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Pregnancy after a stillborn, want to try again...soon

On May 29th, I felt my baby move for the last time. I went to the doctor and on May 31st, I delivered a beautiful baby boy who was stillborn. We named him Billy Sunday...I was 37 weeks and was so looking forward to meeting him. Unlike my previous pregnancies, I hadn't bought one thing for him. I think I must have had a premonition. I am grieving so, but still want to get pregnant right away. My arms are so empty and even though I know that nothing can replace Billy...I want so bad to get pregnant again. I know all the need to let you body heal so waiting won't hurt. I'm 44 and I can't wait forever. Will it really hurt to get pregnant so soon? I have talked with my husband and found out that he is grieving in a different way...he was very open to wanting a girl and feels so guilty about that...but he still wanted this boy so bad. We both want to try again...soon...we aren't getting any younger.
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replied June 23rd, 2012
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It would be better to postpone your pregnancy for atleast 6-8 weeks time to allow for uterine healing to be able to support a healthy pregnancy (you would not want to have a miscarriage due to improper implantation or improper placental formation). Consider discussing with your treating doctor/gynecologist about the underlying cause for the stillbirth. If you had experienced lack of fetal movements or reduction in fetal movements, you should have considered visiting your doctor/gynecologist or the ER at the earliest for a NST test (non-stress test if indicated to look for uterine activity and fetal response) and ultrasound scan (if needed to look for fetal wellbeing). If there were no fetal anomalies or chromosomal anomalies associated, a timely cesarean section could have been helpful. Be in regular monitoring and follow-up with your treating doctor/gynecologist and report any new/abnormal symptoms immediately. Drink plenty of water. Take adequate rest. Maintain healthy diet.
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