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November 14th, 2012
Bartholin Gland
Hi,
Im fourteen eeeks pregnante and I had a Bartholin Gland pop up well with me being pregnant they did surgrey but didnt stitch me up so I could drain out the infection its almost been two weeks since I had my surgey and im having alot of discharge it still hitts for me to whip and pee , sometimes yo walk my fiance is dying to have sex and I just don want to. Im a heavey sleeper I dont wake up for nothing I woke up this morning to find him in side if me, me trying to get him off if me because I was hurting and it did not feel good he is so much bigger them me I kept trying he wouldnt stop til he got off. My bleeding had stopped but now after.him going in my bleeding has came back . Im scared I could miscarge.
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replied March 6th, 2013
Hello..i had a marsupialization recently and am very fine now..it got cured very fast as am single and no other activities..
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replied March 8th, 2013
Hi all I had a marsup 4 week's ago..within a day my cyst had come back.and I had to have another marsup the next day, I am 34 and had my first cysts when I was 19, I have had 6 marsups now and over the years lanced approx 65-70 cysts myself. All the marsups I have had in the past have been straight forward and I have been back to myself after 3-5 days however this time 4 weeks on and I still can't walk properly, sit properly or do any kind of excersize, I have a constant pain in the area that is like a throbbing and I can't touch or even wash or wipe the area properly, I have a hard lump that is not getting smaller even though I am averaging 1-2 hours a day in the bath. The stinging sensation is the worst thing and I feel like everything is so tight...underware is painful as it touches it and to be perfectly honest I wish I had never had surgery. All I would say is do some research before having any surgery, I can already tell I have another cyst forming and my gyno has suggested gland removal but there is no way after this I will allow it and would rather go back to lancing it myself...good luck ladies this should be a simple proceedure and a quick recovery time however that is not always the case..
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replied March 31st, 2013
Hey ladies. I want to first say I'm entirely sympathetic, and think you're all brave and strong for dealing with this perplexing and embarrassing medical issue. I think that, even though forums are terrible places for getting quality medical advice (there really is no substitute for medical professionals!), we can compare notes and, best of all, get moral support that will help us make better choices.
Bartholin gland issues are the WORST. I'm in my mid-thirties, and have been dealing with my own cyst/hyperactive gland for about eight months now. I've had 3 lancings, 2 Word catheters, and just 6 days ago, my first marsupialization.
I wanted to chime in to tell my experience, since there seems to be a wide variety of reactions, symptoms and treatments/outcomes.
My cyst, luckily enough for me (I'm so sorry ladies who've had abcesses, infections and ruptures!) was never infected or accessed. My OB did cultures, but when she drained everything each time she said, "I'm sure this isn't infected, so I'm not going to give you antibiotics. You have a blockage, but there's no infection. This will likely come back until we do a marsupialization, just FYI. " I never had too much out-and-out pain, just discomfort sitting when the cyst filled to the size of roughly a kumquat.
(Contd) The fluid she drained was always basically water and blood.
When my husband and I had sex, or I'd have a "randier" week where I was feeling aroused, the gland / cyst would appear to fill quite fast.
So, I'm now about 6 days post-marsupialization surgery. There's still a lot of discomfort, but it IS lessening every day. The swelling goes down a little every day, but the stitches/surgery area make me feel a bit "Frankenstein". My doctor says this WILL heal up eventually, it just takes time for the area to fill out / heal from the inside. The lips of the incision are hard and VERY tender/sensitive, but, I had major surgery. That's expected, and it IS getting better, slowly.
FYI, for those who've asked... Everyone's going to be different, but own incision was roughly 1.25" long. It's a significant opening next to my vagina, but its good in that it will drain well. its already healed smaller in 6 days, and my doc says it WILL heal away, though it takes time.
IMPORTANT: She also said I should absolutely have ZERO sexual intercourse for at least 3 weeks, to give it time to heal and the stitches to really dissolve. She said please, please don't risk complications... We can wait. (I bought my husband a couple, uh, new movies to tide him over.) Wink
Sitz baths are a GODSEND. Soaking the surgical area in very warm water not only feels very soothing, but it helps keep everything clean and cut down risk of infection. Going to the bathroom is a bit more of a task right now, since I'm obsessed with keeping everything clean, so, yeah. Sitz baths, pat dry. Godsend.
I will update after a couple more weeks of healing, and after my husband and I give her the "test run", because I know that I (and a lot of ladies here) are worried or deal with intercourse pain because of this.
My husband has been awesomely patient (we knew I'd have surgery Monday, so we had "pre - dry spell" sexytime the weekend before, to make sure we were sent into out month dry spell comfortably ;D). I was (and am) a bit scared about the cosmetic look of my labia/vagina after all this, but honestly, a little scarring I think looks better than a giant, scary lump. Also, generally speaking, men are just happy to be there, whether or not your bits are perfectly symmetrical. I have been told this on good authority, by most of my guy friends I've talked about all this with (we talk about everything, y'all - humor is healing).
I've read a lot of scary responses here, so I wanted to post my experience that, while maddening, frustrating, and dampening on our baby-making efforts, is something we'll pull through. Hugs, ladies.
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replied May 20th, 2013
I had my bartholin cyst removed 7 months ago and my ob took out the whole bartholin tube because he said if he just drained it or removed the cyst it'll just keep coming back and he went in through my vagina so there wouldn't be a hole left and you can't even tell that there was ever anything that was there
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replied June 15th, 2013
Story and questions
I just had the procedure on Thursday. I had the bartholin abcess for a year. Originally my ob was going to insert catheter but on day of procedure she said it wasn't large enough yet to follow through and hopefully would resolve on own which they normally do not. Within the last month it got larger where it was uncomfortable to sit and was throbbing. Before it was more of an annoyance and embarrassment to me. When I called ob she said they no longer do the catheter because they tend to not be successful and fall out. It was now big enough to do the marsupialuzation. I was very scared and wasn't happy about the length of healing. For a year I haven't been sexually active but now I have an awesome sex life. It seems when you can't have it you want it more.

The procedure was very painful. Lidocaine isn't pleasant. I even tried to make it less painful by using topical lidocaine 45 minutes prior to the procedure. During the procedure we found a very sensitive area that wasnt injected with lidocaine. I felt it 100%. A couple days out I'm very sore. Still sit on a pillow. It doesn't look any better or smaller down there. I take ibuprofen to help with swelling. I hope I get back to normal down there and heal fast. I want my sex life back!! My ob was honest with me about the procedure not preventing it from reforming. I'm hoping since it took a year to get big enough it won't reform. I don't want to have the procedure again. If it wasn't painful beforehand I wouldn't have had the procedure done.

I'm hoping for the best. My significant other and I didn't have any problems with lubrucation before the procedure. Is that going to change now? What's the earliest I can become active again sexually? I'm a small girl and he's well endowed. How much is it going to hurt when we do again? Does the pain mostly having to do with inadequate lubrucation? Thank you for all of your information.
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replied June 15th, 2013
Story and questions
I just had the procedure on Thursday. I had the bartholin abcess for a year. Originally my ob was going to insert catheter but on day of procedure she said it wasn't large enough yet to follow through and hopefully would resolve on own which they normally do not. Within the last month it got larger where it was uncomfortable to sit and was throbbing. Before it was more of an annoyance and embarrassment to me. When I called ob she said they no longer do the catheter because they tend to not be successful and fall out. It was now big enough to do the marsupialuzation. I was very scared and wasn't happy about the length of healing. For a year I haven't been sexually active but now I have an awesome sex life. It seems when you can't have it you want it more.

The procedure was very painful. Lidocaine isn't pleasant. I even tried to make it less painful by using topical lidocaine 45 minutes prior to the procedure. During the procedure we found a very sensitive area that wasnt injected with lidocaine. I felt it 100%. A couple days out I'm very sore. Still sit on a pillow. It doesn't look any better or smaller down there. I take ibuprofen to help with swelling. I hope I get back to normal down there and heal fast. I want my sex life back!! My ob was honest with me about the procedure not preventing it from reforming. I'm hoping since it took a year to get big enough it won't reform. I don't want to have the procedure again. If it wasn't painful beforehand I wouldn't have had the procedure done.

I'm hoping for the best. My significant other and I didn't have any problems with lubrucation before the procedure. Is that going to change now? What's the earliest I can become active again sexually? I'm a small girl and he's well endowed. How much is it going to hurt when we do again? Does the pain mostly having to do with inadequate lubrucation? Thank you for all of your information.
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replied June 15th, 2013
Story and questions
I just had the procedure on Thursday. I had the bartholin abcess for a year. Originally my ob was going to insert catheter but on day of procedure she said it wasn't large enough yet to follow through and hopefully would resolve on own which they normally do not. Within the last month it got larger where it was uncomfortable to sit and was throbbing. Before it was more of an annoyance and embarrassment to me. When I called ob she said they no longer do the catheter because they tend to not be successful and fall out. It was now big enough to do the marsupialuzation. I was very scared and wasn't happy about the length of healing. For a year I haven't been sexually active but now I have an awesome sex life. It seems when you can't have it you want it more.

The procedure was very painful. Lidocaine isn't pleasant. I even tried to make it less painful by using topical lidocaine 45 minutes prior to the procedure. During the procedure we found a very sensitive area that wasnt injected with lidocaine. I felt it 100%. A couple days out I'm very sore. Still sit on a pillow. It doesn't look any better or smaller down there. I take ibuprofen to help with swelling. I hope I get back to normal down there and heal fast. I want my sex life back!! My ob was honest with me about the procedure not preventing it from reforming. I'm hoping since it took a year to get big enough it won't reform. I don't want to have the procedure again. If it wasn't painful beforehand I wouldn't have had the procedure done.

I'm hoping for the best. My significant other and I didn't have any problems with lubrucation before the procedure. Is that going to change now? What's the earliest I can become active again sexually? I'm a small girl and he's well endowed. How much is it going to hurt when we do again? Does the pain mostly having to do with inadequate lubrucation? Thank you for all of your information.
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replied June 15th, 2013
Story and questions
I just had the procedure on Thursday. I had the bartholin abcess for a year. Originally my ob was going to insert catheter but on day of procedure she said it wasn't large enough yet to follow through and hopefully would resolve on own which they normally do not. Within the last month it got larger where it was uncomfortable to sit and was throbbing. Before it was more of an annoyance and embarrassment to me. When I called ob she said they no longer do the catheter because they tend to not be successful and fall out. It was now big enough to do the marsupialuzation. I was very scared and wasn't happy about the length of healing. For a year I haven't been sexually active but now I have an awesome sex life. It seems when you can't have it you want it more.

The procedure was very painful. Lidocaine isn't pleasant. I even tried to make it less painful by using topical lidocaine 45 minutes prior to the procedure. During the procedure we found a very sensitive area that wasnt injected with lidocaine. I felt it 100%. A couple days out I'm very sore. Still sit on a pillow. It doesn't look any better or smaller down there. I take ibuprofen to help with swelling. I hope I get back to normal down there and heal fast. I want my sex life back!! My ob was honest with me about the procedure not preventing it from reforming. I'm hoping since it took a year to get big enough it won't reform. I don't want to have the procedure again. If it wasn't painful beforehand I wouldn't have had the procedure done.

I'm hoping for the best. My significant other and I didn't have any problems with lubrucation before the procedure. Is that going to change now? What's the earliest I can become active again sexually? I'm a small girl and he's well endowed. How much is it going to hurt when we do again? Does the pain mostly having to do with inadequate lubrucation? Thank you for all of your information.
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replied June 24th, 2013
painful sex after marsupialization
Hi all,
I first had the abcess last year December and after going to a Dr. he performed incision and drainage. The cyst came back 2 weeks ago... a day before my periods. Well this time I was referred to a gynae and he recommended Marsupialization. The procedure took place last week...I was very anxious but I wanted to get it over and done with it... the huge swelling wasnt comfortable at all. The procedure was done under local anesthesia,it was very painful after the surgery. After I got home I had to pee, was a bit scared and had to call the Dr to confirm if it was okay to pee...he said it was okay. After peeing, the cloth that been inserted there to stop the bleeding came off and a few drops of blood scared the hell out of me and hubby. I rested till morning, moving from side to side was also quite painful.....rested the whole day too but had 2 sitz baths one in the morning and the other in the evening.

Couldn't walk well for the first 2 days.but reported to work after 3 days.

It has been a week and it has healed quite well so far....only stings a little when I pee. I have been having a sitz bath for 1 hour every evening.

Angelnurse11, I would also like to know after how long I can have sex, from the recent posts it seems I have to invest in lube.
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replied July 14th, 2013
struggling recovery...please help.
Hi I had a bartholin glad marsupilization done 6 days ago...and i'm really worried. i feel like the stitches are tight and i am swollen (this has gone down but i still have a significant amount) my whole left side was bruised but it is fading slowly...i feel stinging constantly. the only position that feels comfortable is laing on my back with my legs open. and i am bleeding from a small area (mostly at night) and sometimes its mucus and blood. im very depressed because when i look down there i feel so deformed and the pain is really getting to my head. i hope someone had an experience simiar to this and it turned out to be nothing...beause i really do not want to have issues down there. i have been taking 3-4 sitz baths a day- warm water and betadine...and when i go to the br i rinse with betadine and water and then just water....i have a blow up ring tube seat if i need to sit up. ive been taking good care of this...even icing after sitz baths...i'm still in pain and uncomfortable! It worries me that others have had relatively easy recoveries and i'm struggling. it makes me think something has gone wrong.
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replied July 23rd, 2013
i have had my 3rd marsupilization and am totally fed up. i have had about 7 lumps now 6cm x 6cm everytime, 4 have burst with antibiotics. the surgeon won't take the gland out as it is a very messy (bloody) op. if the female surgeon had to go through the pain they would have the gland took out there and then!!! it is a week now since my last op, and i still have a small lump as big as it was before the last flare up. the stitches are still in but i am feeling more comfortable. i can't take much more of this and next time i am referred to gynae i am demanding they take the gland out!!!! i am so scared to have sex, as it always swells after, but usually goes down to a pea size. knowing my luck it won't go down again it will just go on swelling, and then another op looms
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replied August 12th, 2013
I didn't have any pain the pain meds my ob prescribed I didn't take them because I felt fine and as far as a lubrication problem my husband and I didn't have any problems with it everything was normal now we waited 8 weeks because the surgery was preformed two weeks after I gave birth so we waited the normal 6 weeks and an extra 2 and my ob checked me and said the liquid stitches had dissolved and I was good to go
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replied September 11th, 2013
Cyst
Hi..

I have had an Bartholins gland cyst for over 5 years... I never was painful it just swelled up more than its original size durning sex ..in April I finally got it drained (I just delivered a baby so I was still numb with the epidural).. About 2-3 weeks later it came back and was kinda painful for a couple days then it went away...

I went in for a check up last week for other reasons and they said that I should think about having it removed.. After thinking long and hard I finally agreed and when I seen the doctor she said that she could put me to sleep and I works feel a thing...

I got it removed yesterday... She told me that she drained it and folded the walls of the gland back. She said that this will help any and everything flow correctly.... And when I look at it or feel it it would look like a flower... She said the risk of it coming back is very low. And it will heal frim the inside out so I'm guessing there is stil a whole there.

I have no pain as of now. I was up walking and doing normal things yesterday ( cooking/cleaning). I plan to return back to work next week. Hopefully the pain stays away. I probably won't attempt to have sex until after my check up in 4 weeks...
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replied October 7th, 2014
Marsupialization was a piece of cake.
I had a marsupialization three weeks ago. It was performed by an OB/GYN with just a local numbing shot. The procedure was not painful, nor was the recovery process. I didn't take any pain medicine and worked the next day. I did not experience much bleeding but the incision does drain for several days. I still have swelling around the area but I think it's the stitches are layered and have not dissolved yet. I'm not sure of the eventual outcome but this procedure it was not at all traumatic. The procedure was my second to rid myself of the cyst. The first was a simple drainage procedure, fifteen years prior. I can see there is an obvious, new opening but it's tucked virtually inside the opening of the vagina and not easy to see from a "visitor" perspective.
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replied November 8th, 2014
I had a marsup. at UCL hosp, London, pain lasted 4 days and then 3 weeks for the stitches to fall out...
however ever since then I keep oozing out mucus and blood on a monthly basis, and my whole gland gets cystic ...I"m tired of taking cough syrup, there is no infection either, just stupid grey/clear mucus which was never there before..I had to stop all intercourse and am now waiting to have the thing removed at the same hospital, they are the only ones I trust in this city
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replied September 9th, 2015
vulvodynia after marsupialization?
Hi everyone, I had Marsupialization about 3 months ago but the skin on that spot still feels inflamed. Has anyone had this? Prior to the cyst I had a vestibulectomy to get rid of my vulvodynia. My vulvodynia was gone but i am scared it came back because of the marsupialization. I am going back to the doctor next week..
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replied September 10th, 2015
hello, we seem to have have similar issues. I also had vulvodynia (pure nerve pain, no burning and no stinging) caused by this moter... cyst! in the end I had to take amitriptyline for the past 2 years for this and is the only thing that worked.
I also had inflammation for about 10 months after the marsup. surgery, but gladly it stopped swelling and discharging and finally finally healed after 10 months!
It looks perfectly aesthetical now.

anyway, back to our issues. Yes, the swollen skin thing. I used vagisil cream because it has zinc oxide in it, it's really good. Also lidocaine gel and and my secret weapon against inflammation... diclofenac sodium suppositories (not pessaries). a lot of hot baths helped too, with pure sea salt.
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