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Slept with two men, had period in between them. Pregnant!

Im ashamed of this, but its eating me alive. Please give your honest opinion.

I dated Guy A for 3 years, 2 1/2 of those years, we had unprotected sex, he didnt pull out, never got pregnant. We didnt get professional advice, just assumed there was something wrong with one of us.

We split up for about 5 months, I started seeing Guy B , we had unprotected sex twice, but he pulled out. ( I know thats never guaranteed safety ) I was NOT feeling it with this man and decided to stop seeing him. We had sex around August 9-13 (early August is what i remember.)

I started my period, August 27th, just like a normal period, heavy flow at first then light at end.. Period was on time. People tell me you can still be pregnant and have a period. It was NOT spotting, it was a period.

I got back with Guy A, slept with him ONCE around September 10-12, he ejaculated in me, thought nothing of it, since i've never came out pregnant during those 2 1/2 years of him doing it....

At the time my period is expected at end of month, i was a day late , (Its always on time, i used a period app) So i said what the hell, took a test, very faint line.
Sure enough, im pregnant.

Went to Dr at 8 weeks, Told him Lmp, situation and what not, he believes conception date was Sept 11th, Baby is due June 2nd. Which makes it sound like Guy A is father ..? But how. After 2 years! And only one time of having sex since breakup??

This may be a stupid question, It just seems unreal... Just the fact i never got pregnant from sleeping with Guy A after over 2 years and now i am.

I love this man very much, and he has nothing to do with me during this pregnancy, due to him simply not believing its his, and doesnt want false hope.
I have two months left, but i want opinions to just EASE my mind.. it is literally eating at me. I hope its Guy A's... but im prepared for it to be eithers.

Please give your opinion on this. I expect negativity, i am not proud of myself.
Thank you for your time!
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First Helper ppowb

replied April 4th, 2016
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Leverage, no reason to feel ashamed. This kind of stuff happens all the time. A due date of June 2nd based on an eight week ultrasound suggests a conception date of September 9th plus or minus a few days. That fits nicely with your exposure September 10th. Your libido is highest at ovulation time which may have affected your decision to engage.

I have little doubt guy A is the father. This can easily be proved with a paternity test. Be proud that you decided to carry this pregnancy to term and good luck going forward.
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replied April 5th, 2016
Thank you so much for taking a few minutes, and i appreciate the kind words. You've helped to somewhat ease my mind.
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replied April 26th, 2016
Welcome to e health forum.

Your date of conception depends on the day the egg and the sperm meet. Sperm can live up to 5 days inside a woman. A woman ovulates approximately two weeks after the last menstrual period.

The average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days, but can vary between 24 and 35 days. Menstrual bleeding normally lasts between two and seven days, with the average being five days.

Pregnancy can occur, only when ejaculation occurs within the vagina, and when the woman is within this ovulatory phase of your cycle. This period is from day 12 to day 16 of a 28 day menstrual cycle.

If you think, you had conceived on one specific date, then having intercourse 24-48 hours prior to it would have resulted in pregnancy.

As far as your history, since you had your periods, and then had sex with Guy A, he is the father of your child.

If you still have doubts, get a paternity test which will clear all your doubts.

I hope this helps.
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