Please, can someone relate to the following for BP, all that my boyfriend displays normally.

1) Horrible rages out of the blue for nothings.
2)Blaming me for them, saying he is only responding to me
3) Very sexy and talking sex .
4) All over me in the beginning and getting colder later without reason
5)Saying Im too good for him, he would never make me happy
6) Switching phone off when depressed, disappearing.
7) Saying 'my head is like if I had a thousand thoughts '
Cool Contradictory statements, blowing hot and cold all the time.
9) Denying things he said and done
10) Trying to make me the bad person, the crazy one.
11) Lying, forgetting the lie and when confronted, saying I made it all up and need a shrink.
12) Not able to be intimate in public, like holding hands. Never kissed properly.
13) Too much washing hands and talk about microbes
14)Liking porn
15) Failled relationships, history of being abandoned by his ex partner
16)Incapable of emotion and afraid or being emotional in the relationship
17)Demonizing me and immediatelly adoring me in two sucessive emails
1Cool Breaking up with me for no reason, after a major depression day
19) Immediatelly getting a woman in a bar and saying she is his girlfriend now.
20)Telling me he does not like her and perhaps never will.
21) One night stands in the past.
22) Lack of empathy with me, telling me about his new woman over the phone 3 days after the break up.
23)Saying she is only a test for him (to know if he can 'feel ' more with her than he did with me)
24)not giving back my belongings
25) Forgetting who I was for him, his professed love of me, his plans to move in with me, he has just gone , one day I was his 'only woman', next day I was nothing.

I will really appreciate feed back, as this is so hard to face alone.
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First Helper Reggiane
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replied October 29th, 2010
He is bipolar. My wife is and I recognise the symptoms you describe. He will deny he has a problem, will give you a very hard time for suggesting he has one, and unfortunately as bipolar people can be very vibrant and attractive at times, you are going to have consider giving him up.
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replied October 29th, 2010
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I agree....he is BP.....the person I knew exhibited 99.9% of all the traits you listed. I had to let her go.....during one of her manic episodes I allowed her to believe what she wanted....even though it wasn't the truth to end the relationship. My advise is to let it go....don't go through all the heart ache and pain I did....and am still somewhat going through due to the love I felt/feel for this person.....
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replied October 29th, 2010
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Thank you both very much. I also firmly believe he is BP, however I love him. He has just phoned me again to say the new 'girlfriend' is nothing for him, and is starting to come back to me as I thought he would. But Im really scared to go back to him, so I want to be friends only now, so i can see him but not get involved with him in a way that I'll suffer again.
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replied October 30th, 2010
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IMO....it will happen again and again thus you are wise in staying out of a full blown relationship with this person.
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replied November 4th, 2010
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exact situation with my guy. he tells people he likes me and if i say i like him, he just says im obsessing because i actually do have ocd instead of taking the responsibility for his actions, ditching me to hang out with other friends, and also when i asked to watch him bowl, hes in a league, he says sure but when i watch him he gets mad and when i ask him why hes mad he says he isnt, and then after ditches me and says i am stalking him and i am obsessing over him. i am in the exact same boat, i had a cry about it today and my parents are tired of dealing with it so they are staying out of my life until i am clean of him.
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replied November 5th, 2010
Without meds it will 100% happen over and over...I have been going through about 60% of your symptons listed above with my husband for four years. If you can get out...run for the hills! We have a young daughter together and a new home...plus, he started meds back in May, when he was diagnosed, which is when EVERYTHING finally made sense...so I'm giving in a final go around. It's meds or I'm out. It's been better, but if I did not have a house or child with him, sadly I would have ended in May. The years ahead of you w/ a unmedicated BP person will be HELL...guaranteed, and most likely to love will slowly die from the pain. Good luck.
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replied November 5th, 2010
I'm new to this site and I too have been researching and gathering all I can on this disorder.. It's like a bad mind game and I try to imagine if it were my mind (bp).. It's like one minute he has manners n the next minute he is calling our cat ugly.. He admits he has depression but needs to stop thinking manic (the good funny energized guy is the cured guy) so now were at the point of let's just be friends again it's every 3 months I'm exhausted n In love n want the world for this person.. Are BP males/females capable of love, feeling, emotions, when he gets (cold,weird, funny thing with his lip I know it's gonna start n the weird talking says things to purposely push and hurt or annoy me.. It's like he is unconscious n a new person appears he try to not make it obvious like he is struggling keeping up with the norm routine it is now becoming predictable ( heart breaking) help please
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replied December 25th, 2010
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Id like to add that another trait i feel is lying, as i saw it many times, also, when confronted my bf said he lied tottaly about the 'woman', she does not exist. Actually, he made up SO many details about this affair that it seems quite impossible to believe that ALL was a lie, however, he is saying now that ALL was a lie.
He must have an incredible immagination, as even name she had. He is back with me and now seems to want to come clean on this lie, I dont know what to believe anymore, has anybody with a bP partner ever had to deal with lies to that extent and without much reason. He said he is extremely sorry and things will improve, but needs to be seen.
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replied January 2nd, 2011
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I have seen/been exposed to all the traits you list. Once again....get out of this relationship....once you do and have time to reflect you'll start to realize all the hurt and destruction you suffered. It took me 2.5 years to finally realize it.....don't waste time like I did....get out of it now while your still sane hon.

Chris
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replied January 2nd, 2011
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Medications may or may not work....only time will tell. Everyone’s body chemistry is different thus what works for one may not work for another. It’s going to take time to determine if the meds are going to be the proper mix. I highly suggest you and him both see a physiologist at least once a week during this time frame (if you’re not already doing so). Hopefully they will find the proper mix for him and I pray for you and your daughter’s sake he takes them religiously.

Chris


enoughisenoughwhen wrote:
Without meds it will 100% happen over and over...I have been going through about 60% of your symptons listed above with my husband for four years. If you can get out...run for the hills! We have a young daughter together and a new home...plus, he started meds back in May, when he was diagnosed, which is when EVERYTHING finally made sense...so I'm giving in a final go around. It's meds or I'm out. It's been better, but if I did not have a house or child with him, sadly I would have ended in May. The years ahead of you w/ a unmedicated BP person will be HELL...guaranteed, and most likely to love will slowly die from the pain. Good luck.
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replied April 23rd, 2011
I have experienced everything that you mentioned except for one thing. He never admit that the girls he slept with is his girlfriend. I can't believe i've been with a bipolar! Now it got me thinking. Is it possible my daughter would turn into a bipolar when she grows older? Can it be inherited?

Any Idea Reggianne?
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replied May 2nd, 2011
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They dont admit to things easily. They dont like to call girfriends or boyfriends by this name, so they say 'my friend'. They dont admit to being wrong. As far as I know BP runs in families and my bf's daughter is also probably BP, she is very complicated and he himself said she has problems. But not all children become BP, he has more children from his previous relationship and they are ok.
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replied May 3rd, 2011
Aww.. that's kinda bother me coz she got the same blood type as her father. I remember the last time I found out my ex slept with a girl whom he said he met in a resto. I've ask him a several times if he like this girl or want to live with her and said he's not that crazy to take a sl*t seriously and insist it was just a one night stand. Ohh.. and the girl he slept with got the nerve to insult and threat me because said I am a psycho with a bad attitude.
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