not everyone has an exalted purpose, but we all have the ability to give to others what we wish we had for ourselves. Please consider looking for meaning in anything that ever meant much to you: (non-betraying) friends, music, art, sports, sharing your cultural identity with others of the same heritage, even a religious affiliation where you feel comfortable. Otherwise, if you've got your physical health, you're already well on your way to emotional health. This is just my personal philosophy, however, I BELIEVE WE LIVE FOR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER PEOPLE. I enjoy learning about others, what makes them tick. I especially love to hear the laughter of children and watch their faces light up when they receive some positive attention. I've endured a massive amounts of abuse, "friends" betrayal, battering boyfriends and bully bosses. I never mistreated anyone, yet I got all this nonsense from others. My mother never spoke unless she was criticizing. I'd have given up years ago except that I decided since I possess such perfect love for the innocent children of the world, that I am a person who deserves to share this beautiful planet; I won't let others take that from me. Please, please look for the good in others and in yourself. PLEASE FEEL BETTER.
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replied March 2nd, 2010
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Colonialgirl has given you a very nice answer.

And I would add that just because you don't see any point in living, it doesn't mean none exists. In reality, there is far more to life than what meets the eye.

"I know for a fact that my mom considered abortion, why the f*ck didn't she do it."

Well, that may be one of the reasons you feel the way you feel. Such things always affect us on a deeper level. But it is possible to successfully deal with it. There are so many wonderful possibilities in this world you are not even aware of yet.

What might be of great help, are Doreen Virtue's books for example. Even if you take them as some fantasy, they are so charged with Love and beauty that you may find yourself looking at life from an entirely different perspective, reading them.

Merrick
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replied March 5th, 2010
What's the point in living? There is no point.
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replied March 5th, 2010
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Whats the point of having a point, or several points even. You endlessly struggle to achieve the point, and then once you get to the point, there isn't anything beyond that point. I suppose we could simply invent points, but that isn't any fun, you would be doing that forever, provided you exist forever.

Like, if the point of life was to learn everything that can be learned what do you do after that, are there an endless amount of points.

I think that if there was a point, this would be just as bad.

It isn't whether or not there is a point that makes this stupid, it is painful and morbid and strange and cruel, thats what makes this stupid. If this was painless, in my opinion anyway, there would be much more of a point to it.

I believe that if life was perfect, there may still be absolutely no point. You would just simply be okay.
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replied March 6th, 2010
i think that eminem says it best in his song beautiful. he says you need to spend some time in my mind. and i'll spend some time in yours. the truth of life is that we never truly know how much pain, hurt, misery or sadness another person is really feeling. We feel that we can relate but since we all see the world differently we can never know.

And another thing that is a big no no is to tell a suicidal person to stop being selfish and suck it up, and he needs to be thankful. he's already feeling terrible, making him now feel that not only is he worthless but he can tack on ungrateful to that list of all the things he already feels he is not is not smart.

The truth and point of living is that there is no point and we are here to live the best we can and to build relationships and try to fill our hearts and mind with love. Which i must agree with the statement made by another user. In our society today it is very difficult to see that since we love drama and negativity. it's poisoned the minds of americans.

I also do believe that pills are pushed too much. I was watching commercial and it says are u depressed and taking a anti-depressant and it's not working. well here take this one with that one and it will help. Brainwashing junk is what those commercials are. They convince u that if u r sad take this lil pill and u will be happy. it's bs. u take them then can't get off is the truth that no one tells u. i have suffered with manic depression for years. I took pills for a long time only to find myself wanting to get off. and not being able to.

Sadly there is no point to life. we all creating our own. christians will tell u that jesus is the answer. buddhists will tell u that love and being at one with yourself and nature is the answer. an atheist may say life is just life so deal with it. sad and unsatisfying fact is life is only meaningful if you want it to be.

I hope you get better buddy. create purpose in ur life or the darkness will consume your heart mind and soul. there is light amidst all the darkness.
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replied March 9th, 2010
Some people can see life for what it really is. Others are oblivious. The former suffer from depression, the latter don't. Having seen people from all walks of life suffer, or not suffer from depression, it seems that some of us have a genetic predisposition to be able to see too much.

Humankind is going through a cognitive natural selection process whereby the most successful humans will be those who can naturally block out most of reality and subsequently feel happy.

I have noted a couple of statements such as "I don't care if I die" being met with criticism for supposedly being "selfish statements". These statements are considered selfish by 'happy people' because it interferes with their otherwise happy lives, which they don't want it to, because they are the ones who are selfish. Infact, these critical happy people are so appallingly selfish that they don't even want this minor glimpse into how a depressed person feels every single day.

There is no cure for depression. Those who are depressed are medicated, counselled, etc. just to keep them in the game so they don't adversely affect the lives of happy people by making 'negative' statements or killing themselves. As long as depressed people stay alive and suffer in silence, happy people remain happy.
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replied March 10th, 2010
What is the point of living?
There is NO deeper meaning of living, it is not different as if animals or plants would ask what is the point of living. It is nature, you live because somebody created a new live by having sex. You are a product of this and nothing more. It is useless to ask yourself why you are here, because this is a random act and no more. I had asked myself that question over and over again, and had wished so many times that my parents would not have "created" me, but somebody else, maybe a different egg could have been fertilized, leading to a different being and not I.
Again same process as with animals, they are just born, no reason other than to keep the species going, or we humans make them breed to profit from them. Actually that is done today with humans already too, paying for somebody else to carry "your" child.
If we would still live in earlier times, nature would let us die, either at birth, because we are to weak, or later when we get old or in between with healt problems.
Instead we are now holding on to our life (most people) and try to prolong it against nature. Women who cannot have children, mess with nature to get them. Why, not because there is a meaning to life, it is to satisfy their own desires.
I am getting increasingly more tired of living since I move on in years, but had always question it, only to come to the answer I explained above. We have to deal with this one way or the other, nobody is special, some are leaders and some are not, again, look around animals, is the same there. In nature the strong animals breed, because they provide for their offspring. With humans it became more a question, who is the best provider, not the strongest but the riches have a better chance to spread their genes.

I have to agree with Jazzy so and recomend not to take any anti depression medication, because of the horrible side effects. Besides you are not changing anything, but you only numb your feelings and your brain, your problems are still there. You could do the same with drinking and illegal drugs, no real difference.
If you really care about your own life somehow, you would do what Jazzy suggested, work on your will power and things will change, it takes time and effort.

Of course there are people who do not want to really change, it is just to much work and the question comes up again, "What is the point in living" what is actually so great about it? Sorry I cannot answer that one either, please do not answer with any religion, that is not an explanation. Religion is only based on peoples believe and can help some people to deal with life and maybe find a meaning for them to continue. This does not prove it is really so, it is a mind drug influenzing peoples view and helps some of them to like and deal with life. Well whatever works for them, as long as nobody thinks everybody has to have such believes, or they will be "punished". I guess I did not really have a question, just stated an opinion no more.
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replied March 15th, 2010
I have a lot of depression, so I got a dog. Bruno my German shepard, Protector and most trustworthy friend in the world. I have found that talking to him (even thogh he can't talk back) I relive a lot of pain and thoughts of suicide. I know he'd never want to see me hurt. Iv'e shed many tears with bruno and he always licks them up Smile Not saying that you should get a dog. But it has allowed me to express myself aloud.
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replied March 16th, 2010
when ever u'r depressed u have him ..
when ever u'r sad u have him ..
when ever u'r happy u have him ..
when ever u cry u have him to lean on..
when ever u have secrets that can be shared with no one ,, u have him...
u talk to him endlessly yet he doesn't complain ,,
u wonder who's that amazing person ?! he is amazing isn't he !
he is "ALLAH" god !!
if u follow him and what asks u in the holly Qur'an , u'll find true happiness because u find u'r self truly living with a purpose to make u go on in this life !! to push u even harder !!
so don't say that ! u'r blessed in many ways that u cant even imagine ,, and no matter how simple u'r life is it is very precious cause u'r living it !!
try to respect and love u'r self say U R AMAZING because it is true !
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replied April 16th, 2010
What''s the point of anti-depressants they''re just a mask that numbs the pain but dosn''t make it go away. i have the same thoughts to i feel i have no purpose in life i don''t know who i can really trust and my girlfriends deserves better than me i just don''t know wether to end it or just run away from it all...
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replied April 23rd, 2010
What is the point. we are all just little specks. i dont matter. there are 1000000000000s of people better than me. Whats the point of doctors we all end up maggot food in the end.We go through a slow decline. its like we start ot vibrent and full of lif then in the end we start getting old and some of us forget everything and its like nothing in our lives ever happened.
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replied April 23rd, 2010
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whether you think so or not you impact other people you come into contact with in your life, life is precious it is definitely worth living, yes we all end up "maggot food" as you say but this is your one and only life, live it fully, take advantage of it, make a difference...aging is just a part of life but as you grow older there is plenty to look forward to, marriage, kids, grandkids, vacations, etc...your life is what you make of it...don't let it pass you by..
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replied August 12th, 2010
anger and depression
hello i am new here. basically this is my problem my parents got divorced when i was born so i lived with my dad. my father and stepmother hated me and screwed me up badly in the head. since they were always nasty to me i was always angry my whole life and i could not vent this anger or else i was beat badly. so after years and years of being abused and living in anger with hate in my heart i finally achieved my dream and moved out when i turned 18. however even tho i am in a better place i cannot get rid of my anger the slightest things set me off the girl i have been dateing for 4 years is ready to leave me becuz most days i cant take a simple joke and im always angry and yelling at her. i love her deeply and dont want to lose her. ive recently been considering suicide to stop my pain. wat should i do? thank you for taking the time to read this. mikie
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replied August 12th, 2010
In either emo/spirituality, you/anyone may be healed/receive healing. This is called "redemption," and often applies to people whose emotions/love feelings have been betrayed/hurt, or who are suffering a "dark night of the soul" (re spiritual).

It tends to be the case that strong shocks to one's emotions/spirituality are followed by "endorphin flattening"--boredom, ennui, etc. These are often healed by time, by activities such as regular walks in nature, having a pet, helping others, seeking counseling and being counseled, hobbies such as good music, etc.







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replied August 21st, 2010
On the topic
Eat, drink, and be merry...for tomorrow we'll die. Smile
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replied September 10th, 2010
You're not alone.
I don't know what to tell you...I'm 13 now and I've been depressed since I was ten. My mom made me see a councilor but I convinced her I was fine =/
I have a dysfunctional family and my brother hurts me both verbally and physically, but I fight back and it makes him look like the victim to my mother. My brother always tells me to shut up whenever I try and speak to him and tell him that what he does bugs me, but my mom always takes his side, and my dad is away a lot. I'm always the one to blame and I'm sick of it. I tried to suffocate myself, wrap a cord around my neck and strangle myself, and drown myself in a pool, but I decided I want to live and I want to be free of this family chaining me down... I tried to run away but I'm smarter than that...
Just understand that others feel your pain.
Pain may come in different waves but it's all made of the same water.
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replied September 12th, 2010
There are times in our lives where we simply cannot bear to think about the future, because it seems as though noone will ever understand; As if you'll be alone forever.

I felt like this a year ago, but something happened to me that changed my whole view on life. I fell in love with a person who -understood-... I grew, mentally and spiritually, because of that.. Which is why, when I found out she loved someone else, I survived. I knew there were others, and I knew I'd eventually find more people who would be like me, whom I could share with my deepest feelings. I look forwards to that now, and though at times sadness grips me, it's power has faded; I have become anew.
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replied September 12th, 2010
depression
Wow...did anyone ever hear of therapy? Some of you are just feeding off of eachothers misery. That does not make it right..Ive been in dark places, at rock bottom, as many people have. There is always a reason to live, and you are not alone...Try praying, try reading, try bettering yourself...try finding someone to listen...if you have no one then try writing down everything you feel..and if you have to, throw it away after you write in down...at least you are getting it out..I cant stand when people say there is no point in living...there is always a point...no matter how terrible life got for me and how hard it was to just breathe, I never thought about ending my life...its a gift that I have no right to take...and neither do you...there are so many people and programs out there to help you...but you have to look for them...dont sit around drowning in your sorrows...get up and help yourself..move on and away from what is bringing you down...im only speaking from experience, believe me.....
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replied October 17th, 2010
Know what would help?
Hey there people! I just came across this website doing some research for a school project. I'm wondering if anyone who has writen about feeling like commiting suicied would be able to tell me what if anything anyone could do or say to change your mind? I'm in school to be a social worker/child and youth care worker. I myself have been depressed and when I was a teenager considered suicide due to abuse. When you're a teenager no one seems to take you seriously though and I think that this could lead to something more serious. I'm just curious to know if the people that are that depressed and seriously considering suicide know what or who or how someone could help them?
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replied November 5th, 2010
Science has taken away belief in god and so now we are nothing just carbon based life forms surviving on this planet but we must continue on with life because someday the meaning will come to you but untill you find your meaning maybe just try to find peace in knowing that there must be some meaning to life. I do not know what it is but there has to be meaning. Life is far to complicated to be without a purpose. Untill you find your purpose please try to do no harm to yourself or others. If you can not find happiness try to find peace.
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