I've been dx with this mental illnes 10yrs. Ago. I don't know how much you know beyond your symptoms, about this mental illness. It's such a secret alot of people live with because the world doesn't seem to accept it as such "an illness", just like diabetes or ms or anyother illness that no one asks for. There are medications than can and will help you, and I do suggest you look for a support group in your area, and this forum will also help. Have you been officially dx with this disorder, and if so how are your meds working. I was on litium at one point along with an antidepresent. This combination worked just okay for me, but then I started val poric acid along with my antidepresent zoloft, and every since this change (the litium wasn't being processed by me properly)(some people don't do well on this med.) things have been much better. I still have my "highs & lows" but it's on a more manageable scale. I only work part-time and this takes away alot of pressure. I live my live spontaneously (as I can predict my days, but only for about a week at a time). When I get irritable, I have (with the aid of alot of reading, support groups,and counselling at the beginning) keep quiet and simply let my partner know that I just want to be alone. (we've been together for 14yrs. And married for 10yrs.) he knows me very well, and knows when i'm in a particular mood. I think any person can become argumentative and verbally abusive to anyone close to them, not just us "bi-polars", but to me that's an excuse I choose not to comply to. Learn to understand your swings, and what may trigger them. For me certain times of the year. Eg: spring I go crazy--i love to work out and spend money. So I make a schedule and give my credit cards to my husband, and fall I can become blue, so I indulge in light therapy. Be strong--this isn't the end of your life-just a different road. You are more sensitive, and you live your emotions, which is okay, but learn how to control them with meds, and understanding.--good luck