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My six year old son has recently started getting very angry and upset when me and the hubby do our thing. Okay...lemme back up here. No, DS is not in the room with us, he is in the room next to us and we have thin walls, or so I guess. Anyway DS will wake up out of a dead sleep and cry at our door saying he doesnt like it when we do that. He also gets really mad at DH for doing it. He knows what sex is, we educated him on a level he can understand, we have explained that it doesnt hurt either of us and that it is normal for adults to do that sometimes. I think he is going through the whole Freudian Oedipus stage, where the son is, on a subconsceious level, in love with the mother and jealous of the father, and vice versa for girls. Needless to say, its putting a bit of a cramp in our sex life. Any advice on howelse to cope with this? Confused
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replied June 30th, 2008
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have sex in the car LOL
nah on a serious note how old is ur son???
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replied June 30th, 2008
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Well, I do think it's a phase of pyschological growth...in time, he will favor his father and you'll be the "man out". Well, the woman out of his life.

Is it the bed that's waking him up or the heavy breathing?

I'd suggest that perhaps you change scene for sex. Maybe lay a blanket on the floor to avoid noisy springs. Can you take a night out together and shack up in a different location? Although the car might be sexy in principle, it's a little uncomfortable. How often do you want to have sex?
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replied June 30th, 2008
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lol the hubby would love it all the time, me once a week is fine. As for the noise that is waking him up, I'm not totally sure...neither of us are exactly loud and our bed doesn't move around...DS just has this built in RADAR that knows exactly when. I asked him what he hears and he says nothing and that is how he knows....argh!!! We have shacked up in different locations sometimes, but its just nice to know that our bed is still available for it if we choose lol.
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replied July 1st, 2008
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LOL maybe make noise then Razz so he doesnt think u guys are in bed doing the dirty
turn the tv on make a tape of u guys making noise n put it on in a different section of the house so he cant hear u guys actually doing it Razz or so he thinks u guys arent?
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replied July 30th, 2010
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Try sending him for a sleepover a friends, grammas, whatever.....thats what i do, because our place has thin walls too.
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replied August 8th, 2010
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He is most probably going the the Oedipus complex, and this will pass, just give it time.

As for your sex life, definitely try changing the scene or making "normal noise" (such as the TV) while doing so and see if he suspects anything. Try the living room, if that area is further away. You can also try doing it in the early morning, before he wakes up. Or if he watches morning cartoons after breakfast, you may want to try that time too. Keeping him preoccupied instead of asleep while you guys do it might work.
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