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need help with mother sistuations

hi i havent been on for a while i have been busy.but i have a question my mom has a drinking problem and a smoking problem.but what bothers me the most is the drinking..i have talked to her about it and told her how i feel but she always chooses to go back to da beer.she clams she goes to meetings but i know she dosent and i never get time with her cause shes always in her room drinkin. shes been drinkin for 20 years and these last to years of high school i want a"clean mom".im usually the one to take care of her when she cant walk and to but her to bed.and im the one to help take care of my older brother with disablities.do you have any advice that would help me and my mom?
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replied May 3rd, 2008
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hi, babygirl.

I think you've done all that you can. Unfortunately alcoholism is a very personal, deep and consuming disease that can only be overcome with a lot of dedication.... when you're ready. It's deeply individual. You can support her and help her, but, in the end, the decision to stop drinking is her own... there is nothing you can do about that.

There has to be a time when you have to separate yourself from what is going on... for your own sake. I think that since you'll be leaving highschool soon and hopefully you'll be on to bigger and better things, you should be focussing on that. Do NOT sacrifice yourself because of this alcoholism. It is not yours to deal with.

There are many support groups and organizations available all over the world. Try googling some of them (I don't know the names off hand, but there will be so many). Coming to Ehealth was a great decision if you ask me. We're all here to talk to and to give advice!

Just be strong!
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replied May 3rd, 2008
tha
thank you hun,
god bless you.
Very Happy
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replied May 4th, 2008
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You too!
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replied May 4th, 2008
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HEy there

I really do admire your strength and courage to assist your mom. You're a very strong girl, sounds like you have turned into the mom... How old are you? What have you done so far- As far as treatment? You're very responsible! Have you spoke with anyone about this as far as getting help for youself too? People with drinking problems are extreamly difficult to deal with. I have been there. Take care of yourself... Please keep us updated
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replied July 29th, 2019
Thank you for asking at Ehealth forum!

I read your question and I understand your concern.
You both would need rehabilitation in specialised centre. Do regular exercise and yoga.
I hope it helps. Stay in touch with your healthcare provider for further guidance as our answers are just for education and counselling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit to a doctor.
Take care
Khan
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