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Recently diagnosed with genital warts. Feeling like life is over

I am a 35 y/o female who just got out of a 4 year committed relationship. I recently got diagnosed with genital warts and I am trying to shake the feeling that I am now doomed to be alone and celibate for the rest of my life. I have read the posts where the doctors say this condition is minor and merely an inconvenience. I can't understand how they can express that opinion. Because of the warts, protected sex is a must. This seems to preclude a long term committed relationship because, inevitably, you will have unprotected sex and if the relationship indeed turns out to be headed toward marriage, you will want to start a family and that usually requires unprotected sex the last time I checked. I know that the doctors on this forum say that once you treat the warts they rarely come back, but rarely is not never, especially for someone like me who is immune-compromised and there IS NO CURE for the virus, so it does stay with you forever. On top of the factors I just mentioned, there is the larger looming issue of the negative perception, connotation, and reaction that comes with having an STD. If I were to even have a chance of a meaningful relationship, I am pretty sure that once I say "You know, I have genital warts and it’s an incurable STD that I could give to you without even knowing it", I wouldn't even be able to count to 1 before the guy made a beeline for the nearest exit point. It's not like I'm some supermodel beauty queen where a man would overlook certain flaws like that. With this diagnosis, I feel like it is an end to my sex life, my love life, and a sentence to live my life in complete loneliness and isolation, which is no life at all. Any advice or suggestions on how to cope?
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replied May 11th, 2013
I think you are being a little rough on yourself. I am starting to date an old friend and she has HSV2, I plan on marrying her someday. It is a skin virus, not the end of the world. If they beeline it, they are not worth having.... period
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