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Is my unborn baby better off without her dad?

I'm 8 weeks away from giving birth to our first child together (i have a 4 yr old from a previous relationship) my boyfriend has shown no interest in becoming a father. He's not even bothered coming with me to scans or midwife appointments or even bothered to ask if things are ok. I've known the sex of our baby for 8 weeks whilst he hasn't got a clue whats going on, he has 3 kids from a previous relationship who he adores and has plenty of time for but couldnt give a monkeys about our daughter. Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation? I dont know whether to end this relationship as i feel my daughter is better off with no father than one who doesn't care. Or do i hold on until she arrives and hope things will get better. I would really appreciate any advice from a different point of view because this anxiety and depression i have been suffering is not healthy for any of us
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replied July 26th, 2010
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The best way out now is to let go of the things. Wait for your delivery to happen first, if he shows any interest after he sees the baby, you will know that he can be a good father. If not, then you can end the relationship based on your discretion with what you have experienced while being with your partner.
Do not wear out yourself now with this, focus on good nutrition and rest and a safe delivery. You will be a good mother to your daughter as you think about her future before she is born. So do not worry she needs a good parent and you will be one.
Take care.

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