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Bipolar Ex. Boyfriend Lost Feelings For Me Forunknown Reason (Page 3)


June 1st, 2011
Experienced User
These posts are old and I wonder how you all are now. My story, told in other threads, is exactly the same .
He breaks up, he comes back, he breaks up again, he comes back again, he says he does not love me and sends me loving emails saying how much he misses me,he continues to say he does not love me and comes to see me three times a week, phones many times daily, worries about my life, wants to mee my family, then he suddenly breaks again, cannot hold my hand, does not feel anything, cannot love, never loved, cheats, comes back, looks into my eyes and says Im his number one woman and next minute, he does not love me.
I love him to bits, I really care, there is no one for me but him, but it is dreadful to go on like that, at the moment he is again thinking he is not my boyfriend, when in thruth, he is. He is starting to write emails and get worried about my life again, we write daily to each other now that im away from him in other country, we talk on the phone, we send each other poems, we are still in love, however, he does not love me, according to his Bipolar mind.
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replied August 2nd, 2011
Hi, all i have to say is that being bipolar is really hard but one thing i always say to myself to stop myself from doing really mean things to people due to my erratic emotions is I always tell myself again again, the feeling came first and your just trying to find something to blame the feeling on.......don't do it.
The feelings come and go, if i feel sad, i just feel it out, cry, wail, sleep but i just try not to blame anybody, when i feel happy i live it out, have fun, do my work and feel good.
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replied April 12th, 2012
CONFUSED, SCARED,
Hi everyone,
I am a 45 year old divorced Mom of three children. I am in love with a 37 year old man who is bi-polar and doesn't know it. He's never been diagnosed but I do know his mom very well and she has confirmed that his biological father had a mental illness. Which back then no one really knew much about. I figured it out after much research and knowing him the last nine years. I also have a good friend who has a bi-polar son that ruined her marriage of 24 years. She's helpful but after reading all of your posts I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. I have known him for nine years this June. The first four we were friends the next three more, then the last year and a half he moved in with me and my boys. After living with us about six months he asked me to be his girlfriend. I've been waiting at that point for 7 years for that magical moment. He's an amazing man with a big heart and I love him unconditionally with everything I am. After the year and a half he packed up and left us the Wed before Christmas. He literally blindsided us. When asked he just said he needed his space for his stuff, well I told him...."you now have a space for your stuff but when you were with the boys and I you had a home". At Thanksgiving last year his mom said she'd never seen him as happy as he was. He told friends of mine ours that we fought everyday, my boys walk all over me, that my oldest was out of control, I don't pay my bills , I was more like a mom than a girlfriend at times. You get the gist lies which hurt. I've gotten over them but on my birthday this year he said we were broken up. There's so much more I could tell, I'm very detailed but I'll fast forward to this past week of April 2-6 to now. He was always loosing or breaking things not intentionally though. So his cell hasn't been holding a charge and his cell is his life line, might as well be an appendage of his literally. Last Wed he asked me for mine which he got for me last Feb but then suspended in Jan this year when I wouldn't help him w/the bill. I said no so now on Friday he messaged my oldest son on FB a reply to: Hey dude you're invited to my grandparents for Easter supper, love u miss u. His reply: It will be a long time before we hangout again. Your mom is selfish like most women. I had to spend 400 dollars of my money to buy a new phone. Note to self in the future don't date a selfish girl.....that's what my son got as the reply. Then on Easter Sunday he deleted me, his mom, my brother-in-law on FB. He kept my boys, my friends and mutual friends. Heres the kicker everyone on Friday last week I was drafting a goodbye letter after 8 years of the ups and downs and recently all the blowing off of me and the boys choosing his childish younger recent made friends for us. Not knowing if we are coming or going with him. Then acting like everything is my fault. Selfish let me tell you all that I opened my home and heart to him and his 70lb dog, in return all he had to do was pay the utilities. I took care of everything else. Now understand he did help when he could and he fell in love with me and my boys, I think it was too overwhelming. Even though I've known him that long it's been between here and Paducah off and on-but this is the first time we've been an official couple, he's acknowledged as so. I know his history and he knows mine everyone says we're perfect for each other and we are. I'm in counseling, my boys are and we have a family counselor that comes to the house once a week. The boys know and knew what we were getting into before he moved in. He has our heart and always will. Back to the letter it was a draft never to be sent but it was. I tried to fix it by sending an oops one then a private message on FB. I was just preparing for the worst if it happened, I never wanted to send it. I never push sent but it sent, maybe God wanted it. Ironically God is the one who brought him into my life....if someone could PLEASE TELL ME what to expect next. He has come back time and time again. Before though he'd never lived or experienced being with my boys. He loves us all but he's just someone else right now. The letter is what scares me it was from the heart nothing cruel about it, I can forward it to whomever thinks they can help. The point is I've always been there for him no matter what or what he did the last 8 years and getting a letter that should've never been seen let alone sent scares me....I am still here not going anywhere. HELP PLEASE WE ARE LEAVING HIM ALONE BUT IT HURTS....!!!!
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