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Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and he's getting inpatient with me. The thing is I'm a Virgin and I am very nervous to loose my virginity because of how my Clitorus looks! Towards the bottom of my vagina my Clitorus just hangs out.. Is this normal? Because all my friends I've asked have said that theirs is all tucked in which makes me feel really unconscious but I'm to embarrassed to talk to my mum or my doctor. I've read online that "large" cliteros' are normal but that's not the only thing I'm worried about, with it hanging out a little the way it does I'm worried that the boy would freak out or worse, didn't know where to put it or something like that. I've been putting off sex with him because I don't even know how sex fully works, I can't tell where the boy would go, I don't know if this makes sense and I'm sorry if it doesn't but please reply as soon as you can. Thank you
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replied September 28th, 2016
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It sounds like you are talking about your inner lips, not your clitoris. Your clitoris is a small little organ looking like the pink eraser on a pencil. It is where your lips come together in the front.

Every woman looks differently. That is what is making you unique. If every girl and every boy looked the same, the world would be a very boring place. A normal healthy woman can have lives that are completely hidden, peeking out, sticking out or hanging out. The left and right side is likely uneven. The lips are uneven. It can be smooth or bumpy and uneven. It can be thin or thick. If=t can be pink, wine red, deep purple, dark brown or close to black. It is likely darker on the edge than the rest.

If you want to see what normal healthy women look like, you can look at plaster casts that was made to show women just how varied we are. Google for "great walks of vagina panels".

You should not feel pressured for sex. If that is what your boyfriend is doing, get rid of him. It is your body and your decision. He has no right to your body. But if you do decide to have sex, please be careful. Protect yourself.

It may also be a good idea to google for "female anatomy diagram", take a mirror and identify your own parts. That is an important part of your sexual education, as is learning to masturbate and orgasm on your own.

Take care, and PLEASE be careful.
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