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February 25th, 2009
I am now 36 male.I have suffered depression from since about age 4.I still shock myself that I am still alive.I have no friends,fsmily,massive debts,no career.Depression prvents you from progressing in life, everyday is a struggle.I do all the usual things ie. exercise,ate healthy,avoid cigarettes etc. Its like i am preserving a body but the mind/soul wants to die.I have nothing to life for.Love does not exist, the whole world is greed,lies and no one care.
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replied February 26th, 2009
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life is meaningless because we die all we can do is try to extract pleasures, if we can ?? really even the point of birth or being alive is pointless over all, since everyone dies anyway it's only pointfull until u die, when you die nothing means anything to you, but i have to live since i'm born ? so yeah , you just have to which sucks for me and others and for others it mighte suck more etc etc.
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replied March 18th, 2009
stress / depression
hello, im 22 and wanting a little help from somebody.
it all started on saturday when i lost my temper, everytime someone talked i cryed and made sill noises, has the day got on i had an headake asked my partner for something bt because he dint answer i went up stairs and harmd myself, its the 1st time i have done things like this, now im making things worse for my family cause everytime they talk to me i go mad and cry. i also shiver when on my own. i keep teling my self im not soppsed to be here. i have been to my doctors and hes gave me sleeping/calm tablets
please if anyone can help write me.
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replied March 25th, 2009
Depression
I struggled with serious depression for about 7 years. I went through it in High School like most people and thought about killing myself on a daily basis. I was destroying my tight knit family, my grades went from exceptional in grade 8 and 9 to barely passing grade 12. There were times when I would lay on the floor for hours and not move, I didnt want to exist anymore.

I did plenty of CBT and went to very a well known Psychologist. I was medicated on Paxil and Effexor for most of my teenage years. I found that the doctors and the meds did help, they probably prevented me from killing myself but I was still never happy.

After I graduated High School I decided to stop taking my medications. I didnt want to have to rely on drugs to help me deal with my depression. I began working in Alberta (lived in Ontario) and started to interact with many different types of people. I had travelled really far from my comfort zone. Over time my negative thoughts began to dissapate and most importantly they stopped controlling my life. I have been in Alberta now for 4 years and while not satisfied with my current career path, do not exibit any of the signs of chronic depression. I still get anxious, overwhelmed and upset but these are normal thoughts.

My advice with all this is to get out of you negative comfort zone. It is easy for you to think like this since its a conditioned subconscious reaction. If you change your environement and set some goals no matter how uncomfortable you will be just fine
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replied March 26th, 2009
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nutrition is the answer ?
vitamin & mineral deficiency or imbalance has a lot to do with depression from what i have discovered ie a deficiency of the B vitamins can cause anxiety or a calcium / magnesium imbalance can have an affect on how we feel
check ithyroid.com & zestforlife.
if i can help further email me(subject avatar)
i will reply!
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replied April 12th, 2009
depression
since yall are talking about depression maybe yall can help me out. every since i was about six i have felt that life is pointless and cant find anything happy about it. i cant get the pain and angry to leave me and it grows with each and every year and gets worse and i cant stop thinking about ending my own life. since it seems more peaceful to me
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replied May 17th, 2009
RE: littlepeanut123
Hi my name is Paul and I am new to writing posts like this, however, I would also like to point out that I also smoke (quite a bit) to help me relax.
In fact, I started smoking because I didn't want to live anymore and that it would help me get this over and done with at least a little bit quicker.
Thats what I still think now.
I am 21, over the past 10 years, maybe a little longer, I have tried to kill myself on a number of occasions by cutting, hanging... but I just cant do it which makes me feel even more worthless. And then I read of others problems and they have far, far greater issues than I do which makes me feel even more worse still because by the side of them (no one imparticular) I just sound like some kid throwing a tantrum.
Anyway, my bottom line is, I feel like I cant live, cant die, too unnerved to tell anyone about it and generally dont know what to do anymore.
A few previous posts said about doctors and medication, I wont have either of them because to tell the truth which is embarrassing, I am too sh** scared of doctors due to a previous "appointment" which did not go well.
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replied May 25th, 2009
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I feel quite heavy most of the time and find it hard to make conversation with people, i don't see the point of it.

sometimes i find that exercising helps tho.
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replied May 28th, 2009
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What's the Point In Living?

Dude, what's the point in NOT living?
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replied May 28th, 2009
Life is almost pointless, but I doubt what (if anything) happens after death is any better!
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replied June 10th, 2009
Read this small story, May make a BIG change in YOU



Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. ? He held it up for all to see & asked the students
"How much do you think this glass weighs?"

'50gms!' .... '100gms!' .....'125gms' ..the students answered..
"I really don't know unless I weigh it," said the professor, "but, my question is:
What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?"
'Nothing' âspam¦..the students said.
'Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?' the professor asked.
'Your arm would begin to ache' said one of the student
"You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?"
"Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!"
âspam¦.. ventured another student & all the students laughed
"Very good.
But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?"
asked the professor.
'No'âspam¦. Was the answer.
"Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?"
The students were puzzled.
"What should I do now to come out of pain?" asked professor again.
"Put the glass down!" said one of the students
"Exactly!" said the professor.
Life's problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.
Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.
It's important to think of the challenges or problems in your life,
But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to 'PUT THEM DOWN' at the end of every day before You go to sleep.
That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!
So, when you leave office today,
Remember friend to
'PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY! '
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replied June 24th, 2009
Hi there
I dont see a point in being alive as well. What is the point. We all don't have something to live for or really a want to live. We might have family and some friends but we can't rely on them for our own happiness. I have wanted to kill myself for years. Do I do it?? No not because I would leave behind family its because I haven't found a painless way of killing myself. More to the point I am lazy in thinking of ways to commit suicide. If you hate life just remember it will be over soon. You might die naturally or by old age but it will happen. So why cut yourself?? You could get infections. My only adivce try to do things you like to have fun. Don't try to be someone you aren't. If you are sad be sad, cry write down your feelings, throw some pillows around, if your mad scream and yell of course do it somewhere so you won't bother people. But don't hurt youself anymore. Hurting yourself won't help. And the advice from others about just popping pills, maybe these sad feelings are a part of being alive. Maybe we shouldn't be trying to take it out of our lives all together. I hate life too and I want to die but I don't think the answer is drugs. I mean drugs will only make you feel better for a little while.
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replied June 24th, 2009
Having a good life doesnt mean u will be happy. You shouldnt make this person feel bad for wanting to harm themselves. There shouldnt be any judgement here. Yes when you kill yourself maybe people around u will be sad but death is a part of life and it will happen sooner or later. So maybe suicide isnt the answer BUT we will all die one day!
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replied July 21st, 2009
I know this feeling all too well. I was in an abusive situation for 17 years. I remember the first time I cut myself was in the third grade, I remember only trying to get rid of the hurt. It sounds contradictory, but it let me control my hurt. I lost nearly all of my friends in elementary school, and when we moved it was hard to make friends. I did, and when they found out what the marks were on my arms, I moved my cutting to my thighs, a place where it would not be seen by others. Depression hurts. Abuse hurts. Finally after the police being called multiple times, I thought I would be safe. The three officers said that I was too old and that they were more concerned about saving the little ones. It was a devastating blow. Even after spending two weeeks in the hospital, due to my dad losing his temper, the police didn't do anything. I went back to my dad's house. One month before my 18th birthday, they kicked me out. My friend's family took me in, and today I have a little self esteem. I can honestly say that in the year and a half I have lived with my friend I haven't cut for six months.
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replied July 25th, 2009
what do you think you're living for?
for example: i'm living for my parents,
they're depending on me.
i'm not living for myself.
after they pass,
i'll be fine with death.
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replied December 30th, 2009
Goodness me but there's a lot of negativity going on around here people! Depression sucks. Everyone that lives with it knows it and i am definitely one of them. But why bother sitting around dwelling on it and making everything seem worse? The way i see it there really ain't much point and we're all going to snuff it sooner or later but that's no reason to hasten it! This is it! This is our time! There has been life on earth for yonks and this tiny little window is our one chance to be part of that. Stuff will happen to you. Some of it will be good and some of it will be bad but it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you OWN it. It's your life! Live it, don't waste it!
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replied February 1st, 2010
existence is indeed pointless logically. I try to avoid being overwhelmed with this feeling by focusing on a goal to achieve generally. The feeling always returns whe the goal is reached so I try to make them ongoing if I can. Strangely channeling this in this way has gotten me quite far. I have everything, but am never really all that happy unless obsessing about something. Sort of a dilemma really. Good luck figuring it out I wish I could.
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replied February 4th, 2010
i feel so alone. i have never written on a forum, ever. i feel like i have this dark secret that i can't even face, let alone allow anyone else in to understand. i have come so far. most people who know me think that i am a success story, in a lot of ways i am. But.. i just feel like this is all so pointless. i feel as if as hard as i try i will still be tainted. i made to many bad choices in my past and know i feel that ever though i thought i had battled my demons, and won, they still linger. I feel the darkness setting in. i don't see a way out. i just wanna give up and lay on my couch all day and watch brain numbing tv. why should i keep going to work? why should i finish getting my degree? my life is ruined, and its all my fault. it's such a strange phenomena to be a human being in this world. what a weird thing, all of it, the whole of existence. And yet, i feel unable to embrace the beauty in this... and so do so many others.
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replied February 15th, 2010
There is no point in life unless you make one up that's worth living for. Nothing's ever simply handed to you, so I suggest you pick yourself up and find somthing actually worth wasting your life over... Now If only I could start taking my own advice Sad
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replied February 17th, 2010
life
ok i really dont know how to put this all out there,but im 22 nd in college,i have a place with my gf.but i still feel alone,living is pointless,so we try to make the best of it for what??to die in the end.to work for someone else to try nd find happiness,there is no happiness in this fkn world.the better i try to make things the worse they seem to get!!!maybe killiing myself would taking the easy way out.but it sounds like its better than being on this tiny insignificant place where were suppose try nd find a meaning to life or "somthiing that makes us happy nd makes us feel like theres a point when theres not",the people who think abt killing themseves or who ask what is the point are the ones who c the reality of life which is "nothing" the rest of the world js tries to cover it up with fake feelings of happiness nd well being.thats y we have stupid things like cars nd computers to cover up the truth,that there is no point in being here.
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