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Stress with trying to conceive

Hi there,
My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 14 months now. I'm 35 my husband is 34. All my friends are getting pregnant really quickly, or already have children. Everyone says that I need to chill out...I'm trying, but how do you stop your mind from thinking about it all the time! Every month is such a disappointment. Its really having an effect on our relationship now, and sometimes my husband can't ejaculate...which adds to the stress (I don't show him I'm disappointed about this, but he must know). This month, we havnt stopped arguing Surprised(
I just don't know what to do anymore! Does anyone know how best to sort this stress out?!?
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replied July 23rd, 2010
Welcome to ehealthforum.
First of all both of you need to be mentally free of any tensions and worries. The pregnancy will happen if everything is right, and it includes a good mental state for both of you. Get an infertility work-up done to see if any problems are associated with either of you. If any abnormality is found out, you will be put on treatment.
Both of you need a 'couple therapy' and counseling to assist you to realise that you need to calm down and accept if any of you have any abnormalities associated. Stress can get things more worse. Your husband might also need a consultation with an Urologist or an Andrologist. He needs your mental and emotional support to come out of his ejaculation problem.
All the best.

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replied July 25th, 2010
Thanks for the reply. I'm in the middle of having the tests done - and everything seems to be fine so far. My husbands tests came back positive too. I am making an appointment with the doctor tomorrow to see about us both getting counselling. I know its probably just stress thats the reason we haven't conceived yet...but its hard to stop....hopefully counselling will help.
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