I am stuck.... I was all set to go and be induced on monday and say my final goodbyes to baby in my womb... after 2 weeks since the heart stopped beating and 2 ultrasounds showing no change I felt convinced it was the right thing to do...
This is new to me...I know this will be my 5th miscarriage, however its the first time I have found out baby is dead without bleeding or cramping. .. hence the first time I will be induced to help the baby out...

The thing that I am stuck on is the fact that my husband wants me to wait until my body naturally aborts the baby or thinks baby's heart will miraculously start again (he happened to read a couple of cases about it online)...keep in mind that babies heart stopped at 15 weeks and 4 days.... I am now in my 18th week... I just found out through an ultrasound last week about this.... Anyway I have been angry and sad and depressed since then and have now come to accept it.... but now to wait God knows how long with my husband edging that i could be murdering the baby if i get induced because of the minute chance it may be revived... im not sure what to do!
I want to move on with the healing process but feel im in limbo just waiting and if I wait i won't know for how long and it makes it harder to process my emotions... every trip to the toilet im wondering is today the day baby comes out??!!...I feel anxious sad scared unsure all the same time... everyday my heart grows heavier knowing that my baby is deceased inside of me and if its going to cause infection....I am not sure if I will have control over my emotions if I live too many days like this Sad
So not sure what I should do Sad
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replied February 21st, 2018
Hi, and thanks for your query on eHealth forum!

Very sorry to hear about your baby, and this being your 5th miscarriage, very traumatic. There is no point is carrying forward the ordeal. It is best to induce an abortion as advised by your doctors. Your husband can meet the doctors and there can be a repeat ultrasound to see if the heart beat is on or not. There are many side effects of there being a dead baby in womb and may a times the body does not abort the baby soon enough.

Please consult your healthcare provider for further guidance. This reply to your query is just for education and counseling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit and treatment by a doctor who can examine you. Hope this helped you in making an informed decision about your health. Take care!

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