Well..its back. My PPD came back. I am so hateful and frustrated toward myself. I am such a a-hole of a mother. I can't even toilet train my kid.

Is there really more to life than this? Honest to god, I sit home here and clean house, only to have it destroyed 2 minutes later. I change diapers all day, feed mouths. I can't stand not working. I loved my job. I felt like I had a sense of belonging in the world. My husband works shift work, and when he actaully get a day off, he goes and does other stuff. he doesn't pay any attention to us. This drives me insane. I find he is sooo flipping selffish. Infact, he is probably one of the momst selfish people I know. There are things that I would like to do, without kids hanging off me. Whenever I need to run out, he always say,"" how long you gonna be". " I need to go here"..can you be back in 10 minutes?" Just stuff like that God i am mad today, every once in awhile, I think back to when i didn't have any kids, and wonder what it would be like.
Don't get me wrong I love them, but I didn't ask to be a married (single ) mother, I thought we were in this together. I guess I am cramping his style....
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replied June 4th, 2008
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gah i can tell ya i know how you feel! I would seriously consider seeing your dr about how your feeling. My husband just tells me i need to get out more like i really enjoy going places just me and the kids and my son doesnt listen to me at all! Im like maybe I want YOU to ocme with me, cuz he will just sit at home. but then one time i was gone for like not even 3 hrs and he flipped on how i was gone forever not that it made a difference to himc uz the kids were taking a nap the entire time! So he is backwards and gah i dunno. But i know exactly how you feel, my husband is just a couch decoration i call him. I do everything! It irks me sooo much when i have to lift his dirty feet up to wash the coffee table while he sits on the computer , he doesnt even move
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replied June 4th, 2008
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talk to him. tell him how you feel without getting angry. tell him how important it is that you get what you need. don't fume about things that don't really have anything to do with the real issue. just find the time to sit down and talk about it seriously and ask for exactly what you need. just lay it out like you did here. sounds sensible to me and he is supposed to be your partner so you either work together or you don't. there is nothing i hate more in the world than when a man thinks it is babysitting when he watches his own kids. you just have to be assertive and know what you need so you can demand it.

i have similar problems once in a while when he forgets but i just take the time to remind him how things work around here and we get along just fine after that.
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