shold i get an abortion
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replied December 17th, 2010
why do u want an abortion?
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replied December 23rd, 2010
just because you are single and pregnant doesn't mean you can't be a wonderful mother for your baby and it sure doesn't mean that you can't find a wonderful family for the baby. I know that you won't change your mind. and I'm totally not the type of person who is going to tell you to not get an abortion cause if you want one you're gonna get one no matter what any of us say. but if you know you can't support it then try looking for a family to adopt your baby. but if feel you can't deal with the fact of someone else having your baby then get an abortion. but there are MANY ways to support you and your baby as a single mother... welfare / food stamps / coupons online / soup kitchens / places like the salvation army and jesus house of hope can help you during holidays to get presents for your baby and every publix (near your location) has a sign up sheet at the end of the school year to get on the list to get school supplies for your child for the up-coming school year.
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replied January 28th, 2011
It is your decision. Alot of people will tell you that you will be a good mother and if you do not want to have the baby then to consider adoption. That is an option.

On the other hand, abortion is also an option. You should ask yourself if you can financially take care of a child? Do you have a stable job? A support system, either a boyfriend or husband who will help you or your family? If you do not have those then can you come up with other people who will watch your kid while you work?

The issue I have is I have none of these except for a decent job but it is only enough to support me. I couldn't do adoption because I knew if I carried the baby to term I would not be able to give them up. I would keep the baby and not be able to properly provide for him the way I think I should.

Honestly abortion is scary to think about. I have had one and it is not that bad. The people at Planned Parenthood were very nice and kind and explained everything. I think the not knowing what to expect was the hardest part but trust me, they will answer any question and explain everything. If you are over anxious they will give you medication to relax you.

I cried afterwards. There are no words to describe how I felt right after I left the clinic. But then the relief hit. And I told myself I would not let that happen again. PP even gives you a precription for your choice of birth control just to help you out.

People will try to tell you that you will be scared for life emotionally and physically. Physically there is hardly any pain. I felt pressure and cramping that was it. Emotionally I was ok. I cried, I felt relief. I still think about what my kid would look like or how old they would be today but I also know it was the right choice. If I had had my baby I know I would not be able to provide for him now like I should be able to.
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replied September 30th, 2019
Thank you for asking at Ehealth forum!

I read your question and i understand your concern. Having multiple abortions can result in a higher risk that the placenta will implant abnormally in future pregnancies. "That doesn't affect fertility, but it is an obstetrical complication of multiple pregnancies or abortions," The bleeding usually stops within 6 weeks. Recovery may take longer for late-term abortions. If complications develop, recovery can take much longer, and people may need hospitalization or surgery. This is unusual though, and most women will recover within a few weeks.

I hope it helps. Stay in touch with your healthcare provider for further guidance as our answers are just for education and counselling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit to a doctor.
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