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Are you cheating on your significant other if you are chatting with someone on the internet? Then you start to get risky photos in your e-mail. Along with the photos comes phone numbers and invitations. Hmmm.... Some one please set me straight. I was told that i am over reacting!!!!
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replied February 5th, 2008
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Chatting with somebody on the internet, no.
Getting pictures and numbers and invites, no.
Flirting that leads no where, no.

Asking for the pictures, numbers and invites, yes.
Wacking off to the pictures, using the number for phone sex, wanting to take the invite and/or taking the invite, yes.
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replied February 6th, 2008
I have to agree/disagree with Mikolas.
Well in a biblical standpoint its said " If a man even thinks lustfully towards another woman, he has committed adultery. Aka .. thats bad Smile.

In a Non-biblical standpoint. Think of it this way.

Would you Chat with this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?
would you look at pics of this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?
would you call this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?

If you said NO, to any, if not ALL of these questions then its a BAD idea.
You may not physically be cheating right then and there, but it can lead to it.
And it also causes alot of secrets between you and your significant other.
Which leads to mistrust, which leads to.. just bad things.

If ya wouldnt do it in front of your significant other, then its a BAD thing to do.
That also works with like... .EVERYTHING lol. Hope ive been helpful
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replied February 6th, 2008
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Heylookitsphill wrote:
I have to agree/disagree with Mikolas.
Well in a biblical standpoint its said " If a man even thinks lustfully towards another woman, he has committed adultery. Aka .. thats bad Smile.

In a Non-biblical standpoint. Think of it this way.

Would you Chat with this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?
would you look at pics of this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?
would you call this person in front of your wife/husband/significant other?

If you said NO, to any, if not ALL of these questions then its a BAD idea.
You may not physically be cheating right then and there, but it can lead to it.
And it also causes alot of secrets between you and your significant other.
Which leads to mistrust, which leads to.. just bad things.

If ya wouldnt do it in front of your significant other, then its a BAD thing to do.
That also works with like... .EVERYTHING lol. Hope ive been helpful


you said it...if you are in a monogamous relationship and you and your significant other have a NO OUTSIDERS understanding, then don't go there. I couldn't look my partner in the eye and lie or cheat...its just not in me to be that dishonest, especially with someone I love..
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replied February 6th, 2008
( THIS IS COMPLETELY unrelated) but Homerx you had a STROKE at the age of 20.. HOLY CRAP. That must suck.

Back to point. LIKE homer said / I said.

:: slaps bbfeets hand:: bad lol.
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replied February 6th, 2008
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I'd be upset to see my husband spending any amount of time chatting with a woman on the internet, receiving her pictures, and having her phone number in his contacts. Flirting is flirting in my opinion. I think if you were given the chance and one heck of an "opportunity", you probably would cheat..

I'd be crushed as a wife to see my husband so interested in another woman. I'd wonder what I could do to make him that interested in me, and it would take years for me to be able to have confidence in our relationship if I found out about it.
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replied February 6th, 2008
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You were probably told that you were overreacting by a person who would put themselves in the same position you are currently in. I'd only worry about what the one I love feels about the situation, though. That is all that matters. Getting a third or fourth party involved in problems such as this never leads to good things... trust me.
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replied February 6th, 2008
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Heylookitsphill wrote:
( THIS IS COMPLETELY unrelated) but Homerx you had a STROKE at the age of 20.. HOLY CRAP. That must suck.

Back to point. LIKE homer said / I said.

:: slaps bbfeets hand:: bad lol.


Holy Crap is right! It was no walk in the park, that is 4 sure!!! Confused
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replied February 7th, 2008
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Seeking someone to flirt with, with the pretense that something 'more' could happen is cheating in my mind.

If you are online with the express intention of exchanging pictures and/or emails to have sexual and/or racy discussions ... you're cheating.
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replied February 7th, 2008
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I agree with Marvel completely. I must admit that I am totally and completely in love with my husband, and so I would be crushed if I ever found out about anything going on like that with him and any other woman.
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replied February 7th, 2008
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Hmmm....I would be very upset if I found out my husband was flirting online. It would make me feel very inadequate. I'd imagine he would feel them same way. Even though online flirting is not "technically" cheating, it is emotional cheating which is just as bad.
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replied February 9th, 2008
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Agree with all the above - RUN don't walk away from this. It can only bring heart ache in the end. It may just be your heart ache.
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replied February 9th, 2008
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Are you cheating on your significant other if you are chatting with someone on the internet? Then you start to get risky photos in your e-mail. Along with the photos comes phone numbers and invitations. Hmmm.... Some one please set me straight. I was told that i am over reacting!!!!


As long as you never intend to meet or marry that person, I personally don't consider it cheating, as I had a cyber-sex buddy even when I was engaged. We never sent photos or numbers and I have a very strict policy that I will never meet anyone offline, period.

IF there are photos and invites etc, then yes it could lead to cheating - which in my opinion HAS to be actual physical making out/sex. Flirting is not cheating.
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replied February 18th, 2009
is internet flirting cheating
this is being done to me i feel it is cheating when you see pictures of your other half completely naked and he is telling women he is single
even when i lost out baby he was within hours flirting send explicit pictures and telly a woman he was single and not been with anything worth talking about
when found out he makes out it is my fault rips me to shreds and says its me doing it not him it all in my head till i showed him the emails of the women proving everything he had said
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replied February 21st, 2009
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um, if I found out my boyfriend had a cyber sex buddy i would be OUTRAGED..I dont care if its on the internet or in person its still cheating to me and completely unacceptable...if he is having an inappropriate conversation with another female I would be livid...that is not a monogomous relationship..if you're getting online and talking about sexual things to someone else while your significant other is not present then shame...if he's dumb enough to do that then we'd be DONE..bc i dont tolerate that crap
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replied February 21st, 2009
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my boyfriend listened to talk show radio debates when he goes to work in the morning, and one day after work he had told me about this couple who had been married for quite a few years, and her husband was having cyber sex with some girl on chat sites, and she divorved him because of that.
i think internet cheating is definately cheating. if your going anywhere out of your relationship to find some new excitment while still dating the man or woman your saying your inlove with, its cheating. clearly something is missing from your relationship or life for you to have to wander that way, and maybe the reason for "cyber-sex" is so the person cheating this way doesnt have to be cmpletely alone, they are in a relationship doing this, but wont end things and be alone.

i dont think cheating has to be sex or kissing or something like that face-to-face.
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replied February 21st, 2009
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i think people have "cyber sex" relations bc they feel like this is something they can get away with..they feel that its not actually cheating when it most definitely is..plus, its much harder to catch your man in a relationship online than in person..if he's gone all the time and starts acting suspicious thats much easier to catch..but many women i'm sure don't even think about checking the computer..i've heard many times where women have caught their significant other with an add on singles sites and such...anything YOU wouldn't want to be caught doing by your partner to me is considered cheating..if you are doing something you know you would be upset about if your partner were doing it, then you should not be doing it
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replied February 21st, 2009
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Yep i agree with worrywart entirely.....Jenny
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replied March 2nd, 2009
yes its

cheating is cheating

its hurt too much cozz

emotional cheatng is like physcial cheating

and for guyz who think thats ok

imagine u will find ur wife or gf do the same

would u be happy and take it easy

hell no

and keep alwyes in ur mind

who cheat one day they will be caught

and they will lose alot

love trust it will scatterd and fad away

so get back to be good husband and wife

befor its too late
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replied March 3rd, 2009
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Hmm I agree with mikolas here....

Flirting is quiet a healthy aspect in humans but there is a line to draw and that would be pursuing a relationship physically or mentally afterwards.

Cyber sex with another person in a relationship, I would consider cheating but not really because its not real, its like fulfilling a delusion. Why do I consider it cheating, well he could have been cybering with his wife!

Its like porn, don't think its cheating and never will....

to talk about mental cheating all of us do it, we have best friends and we tell those friends stuff we would never tell our SO.....

The boys and the girls, dont deny it~!

To sit their and say we are 100% honest with our significant other is a lie, no one on this planet is perfect!
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