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Am I Bi-sexual Or Just Curious?

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replied July 1st, 2004
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Sounds to me that you are just bi-curious. If you were actually bi you would know. The only way that you can really tell is to actually do something with someone of the same sex and see how you feel afterwards, whether you thought it was great (therefore then you could be considered bi) or whether you thought it was yucky (therefore you wouldn't be considered bi). I too have thought about what it would be like to fool around with another girl, but I don't know if I could actually bring myself to do something like that. So I am considered to be straight. I think its normal at your age to start thinking about stuff like that. You're body is going through changes, some which are scary and you don't know what direction in life you want to take. I guarantee that within a few years you will know for sure what you are.
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replied July 1st, 2004
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I'm not sure I totally agree with that. I am 26 and since I was 19 up until a year ago I thought I was a lesbian. But now for the last year I have been very much into guys. Growing up I never really thought about liking girls or wanting to be with girls (other than the occasional dream or whatever). But then I met a wonderful girl and I fell in love with her and we ended up in a relationship for 4 years. After that ended I met another wonderful girl and we were together a year and a half. When I was with them I was content to think I could spend the rest of my life with either one of them. Now, though, I am really into guys and while I am still attracted to girls, at the moment, I prefer to be with guys. I suppose that could change anytime now too.

What I am trying to say is that hitting a certain age does not mean you will automatically know how you feel about each sex. What I have come to realize is to not discriminate between girls or guys. I am content in knowing that should I come along a girl that I fall in love with and want to spend the rest of my life with that is fine. If I come along a guy I can't live without that is fine too. I search for love in all people instead of just guys or just girls.

I think right now you are in a curious stage. And thats perfectly fine. You have to try things out before you decide if it is something you like or not. Honestly I wouldn't worry too much over it. Just see how your feelings evolve for both guys and girls - don't limit yourself to one or the other unless that is what you find interests you. You are still a little young so don't rush into anything right now. Have fun, discover what you find attractive, what turns you on and if the opportunity presents itself to explore a relationship with either sex go for it - just do it in a responsible and safe manner. You have your whole life to discover who you are - at 14 don't rush to put yourself into one category or the other. And when you do find where you think you belong, don't feel like that is how you have to be for the rest of your life. You are always free to change your mind.
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replied July 6th, 2004
I've thought about what you two have said (thanks! ^-^) and decided that I am bi. I was afraid at first at what my friends would say, but the ones i've told are cool with it and I even found out that several of my friends are bi as well. But now I have this little problem-i really like one of my friends, who is bi if that's any matter. I invited her over today to hang out but couldn't bring myself to tlel her that I liked her because well, I was afraid she doesn't like me. We were talking for a bit about who we'd told that we were bi, our friends and etc, and then I asked her if there was anyone she liked. I was planning on telling her I liked her then. But she said that she didn't really like anyone, so I didn't say anything.

So is there any way to find out if she likes me back? Confused
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replied July 6th, 2004
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If you like men and women then you are bi. If you are attracted to men and women then you are bi.
If you don't really think that you are attracted to the same sex but are kind of curious - then you are bi curious.
If you only like the same sex then you are homosexual.
If you only like the opposite sex then you are heterosexual.

But being as you have and love your boyfriend, but at the same time look at porn of naked women (and enjoy it) then you are bi.
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replied July 6th, 2004
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Next time the two of you are hanging out you should mention you think she is really cool and would like to hang out with her more often. See what her reaction is. If she says the same thing back you can take it to mean she probably likes you too. If you can work the nerve up, tell her you think she's attractive, you like being around her, whatever it is you feel you want to say to her. The worst that will happen is she will say she just wants to stay friends.
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replied October 21st, 2004
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See now I was exactly the same way up until I was 17 and my best friend at the time told me she liked me more than a friend. I would have never really thought to kiss another girl, but I did. It was different, but not like bad different like kissing your sister... Yucky. But anyways... We went out a few times and it felt good to be liked by someone of the opposite sex, since than I have moved away and been with many other girls that I cared about and had mroe intimate moments with. I consider myself bi- curious, bc I haven't yet found a girl... To sweeep me off my feet. Much like a guy, but I jsut haven't found the right guy, most are jerks.... Reply if necc.. Or im me aim chenopers4
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replied November 30th, 2006
I had no idea that there was such a think as bi-curious. I thought I was just strange. I know i'm 100% straight, I just get this nagging feeling and curiousity to lick some other woman's clit and just to feal it with my hands and vis a versa (especially with no hair in the way).

By the way, I squirm in discust when I see and read about women kissing, saying "i love you, " and all that other mooshy stuff to each other. I love men I find men that I think are cute every day... So i'm not bi or les.
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replied December 5th, 2006
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2crazy4u wrote:
i had no idea that there was such a think as bi-curious. I thought I was just strange. I know i'm 100% straight, I just get this nagging feeling and curiousity to lick some other woman's clit and just to feal it with my hands and vis a versa (especially with no hair in the way).

By the way, i squirm in discust when I see and read about women kissing, saying "i love you, " and all that other mooshy stuff to each other. I love men I find men that I think are cute every day... So i'm not bi or les.
then why are you in the gay/lesbian forum? And why would you want touch another woman if it grosses you out. . .
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replied December 8th, 2006
Melissa why are you on here? Are you a fat !**@! homosexual that has no life and wants to butt into every other persons life? Because you are sure acting like you are.

You have no right to tell me what to do. Go back to kindergarden and learn who to read and write because you don't know how to write.

And leave me the hell alone, you sodding !**@!!!!
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replied January 2nd, 2007
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2crazy4u wrote:
melissa why are you on here? Are you a fat health questioning homosexual that has no life and wants to butt into every other persons life? Because you are sure acting like you are.

You have no right to tell me what to do. Go back to kindergarden and learn who to read and write because you don't know how to write.


And leave me the hell alone, you sodding health question!!!

i don't see where I told you what to do.You just contradicted yourself and I brought it to your attention.You said you like seeing two girls together, you want to touch and lick another girl yet in the next paragraph you say it disgusts you. . .As far as I can see my spelling and all are fine! Wink
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