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cheating boyfriend depressed or bipolar ?

Hi I am 27 and I recently found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me with multiple people. To start off, we have had a very rocky relationship from the start where he had just come out of a 7 yr relationship with his ex. We were together for 4 years and I realized he had a hard time committing to me. I understood that he was scared of failure again. I noticed that each woman he cheated on me with knew of the problems we had. He took the time to go in great detail with them. Now I don't know if it was a ploy to get them into bed feeling sorry for him or if he was trying to find a reason to be in bed with another woman. What was his motivation and why did he talk so negativley about me when he always tells me he loves me and cares for me? Is it possible he might be depressed or bipolar?

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replied March 20th, 2008
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Not necessarily. When you get a man on the rebound you are playing with fire. Just coming off of a marriage or relationship always seems to bring trouble. But, there are those that make it just fine. It could be that he still has feelings for his X and is unsure of any relationship right now. I would have to venture to say that does not mean he is Bipolar, just unsure right now of anything.

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replied July 20th, 2011
I have bipolar and I do not cheat. There are many of us like that. If someone cheats and blames their illness, then get away.
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replied August 1st, 2011
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I agree with you, friend1977, if he is using a bipolar disorder for cheating, he is still thinking about- he's not schizophrenic. bipolar disorder is just rapid mood changes, not a multiple personality disorder. get out asap
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replied September 16th, 2011
i think as a bipolar they always cheat.i have the experience this guy when he met his first gf they lived together.when g1 is not ther he wants to met the g2.when g1 leaved this guy he looked another g3.as a bipolar i think they always want different women.until now that guy he always cheated his new gf when he lost the 3 girls.better to loose a cheater than he always hurt your feelings for what his doing
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replied September 17th, 2011
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I'm sorry to say this, but your post made absolutely no sense to me..
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replied January 2nd, 2014
Prromiscuity can be a sign of bi polar disorder but there are many other signs as well
Is he sleeping 3 hours and feeling fully rested? Or speaking very quicky which is called pressured speech?
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replied February 6th, 2019
Thank you for asking at Ehealth forum!

I read your question and I understand your concern.
These symptoms are neither consistent with depression nor with bipolar disorder.
However, it could be due to personality disorder.
I hope it helps. Stay in touch with your healthcare provider for further guidance as our answers are just for education and counselling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit to a doctor.
Take care
Khan
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