Hello i'm Sure That If You Are Reading This It's Because You Think You Might Be In Danger Of Having A Miscarriage Or Just Experienced One. Either Way I'm Truly Sorry And I Completely Understand What You Are Going Through. I Decided To Share My Story Because While I Was Going Through All The Ups And Downs Of A Complicated Pregnancy I Searched The Web For Similar Stories Of Woman Who Were Going Through The Same Type Of Issues. I Came Across Various Posts But Most Were So Old From Years Back. I Welcome Any One Who Wants To Share Their Story Or Simply Join The Discussion On Miscarriage. I'm 27 And I Had My Miscarriage 2 Days Ago At 10 Weeks Pregnant, This Is My Story....

After 7 Months Of TTC I Finally Got My BFP & My Husband And I Were So Happy! We Were Delighted In The Fact That Our 2 Year Old Was Gonna Be A Big Brother. I Have Had An Ectopic Pregnancy (3 Years Ago) So It Was Very Important To Start Early Testing And Ultrasounds To Confirm That The Baby Was In The Uterus Where It Belongs And Not A Repeat Ectopic. My OBGYN Started Testing My HCG Levels And Giving Me Weekly Ultrasounds. She First Noticed That My HCG Levels Were Rising But Not Doubling Like They Should She Also Noticed My Progesterone Levels Were Low. So Week After Week I Was Told That She Did Not Think Things Were Progressing Like They Should But There Was Still Hope And She Would Schedule Me For The Following Week. On Ultrasound It Was Exciting When She Confirmed That The Sac Was Visible In The Uterus Which Meant That It Was Not An Ectopic. She Prescribed Progesterone Vaginal Suppositories For Me To Take Twice A Day In Hopes That My Progesterone Would Rise And Help Support The Pregnancy. In My Experience All It Seem To Do Was Prolong A Pregnancy That Was No Longer Progressing. I Knew Something Was Wrong When My Ultrasound Measurements Came Back At 6 Weeks, There Was No Way That My Dates Were That Far Off! I Believe That Meant That The Baby Stopped Growing At 6 Weeks. My OBGYN Scheduled Me For One Last Ultrasound, She Wanted To Be 100% Sure That The Pregnancy Was No Longer Progressing. She Advised Me That If There Was No Change Or Progression Then We Would Be Discussing A Medical Induced Miscarriage. This All Took Place On A Wed And She Scheduled My Last ultrasound for the Next Wed. The Next Day I Started To Spot Very Little And Only When I Wiped so I Called My OBGYN The Next Day Early In The Morning To Let Her Know And She Told Me to Go to The Hospital Because I Am RH Negative And I Might Need A Shoot. I Was There For Close to 6 Hours And All They Did Was Run Lab Work And An Ultrasound That Showed Not Much More Than What My OBGYN Seen The Day Before, By This Point my Bleeding Was Gone So They Just Sent Me Home And Told Me to Follow Up With My OBGYN. This All Happened On Friday...Saturday Morning I Woke Up Felling Cramps Like I Would If I Was Starting My Period. I Got Up And Noticed That I Was Now Bleeding Like A Normal Period. I Then Knew That This Was The Beginning Of My Miscarriage. I Thought About My Options And I Decided That The Comfort Of My Own Home Where My Husband Can Watch Over Me Versus The Hospital Where All U Do Is Sit And Wait, I Wanted To Be At Home With My Family. I Watched Out For Any Hemorrhaging And Decided To Just let My Body Do What It Needed To Do. After About 2 Hours Of Mild Cramping And Medium Flow The Pain Got So Bad. It Was So Intense And A lot Like Labor Pains. The Pain Got So Bad That I Just Moaned And Cried. My Husband Filled Up Water Bottles With Hot Water And Placed Them On My Stomach And Back And It Helped Relief That Pain A Bit. I Had These Bad Cramps For A Total Of About 5 Hours I Kept Going to The Bathroom And Checking The Bleeding And It Was Not That bad I Guess I Can Compare it to a heavy period it had small clots but nothing too bad. i didn't know what to expect when it came down to passing the sac and did not know if i would even know when i did. then it happened, i suddenly felt a gush of blood come out and then another gush so i stood up to go to the bathroom and i felt something quite big slide out of me i knew then that it was the sac. i looked down on my pad and there it was! I Was Not Prepared To See What I Was Looking At, It Was Larger Than What I Imagined It Was About The Size Of A Grapefruit But It Looked Like A Deflated Balloon It Had What Looked Like Vanes Running Through It And I Could See I Ball Inside Of It. I Knew That Was The Baby Inside Of it And I Just Was not Prepared To See My Precious Lil Angel Like That So I Decided To Not Open It. I Called My Husband And Told Him That I Passed The Sac And If He Wanted To See It For Him To Come Inside. He Opened The Door And Looked At The Sac He Held Me And Told Me It Was All In Gods Plan And That Everything Was Gonna Be Ok. After I Passed The Sac I Went Back To Bed And Like A Miracle The Pain Was Gone. 2 Days Later I'm Still Bleeding Like A Mild Period But No More Clots And No More Pain. i Have My Follow Up On Wed To Make Sure I Passed Everything Which I'm pretty Sure I Did. I Can't Explain Why But I Haven't Cried Once About The Lost Of My Child. I Feel The Sadness But At The Same Time I Have A 2 Year Old To Take Care Of And I Just Feel Like I Need To Move On But At The Same Time I Feel Like I AM Not Giving My Self The Chance To Grief. I'm Sure With Time I Will Feel Better Inside and Out. Thank You For Listening To My Story And If I Can Help Anyone Who Has Any Questions Regarding My Experience Feel Free To Ask.
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replied March 8th, 2011
your story really helped me, a lot, nearly a month ago now i had a miscarriage at 5 weeks, passed everything through and i'd only knew i was pregnant for a week, im only 15 years of age so it was very difficult for me to go through it basically on my own, your story has helped me realise you can be strong about things if needs be... I cry every day because i dont have anything to consentrate on but now i know that there is always something to do to keep your mind off things, im so sorry for your loss, i wish you luck in the future.
Amy,x
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replied March 9th, 2011
To both of you ladies, I had a miscarriage as well back in the month of December 2010, I was only 5 weeks pregnant and went to the ER but like you they did not do much but run lab exams.. the miscarriage took place at my house as well and I was all alone I don't know where I got the courage from but when I felt it come down I looked at "it" and cried and felt so sad and alone, not having my boyfriends support at that time made it even worse! Sad I have a son who is 8 years old but just the thought of expecting a new baby made me so happy! I wish the doctor's would tell us why these things happened so we can be more care full or prevent them, when I asked why! all they said was "we don't know they just happen", I went back on the pill but haven't been taking them as I should.. I hope I get that lovely feeling of expecting a new baby soon Smile and I wish both of you the best of luck in conceiving soon.. my prayers go out to you
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replied March 10th, 2011
Amy,

It makes me so happy to know that my story has helped you, I'm So Sorry for your loss *hug* It Is Something Very Difficult For An Adult To Go Through Yet Alone Some One Your Age. You Have Your Whole Life Ahead Of You, Take This As An Unfortunate Event But A life Experience You Will Never Forget But Can Live Through & Move Forward From. Please Make It A Goal To Be more Careful With Your Future Sexual Encounters, Use Protection And Possibly A Birth Control As A Back Up. I Don't Want To Sound Like Some After School Commercial but I Just Want To Help You with Some Advice. Always Always Use A Condom! I Can't Stress That Enough Because There Are So Many bad STD's Out There That U Do Not Want To Catch. There Should Be No Rush For A Baby, You Are So Young enjoy life. Hang Out with friends And embrace the experiences you will have with school, friends and boys. trust me u may not think so now but school, friends, & boys are gonna be the years you think back on as an adult and think, "wow those were the good old days" so enjoy every last min! in the far future when u find the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and you are ready to make the choice of bringing a child in to this world you can make that decision as a couple. I Wish you so much luck and prosperity in your young life and feel free to send me a message if u ever need some one to talk to, u are not alone. take care & enjoy life ok
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replied March 10th, 2011
S831

I'm So Sorry For Your Loss It Must Have Been Hard To Have This Happen While You were Alone but that's why I'm here starting this post to help with the emotional support one desperately needs after a miscarriage and i know ppl try to tell you how sorry they are but it's hard for someone to relate unless they have gone through it themselves. i agree with you about doctor's not giving much information about the subject, i have gotten the same type of answers "these things happen" when i ask why they say, "we don't really know" the only thing that helps ease my mind is thinking that god knows why he does things and it was just not meant to be. I'm Going on 5 days since my miscarriage and emotionally i'm just exhausted! My Dr Has Given Me Instructions Of Waiting At Least 3 More Months before i try again and to me that seems like so long! I'm also scared of it happening again, are you trying to conceive? let me know how things go for you and i'm sending you lots of STICKY BABY DUST my prayers and thoughts go out to you keep in touch
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replied March 10th, 2011
Hi! I must say I know what you are all going through. At age 18 I had my first eptopic pregnancy. I was treated with methotrexate and went on to be okay. My Husband and i began TTC about a year and half ago and I was pregnant! Was so excited only to start bleeding and go through yet another miscarriage. We got thru it and began to try again! Guess what Pregnant Again and yet again a Miscarriage at about 6 weeks. After about four months we were pregnant again! My obgyn put me on the progestrone suppositories and baby asprin. I was at work one day and began having very bad pain. The next thing i remember was waking up in the hospital a day later. I had a ruptured Ectopic. I had to receive 3 units of blood and i was very close to not making it. That was in Nov 2010. We are now seeing a specialist and I just had my dye test done and my tubes are clear and in good working condition! So we have got the go ahead to TTC again. All my bloodwork came back normal. I am back on projestrone. I have to start it on the 16th day of my cycle and when i am schduled to start my period i will take a test to see if im pregnant. If so continue the suppositories if not I will start the process over again. This has been such a long road and battle for me and my husband. We are trying so hard to keep our heads up and fingers crossed!
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replied July 2nd, 2011
What did your ectopic pregnancy feel like? Did you have any symptoms? Because I just had my second miscarriage and I don't know if it was too early but they never saw a sac and during the pregnancy I had belly pain on my right side that ran down my leg. I'm not sure if maybe I pulled a muscle or something instead. I had the miscarriage 5 days ago and I stopped bleeding yesterday, but my leg still aches. The doctor couldn't assure me that it wasn't an ectopic pregnancy, but clots came out and she said that was a good sign of it not being an ectopic.
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replied March 10th, 2011
@Scard4MyAngel-

Thank you so much your post really helped me a lot, I had to let it all out, even though about 2 months have passed by it feels like if it was just yesterday, and well after the miscarriage I got my period and went back on b/c I'm not sure of wanting any more kids I am so confused, specially because I had to deal with this all alone, I am still with my BF, but I have not been taking the pills as I should, so far no sign of pregnancy, and I think its just not my time to be a mom once again yet, I am waiting to see if for this month of March I get my menstrual cycle back to normal if so.. I am giving up for a while and will start B/C as directed no more missing pills, but if there is a pregnancy it will be great!, I will keep you posted and dont give up, they have told me you can conceive right away, my prayers go out to you, I hope next time we post something we will get to say how excited we are to be pregos Smile
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replied March 10th, 2011
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waitingwishing123,

wave Hello and welcome to the forum, wow You Sure Have Been Through A Lot And It's Wonderful To See That No Matter What You And Your Husband Are Pulling Through It All, Keep Your Head Up & Don't Give Up because At The End Of The Road All Your Hard Work And Perseverance Will Pay Off When You Have A Beautiful Healthy Baby Embraced In Your Arms baby . I'm Curious As To Why Your OBGYN Did Not Monitor You Closely with your last pregnancy that ended in a ruptured ectopic Confused , Given Your Ectopic Pregnancy History Before She Placed You On Progesterone She Should Have Insured A Intro uterine Pregnancy By Ultrasound. I Had An Ectopic and My tube ruptured and had to be removed thumbsdwn so it is VERY important to be very closely monitored as soon as you get that Positive On Your HPT. You Run A Higher Risk For A Repeat Ectopic So Your OBGYN Should Give You Weekly Ultrasounds Until The Pregnancy Is Visible In The Uterus. It's Great News That Your Tubes Are Looking good And Healthy thumbsup So That's A big PLUS! The Suppositories Are A Pain In the Neck UGH Rolling Eyes The Things We Do To Have a Baby lol Well At Least I Didn't Like Em They Were So Leaky And I Had To Wear A Pad The 15 days I was On them but like i said it's all worth it in the end. Sometimes In The Battle of TTC we Forget The Importance Of Intimacy As A Couple lovers it becomes some what of a chore so try not to make it a "job" i would recommend bringing the romance back in to it and just relaxing and going with the flow. I'm not saying that this is your case or that you and your husband aren't romantic i'm just trying to give a lil advice as this is what happened between my husband and i. for a while it became all about ovulation charts and it almost became a duty of his lol it was like, "honey i'm fertile this week so i'm gonna need your swimmers" I Thinks It's More Fun And Less Stressful If You Make The Effort To Make It Fun And Sexy shimmy . So Good Luck And STICKY BABY DUST headed your way! keep in touch and let us know how everything works out good luck honey!
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replied March 10th, 2011
TO: S831
S831

Thank You For Your Reply hey I Understand Your Confusion about not knowing if u are ready to try again shrug 2 months is not that much time to get all your thoughts and emotions in order eek so just give it time and i think things will get clearer and you will become more sure of how you feel and where you stand regarding the subject. I know it can be so hard to take the pill as they are directed, i'm so forgetful when it comes to meds being taken at the same time each day Shocked so have you though of another type of birth control? also quick question, how long after your miscarriage did it take to get your period Question
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replied March 11th, 2011
@Scared4MyAngel,

Well the miscarriage took place on the 9th of December 2010, I only bled for about 4 days and it was not heavy bleeding at all, I got my period exactly a a month later and bled normally in the month of January, I got back on the pills, but been forgetting to take them Neutral for the past month of February I got it a week late and I was only bleeding for about 3 days and very very light, I could have used 1 pad the whole day that's how light it was! Rolling Eyes (my period usually last 5-6 days), and yes 2 months is too soon I am so confused things with my BF are also up and down I feel like after what happened we've been more apart sad2 hope I get back on track this month and give it some time.. how are you feeling now? are you better? I hope so Smile
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replied March 12th, 2011
I was closely monitored by my ob I had a ultrasound done one week before my tube ruptured, and i was due for another ultrasound the following day, however it was still to early for my docs to really see anything. But this time around Im with a RGI and have lots of faith in him! Will keep you all posted!
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replied March 12th, 2011
S831

I Guess With everything Our Body has been going through it's gonna take a while before it regulates itself and our periods get more normal. I'm sorry to hear that things with your boy friend are not going so good, have you tried having a deep conversation? maybe it will help if you both share what you are feeling concerning your miscarriage it couldn't hurt to share your confusion and fears with each other and see where he stands. i am feeling a whole lot better thanks for asking. my bleeding is almost gone so I'm thankful for that. I have labs once a week for the next three weeks to make sure my HCG levels are going down to 0 & an App with my OBGYN at the end of the three weeks because she wants me to get on some type of birth control for 3 months. I'm not to thrilled about it because i don't like the idea of taking any kind of hormones. I don't like the side affects associated with most birth control methods so i'm gonna try to let her know how i feel about taking birth control and see how she takes it. after all its my body so if she doesn't like what i have to say i can find a Dr who will respect my wishes. wow ok i just went on a rant! ha ha! i guess i just needed to get that out, well i hope your boyfriend can realize that he has a very special lil lady in his life and he learns to appreciate and value you. good luck sweetie! keep me updated
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replied March 12th, 2011
waitingwishing123


Oh I See, yeah sometimes its too early to see anything and all that does is keep you stressed and worried well at least that's what it did to me. I'm glad you found someone you can trust and have faith in I Hope everything works out for you! Definitely Keep Us Posted
Take Care Cause We CARE
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replied March 24th, 2011
Just Thought I Would Get An Update On You Ladies, How Is Everyone? Any One Pregnant Yet? Hope Everyone Is Doing Good & Healthy!
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replied March 25th, 2011
Not prego yet,,,working on it though. just started doing my ovulation tests! So hopefully it will be soon! What about you?
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replied March 25th, 2011
Haven't Officially started trying yet, my obgyn told me to wait three months but i have had unprotected sex with my husband so there's that possibility. I'm glad to hear your trying again, at least the attempting part can be fun lol I've been reading up on TTC and how to get to know your body well enough to know when you are ovulating like taking notes on Cervical Mucous & Basal Body Temp, Have You Ever tried any of these methods? I haven't but I'm looking to try it out. I know my obgyn told me to wait 3 months but i can't see myself waiting so long. I have read countless articles that state there is no real scientific research to back up the theory that not waiting after a miscarriage is bad. I have also read so many stories of women who get pregnant the month of their miscarriage without even having a period and they go off to have healthy pregnancies. I simply think when your body is ready for it it will happen, what do you think?
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replied April 24th, 2011
Sorry to butt into your conversations people but i was just wondering if i could ask you all to help me. I had a miscarriage just before new year. But the baby didnt come out until my next period in Jan. Since then i have had Brown discharge after every period. is this normal? I have had painful period pains and pelvic pain too.
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replied April 25th, 2011
no need to apologize & u are not butting in, every one is welcome to join and ask questions...sorry that i can not help u on your question because i have only had one miscarriage (natural) & my body was able to expel everything it needed to...it took me 6 weeks to get my first period and it seemed a lil heavier and lasted longer than usual but nothing too out of the ordinary...as to the pelvic pain and painful periods, well i always have bad cramps with my periods so it's not unusual for me...i don't have pelvic pain before or after my miscarriage so again sorry if my answer doesn't help u much...i hope u can find someone on here that can help u and provide u with a better response...good luck and take care
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replied May 9th, 2011
@ESSENCEofLOVE

Hello ts been a while since i was last on here... how are things with you have you tried conceiving yet? hope all is well

as for me the relationship i had with my bf ended a few weeks ago then got bak together last week i feel like im on a roller coaster! to be honest its not the same.. and about having kids i will not try at this moment at least not with him.. Sad
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replied May 10th, 2011
Hello S831 it has been a while...so sorry to hear about the problems u are having with your BF...with everything that is going on perhaps u are making the right choice by not conceiving at this moment...things do happen for a reason so don't get discouraged the time will come when u feel ready and confident in who u choose to be the father of your child...as for me I am currently coming up on my second period since the m/c...I have been taking my prenatal pills everyday like the dr told me to and I feel good...My hubby and I have been having unprotected sex with the thought of ,"if god wants it to happen it will" I'm anxious to see if my period does come, it's hard to calculate when I'm expected to get it because it seems like it is still regulating itself and Its too early to make out any type of pattern... I hope things get better for you in your relationship...thanks for keeping in touch! I'll make sure to keep u updated...keep your head up & take care!!
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replied May 16th, 2011
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August 2009, my husband said there was something different about me. He didn't know what it was or explain it. I was feeling tired all the time and certain things were making me feel sick.

We decided to pop to the shop and buy a HPT. I took the test that night after visiting my family. To our surpise it said 'pregnant'. We were both so excited. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but we weren't using any B/C. That was Wedensday.

2 Days later as I was going to bed, I went to the toilet and saw a light pink / brown colour on the paper. I was worried. I told my husband and we did some reading and though maybe implantation bleeding however my dates said I was 5 weeks so it couldn't have been that.

I woke up on Saturday morning to really bad cramping, I went to the toilet and all I saw was this bright red colour. I knew then I had lost my baby.

We were both very upset at losing our baby but we had each other. I was due to start a new job in the september and we were getting married in the June and my due date was 23/4/10,so it wasn't the best of times to fall pregnant and my husband and I decided that maybe it was for the best and we can try again sometime in the future.

That was nearly 2 years ago, I still think about the baby I lost, I occassionly cry and think about how life would be for my husband and me if the pregnancy had continued to term. I still want children but I worry that the same thing will happen again...

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that finds it hard to move on and cope with losing a baby regardless of how far you are. Although I understand it must be so much harder for those later on in their pregancy as they have had their first ultrasound, felt their baby move etc..

Things happen for a reason and when the time is right it will happen. I believe this and I know that when the time is right for my husband and me to become parents we will have our baby.

There is hope out there for everyone. You may miscarry this pregnancy but have a healthly one next time around. Keep smiling chin up.

If you feel the need to cry then cry. I wrote a letter to my baby. I know he / she won't ever read it but it gave me a way of understanding my feelings and something to focus on. I carry it with me all the time.
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replied May 16th, 2011
I feel Your Pain
AmyA,

Sorry to hear about your loss *hugs* I'm glad you wrote this post as it may help so many woman who are going through the pain of losing a baby. Like you said, no matter how far in to a pregnancy you are it hurts just as bad. It seems like you have taken some great steps in healing yourself emotionally like writing that letter to your little angel up in heaven. I realize that once you have experienced the loss of a baby it stays with you for ever and it almost robs you of the joy of being pregnant in the future. what I mean by that is that no matter what once you have experienced a miscarriage that thought of it happening again is always in the back of our minds. as hard as it may be I chose to not let that be my case, we should be able to enjoy the miracle of life just as any other woman, enjoy the progression of our pregnancies with thoughts of baby names and nursery decorations, not the thought of it happening again with every little twitch and pain we may feel. I know it is easier said than done but when the time comes and you get that BFP try to take that time to enjoy every single min of it. leave all the stress and negative thoughts behind you and surround yourself with love and happiness. Don't let the miscarriage haunt you in a way that it affects any future pregnancies. yes I understand that the pain is there, and no matter what u will never forget what happened but you must try to look past it and simply think of it as something god wanted and he knows why he does the things that he does. I wish u all the luck and best wishes on your quest to try to conceive, when the time is right it will happen for you. take care and once again thank you for sharing your story.
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replied June 22nd, 2011
I have had the Mirena IUD since Feb. 2010 but I got pregnant anyway and I had it removed 6-7-11. On 6-11-11 I miscarried our baby (I was 8 weeks along) I didn't even think that I had wanted another baby, but I was so wrong I wanted that baby so much and now I feel so guilty and can't stop crying. How long does it take to get over a miscarriage and stop feeling so sad.
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replied July 11th, 2011
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 2 miscarriages in a row, 6 months apart. You never get over it. With time though I feel better emotionally and my hope and desire to try to conceive again returns!
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