I need help! I am 25 weeks pregnant with my first child. It's a boy! I'm so excited. However, the father and I are NOT together, never will be (at least that's the way I feel now). We will both be involved with the baby's life but he will be living with me, my son that is. I'm confused on whether or not to give the baby my last name or the fathers considering that we are NOT together. What should I do? Remember, the father will be involved but I will be taking care of the baby for the most part. Need advice please!!!
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replied November 25th, 2008
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If the father doesn't care I would give the baby my last name only. If the father does care and is going to be involved and wants his son to take his name then I would hyphenate the last name, so that the baby has both. If baby is going to be living with you, and you are going to be the one enrolling him in school and such, then it's practical for baby to have the same name as you.
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replied November 25th, 2008
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Just remember; if the child has his last name; the father has as many rights as you. Actually, if you put on the birth certificate that you know who the father is, it grants him as much a right to anything.

My sister just went through this. However, she's incredibly nieve. Her bf was abusive, immature and useless. He likes crack more than his son. What she should have done is listed that she hadn't any idea who the father is, because now she cannot travel with her son; as he won't grant permission.

If you can focus on what's in store ahead, and he seems like a terrible father/role model.uggest claiming you don't know who the father is and give it your last name.

I know this was a bit much, but i can't stress it enough.
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