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Is my husband bipolar or just selfish? (Page 3)


September 11th, 2010
I agree with others that your husband is profoundly narcisstic. I do not detect bipolar traits. Bipolar Disorder is defined by mood swings of mania and depression- a chemical imbalance. Usually people with narcisstic personality disorder (NPD) have problems at work as well- I'll bet he is a pain in the neck there too and he may have been fired or gotten into trouble. The hallmark of NPD is a lack of empathy and introspection. There is a lot of information on the internet about malignant narcissism- it might help you to read more about it. There is help out there for families trying to deal with this. Understand that it is prevalent and these people unfortunately are resistant to change or getting help to improve interpersonal relationships. They are delusional about their inflated sense of self-worth. It is sometimes called "magical thinking".

Your husband is a sociopath with a lot of bad behavior- your life will not improve if you do not take the first step. You owe it to your kids and yourself to make plans to leave and make a better life for yourselves. One final thought- people with NPD have a very difficult time with mid-life issues. Your husband is a set-up for a midlife crisis. The final irony would be for him to cast you aside for a 20 something bimbo. He will think nothing of throwing you under the bus to fulfill his selfish and infantile desires. Look how often it happens with celebrities. You can draw your own conclusions but I suspect that most of them have NPD in spades.

I wish you good luck with improving your situation.
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replied October 6th, 2010
well, my 'partner' has pretty much identical symptoms to your husband - so i think it is more likely that it is a syndrome or disorder, rather than these just being one-off bad people.
mine behaves as if possessed, sometimes. his behaviour is breathtakingly awful and i am in a mild to strong state of shock/turmoil most of the time (all of the time, i think).

his parents don't know what to do with him, and his mother often talks about how he needs to go to the doctor. i think she knows something i don't.

so, in my humble opinion, as everything you describe is totally the same, i think we have ourselves a condition here.

frankly i think the only solution is a deep river and some concrete boots. : ( FOR HIM.
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replied October 7th, 2010
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I don't think it is bi-polar. Well, maybe partly.

But, from my own experience he was more reckless. Throwing money away (literally.. cash out the truck window), breaking things, disappearing for extended periods..demanding that I dedicate my life to him 24/7 and calling me names when I continued to have a life anyway. Going on spending sprees, leaping into risky behavior without a thought to anyone else. On some occasions he was delusional.. he would get some wild idea in his head (dead wrong)..and day after day he would embellish it to the point where it was totally off the wall!..and he would believe it.

But... screaming at the kids? foul language all the time? Your hubby doesn't seem like BP that I knew or what the medical people here describe.

Still.. I think you should use the old 'Ann Landers' rule... ask yourself this: are you better off with him or without him? What will life be like when it is just you and him..no one else in the household to abuse? What will your kids be like after an entire childhood of growing up with that? They will likely think that the relationship they saw their entire childhood is normal, and seek the same for themselves in adulthood. (statistical fact).

Think long and hard on this.... then act.
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replied October 5th, 2011
Replying to "Is my husband bipolar or just selfish?" :
Hi Carrie,
I think your husband IS bipolar... only he uses it as an excuse to do whatever he wants at everyone elses expense. I married a man less than a year ago who does the same things your husband does. My husband is also displaying obsessive compulsive behavior, is emotionally abusive to me, refuses to go to counseling or get a proper diagnosis, makes me do all of the work at home, including mowing the lawn and taking out the trash, and is unbelievably and extremely selfish. I have done a ton of research on bipolar disorder and these are all commonly reported behaviors of a bipolar person and the bipolar person's family, however, not all bipolar persons use their problem as an excuse to continue treating loved ones abusively. Their intellect did not stop working, and they can choose to get help.
You should know that without treatment, his condition will worsen, and he could escalate to violence. When my husband started acting out of control, and became emotionally abusive, I opened a secret bank account and started stashing money there in case I needed to get away from him. As his crazymaking increased, he started to border on physical abuse, and that's when I decided I would need to remove myself from his presence. I already had almost a thousand dollars saved, and I took the money out of the account and left him a note saying that I was not leaving the marriage but that I did not feel safe. I asked him to get help. Your situation involves children, and if any of them get hurt by your husband, you could lose your children. I venture to say that there might even be things he may have already done to them that you may not be aware of. Speaking personally, I don't think I would take that chance. It would be a different story if he were willingly working on his issues, but he is not. I can so relate to what you are going through, and I hope you get up the courage to have some "tough love" toward him. Abuse is never okay, and he makes a conscious choice to do it each and every time he does it. No person should have to put up with that, it is destructive.
Bless you,
Anonymous
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replied October 5th, 2011
Replying to "Is my husband bipolar or just selfish?" :
Hi Carrie,
I think your husband IS bipolar... only he uses it as an excuse to do whatever he wants at everyone elses expense. I married a man less than a year ago who does the same things your husband does. Only I didn't find out he was like that until after I married him. I was devastated. My husband is also displaying obsessive compulsive behavior, is emotionally abusive to me, refuses to go to counseling or get a proper diagnosis, makes me do all of the work at home, including mowing the lawn and taking out the trash, and is unbelievably and extremely selfish. I have done a ton of research on bipolar disorder and these are all commonly reported behaviors of a bipolar person as reported by the bipolar person's family, however, not all bipolar persons use their problem as an excuse to continue treating loved ones abusively or selfishly. Their intellect did not stop working, and they can choose to treat people with respect and to also get help.
You should know that without treatment, his condition will worsen, and he could escalate to violence. When my husband started acting out of control, and became emotionally abusive, I opened a secret bank account and started stashing money there in case I needed to get away from him. As his crazymaking increased, he started to border on physical abuse, and that's when I decided I would need to remove myself from his presence. I already had almost a thousand dollars saved, and I took the money out of the account and left him a note saying that I was not leaving the marriage but that I did not feel safe. I asked him to get help. Your situation involves children, and if any of them get hurt by your husband, you could lose your children. I venture to say that there might even be things he may have already done to them that you may not be aware of. Speaking personally, I don't think I would take that chance. It would be a different story if he were willingly working on his issues, but he is not. I can so relate to what you are going through, and I hope you get up the courage to have some "tough love" toward him. Abuse is never okay, and he makes a conscious choice to do it -- each and every time he does it. No person should have to put up with that, it is destructive, unhealthy, and unsafe. He has an obligation to take responsibility for his own issues and his own health, even if he needs help doing that, and he is not insane or paralyzed -- in other words, he is fully capable of doing that, he just chooses not to. You have done everything you can... you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink... that's on him.
Bless you,
Anonymous
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replied December 3rd, 2011
My husband displays most of the same behaviours you guys have described. However, he is usually a great dad. Sometimes he loses his temper and shouts at them but this is not often and he is mostly wonderful with them. It is just be that bares the brunt of his mood swings and anger. I can literally feel a shift in the atmosphere when he goes into a mood. It is like walking on egg-shells. He threw a plate of dinner at the wall last night because I dared to call him out on snapping at me and calling me names. This can't just be coincidence, it seems there are too many of them exhibiting the same behaviour. Any thoughts? I'd love to hear what has happened with Carrie since you last post?
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replied January 21st, 2012
my husband IS bipolar - diagnosed, takes meds (i'm among the lucky, believe it or not) too bummed to write more. will keep reading and hope i can grow to be of help to someone - Anyone. thanks for reading.
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replied January 21st, 2012
Bipolar or mean and selfish!
Wow how can this all be so common? I have been married 15 years. We did separate once for a few months, and have tired counseling several times. He is almost always a great Dad to our son, but horrible to me. Over the years he has cheated, abuses me verbally, ignores me unless he wants sex, but doesnt want to talk to me or spend time with me. He just wants to "do it" and go to sleep. No connection what so ever. He spends hours a day on the computer and porn sites, and will not help me around the house. His mother has warned me years ago that he was mean and a womanizer just like his father. I feel used daily. He doesnt even say hello to me when i come home from work. We work opposite shifts, but he wont do anything to help me on his days off. He acts like our sons best friend, making me be the one to have him do homework, brush his teeth and shower. He calls me names infront of our son will cause fights every where ruining vacations, holidays even leaving me places. I have finally decided i am done! But i am worried my son will be angry at me and want to stay with his dad. He already tells me daddy is the fun one. All i ever do is work and clean. What do i do?
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replied February 1st, 2012
WOW!! I thought I was the only Wife out there who was going through HELL!! I too have been married to a MEAN man for 18 1/2 years! Just like all the rest, he can be wonderful, loving, giving and kind at times..BUT those times are few! If things go wrong, it's my fault..I don't do anything right, I never have the right answers or solutions. I am too stupid and too busy tending to something else. I cook, clean, and like ALOT of others out there, serve him too! WTH..we are not Lucille Ball and those days are over when a Woman needed to serve a Man on hand and foot! I work a full 40 hour week too! We have 1 daughter, and I must do everything for her! Now lets get into Money shall we? He makes more than 1/2 of what I do, has TONS of money in the bank, safe, pocket, etc.. I don't! We must pay 1/2 of everything down to the penny for groceries, utilities, etc. I end up with nothing from my paycheck after, yet he has plenty! Let me tell you he will splurge for fine restaurants, drinks, hotels, trips, clothing, jewelry, etc..but only when HE wants too and most of the time it is to impress family and friends! He never talks to me, I have to be the first to say Hello and initiate a conversation. Our sex life..well, he needs me for that and pretty much it's done! No cuddling, holding hands, kissing, hugging.. I have seen him with MY family members and friends, and he is so attentive, caring and respectful to them, and treats me like Sh**! I have talked to him so many times about how I feel, and it is just blown out of proportion, he twists my words and it only ends up with me being more hurt than when we started! I have grown to hate this Man, I despise him. I am starting to do things that I know will hurt him if he found out..such as taking money from his stash, and I don't want to be deceitful or spiteful like that! When we do have sex, I try and think of some cute movie star, to just try and enjoy it! I am a Catholic Woman, and I try and do what is the right thing, but I am not a doormat and I don't deserve to be treated like this. I cry all the time! I hate it already! I know he does have BP because he goes from one mood to the next in a matter of seconds, he blows up lightning quick. He treats his parents, brother, family members like crap! The only one he is decent to is his Sister, because she is basically the same miserable person as him..she has no life is a Single Woman who has never had a relationship or kids, and is just as moody as he is! Just like most of you, I too believe in my vows, for better or worse and in sickness and in health..but how much worse are we supposed to take?
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replied February 27th, 2012
Inside the jerk
I was diagnosed bi-polar . But I have recently discovered by loosing all my friends and family that it is because I'm very selfish . I dont know if this is a symptom or if im simply not nice to live with . I don't know I'm being that way till its pointed out to me . People don't behave like this on purpose . I don't. I never mean to upset people, but I'm very good at it . For this reason I am lonely . Maybe that's why I behave in such a grating manner . It's been said I'm a drama queen etc. I just can't think outside of my own head .
Hope a jerk saying why they are one helps .
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replied February 28th, 2012
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"Inside the jerk"

No..it doesn't help to have a jerk say he is a jerk.

The one thing a BP can decide to do is get help. Get the meds that work and TAKE THEM.

Read all of this again. What is the common thread?
BP who stops taking meds...or never takes them to start with.

You can choose to make it better.

Don't care if you know you are a jerk ..only care if you are willing to take the steps to keep it in check.
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replied February 28th, 2012
awarness
I am taking my meds.
I trying to make it better . All i want if for everyone to be happy , but my lack of confindence and over cautiousness makes for an irratating person who asks is everything ok all the time.
I don't like me very much as it's a constant struggle to fit in .I tired now . I think the best thing for Bp people is to live alone and choose the times most suitable to see people.
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replied February 28th, 2012
awarness
I am taking my meds.
I trying to make it better . All i want if for everyone to be happy , but my lack of confindence and over cautiousness makes for an irratating person who asks is everything ok all the time.
I don't like me very much as it's a constant struggle to fit in .I tired now . I think the best thing for Bp people is to live alone and choose the times most suitable to see people.I think we can all agree on that .
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replied September 2nd, 2012
Narcissists
These guys you are describing are narcissists. That is a personality disorder. It is characterizes by entitlement, self aggrandizing, the inability to sincerely connect, or be honest about ones own shortcomings, crazy-making disconnection from the effects of their choices and from shared reality. They position themselves to try to get without giving. It is the sad response of a person who never felt truly accepted as they are, but only for being some kind of performance extension of what was most likely their narcissistic parent. Somewhere along the line they figured they were unacceptable as they really were in their core self separate from their masks and so they erected a false self and now spend their lifetime trying to convince themselves and others that they are okay, more than okay, that they are special, and nearly perfect. Someone else is always to blame and the bad things that happen to them (even stuff that is clearly the result of their choosing) is a disjointed patchwork disconnected from the reality of their choices. If you even nick the thin veneer - watch out. They will turn on you with vengeance. Their mask self is their God (their only sense of okay-ness that covers a roiling mess of wounds, and insecurity that they do not to acknowledge consciously) and if you mess with that you are trying to destroy them in their minds. That's how it feels to them, even though being accepted as they really are is the one thing they truly long for. Yet they will never you give you that chance. No. You might reject them. You might see them and see that they are not loveable. Full blown, addicting narcissists will not allow anyone that kind of access - and therefore cannot heal.

The most confusing thing about being in a relationship with a narcissist is that they "can" meet your needs and sometimes do. What it takes some time and pain to realize though in relation to them is that they only meet your need when it meets their need to do so. You might think it's that they care for you, but it is always about them. For example they pull it together and are very kind on a day when they feel the need to think of themselves as a "good guy," or they want you to come with them to a family gathering after they have abused you. Or perhaps your friends are around and he wants to show off how kind he is in front of others to stroke their image, etc... It's always about them. You don't exist. No one does but them. You are an extension of them and your value is only equivalent to your service to them. Stop making them feel good and see if you have any ground to appeal to their love and commitment to you. Their lack of care can seem almost sociopathic dependent on their level of un-health. No.

You are with a narcissist, and unless he is willing to openly acknowledge his inner shame and fear and consistently deal with it with God and with others who are safe and he allows close enough to gain his trust and help him over a long intentional period of time - he will not get better. You cannot help him. Give him to God.

God allows divorce for marital unfaithfulness. I believe marital unfaithfulness involves three A's not just the one we usually think of. They are adultery, addiction, and abuse. God doesn't want you to stay in any of those situations. The truth is staying isn't good for the abuser either. He will never learn of have the gift of feeling the honest pain of his bad choices if you always pay the price for him. God set up a natural course of sowing and reaping to help us interact with reality and have a chance to know Him - to know truth and love and something bigger than ourselves. Get out of the way of what God wants to to do in your life, in your children's lives and in his. You are being abused. Any man who would call your daughter that is abusive and you and your children should get out - and now.
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replied September 2nd, 2012
Narcissists
These guys you are describing are narcissists. That is a personality disorder. It is characterizes by entitlement, self aggrandizing, the inability to sincerely connect, or be honest about ones own shortcomings, crazy-making disconnection from the effects of their choices and from shared reality. They position themselves to try to get without giving. It is the sad response of a person who never felt truly accepted as they are, but only for being some kind of performance extension of what was most likely their narcissistic parent. Somewhere along the line they figured they were unacceptable as they really were in their core self separate from their masks and so they erected a false self and now spend their lifetime trying to convince themselves and others that they are okay, more than okay, that they are special, and nearly perfect. Someone else is always to blame and the bad things that happen to them (even stuff that is clearly the result of their choosing) is a disjointed patchwork disconnected from the reality of their choices. If you even nick the thin veneer - watch out. They will turn on you with vengeance. Their mask self is their God (their only sense of okay-ness that covers a roiling mess of wounds, and insecurity that they do not to acknowledge consciously) and if you mess with that you are trying to destroy them in their minds. That's how it feels to them, even though being accepted as they really are is the one thing they truly long for. Yet they will never you give you that chance. No. You might reject them. You might see them and see that they are not loveable. Full blown, addicting narcissists will not allow anyone that kind of access - and therefore cannot heal.

The most confusing thing about being in a relationship with a narcissist is that they "can" meet your needs and sometimes do. What it takes some time and pain to realize though in relation to them is that they only meet your need when it meets their need to do so. You might think it's that they care for you, but it is always about them. For example they pull it together and are very kind on a day when they feel the need to think of themselves as a "good guy," or they want you to come with them to a family gathering after they have abused you. Or perhaps your friends are around and he wants to show off how kind he is in front of others to stroke their image, etc... It's always about them. You don't exist. No one does but them. You are an extension of them and your value is only equivalent to your service to them. Stop making them feel good and see if you have any ground to appeal to their love and commitment to you. Their lack of care can seem almost sociopathic dependent on their level of un-health. No.

You are with a narcissist, and unless he is willing to openly acknowledge his inner shame and fear and consistently deal with it with God and with others who are safe and he allows close enough to gain his trust and help him over a long intentional period of time - he will not get better. You cannot help him. Give him to God.

God allows divorce for marital unfaithfulness. I believe marital unfaithfulness involves three A's not just the one we usually think of. They are adultery, addiction, and abuse. God doesn't want you to stay in any of those situations. The truth is staying isn't good for the abuser either. He will never learn of have the gift of feeling the honest pain of his bad choices if you always pay the price for him. God set up a natural course of sowing and reaping to help us interact with reality and have a chance to know Him - to know truth and love and something bigger than ourselves. Get out of the way of what God wants to to do in your life, in your children's lives and in his. You are being abused. Any man who would call your daughter that is abusive and you and your children should get out - and now.
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replied September 2nd, 2012
Often narcisstist can use words that we would use, but they don't mean the same things to them. "Communication" to them is a chess board with pieces you move to gain an upper hand. It is not about understanding, but about control and being one up. Love doesn't mean to them what we think it means. Words and their meanings are shifting sands with them. Used to keep people at bay and their cards under the table (even safe from their view). There is no solid ground in relation to them because they are not acccountable to truth, or to empathy, or relationship - only to protecting their image self.
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replied September 7th, 2012
YOU NEED HELP! Sorry, you just offended all people who are decent human beings with BP Me for one! How dare you accuse and criticize us for this illness, which is NOT OUR FAULT> Maybe God sent your message to me so I would have the opportunity to GET REAL (Sorry Dr. Phil) With my illness. I know I am BP, and I can still love, have genuine emotions of kindness and not ever want to hurt a single soul. You are a prime example of why the world is how it is! You seem so uncaring and sensitive, that I almost felt as if you must have been really hurt by someone with Bi-Polar-ism. If so, I deeply am sorry for your pain, and I know what we are capable of....But with love and understanding, and patience, and the right counseling, meds, we are the most feeling and sensitive people on this God Given Earth and I want you to know what your words have done for me, as insensitive as they were.....I know I am responsible for how I act, and things I say and do, and make sure I know I am accountable to those I have hurt. Not everyone is like that.....No matter what situation they are in. Illness or none! Please think about what you typed on here and take a second look at yourself in the mirror....It might wake you up. God Bless.
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replied December 13th, 2012
I need to somehow see if my husband is bipolar or has some other condition. He is mean and hateful towards me and is now disrespecting my mother for no reason. I know he is stressed but so am I. I've been unemployed for almost 3 years and have been actively looking but with some health issues I can't get just any job so it's hard. We're living off of one income, about to have our house go into foreclosure, late bills, etc... and I am stressed every day but he just goes ballistic.

He has called me names like Bessie (the cow), makes mooing sounds at me when he wants me to hurry up. He calls me Queen Oinks Alot. Yes I have a weight problem but not from eating. He goes on and on about how fat I am but when I barely eat he gets onto me about eating. He always wants to go to all you can eat buffets and I don't so he gets mad and gets an attitude and we end up going home or there have been times that we go to a restaurant and I order, then he gets an attitude and doesn't want to order anything so here I am looking like a fool because I ordered. This in ONLY because he didn't get to go to the buffet he wanted. Also, whenever I try to tell him something about himself, like that he needs a shower (he has very very poor hygiene) he replies with "get a job" or tells me I stink not him (and I shower at least every other day, sometimes every day). He wants me to constantly be cleaning the house and looking for a job. Our house is cluttered with mostly his stuff and if I move it he gets mad. Then he wonders why the house is messy. I could clean around his stuff until it was spotless but it wouldn't matter because he would just notice where I didn't clean and say I didn't do a thing. He won't even take trash out. He has only two real chores around the house. The lawn mowing (which he only does when he absolutely has to) and taking out the trash. I end up taking out the trash more than him. The trash can in the kitchen gets so full it starts spilling out onto the floor, I tell him he needs to take it out and he either gives me a mean reply or he says he'll do it later which usually means I have to do it. I've even started a new trash bag hoping he gets the hint. NOPE.

He works 8 hours a day and comes home expecting dinner to be ready exactly when he comes home and this is by 5 pm. He then gets on his computer and does nothing the rest of the night. He says he works. I worked full time 8-12 hours per day on some days and still had to come home, make dinner, clean house, do dishes, etc... He came home and sat at his computer then too.

Lately he's been disrespecting my mother by telling me he blames all my problems on my mom. Just because I don't think like he does, he thinks I have mental issues and my growing up and moving around a lot is the reason. He thinks that if others don't see it as he sees it, there's something wrong with them, not him. I have pointed some things out to him and have proven him wrong and then he gets mad and cops an attitude.

Oh I could go on and on about all his issues and his attitude towards me. He thinks he's perfect and I'm just a pile of garbage. We have no kids (thank goodness). I have seriously thought of telling him off and leaving but I don't have anywhere I can go really, or anywhere I want to go. We have 4 cats and I am NOT leaving them with him. He would turn on them eventually and I know he would forget to feed them or give them water. He sure wouldn't clean the cat boxes, know that for a fact.
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replied May 18th, 2014
LADIES PLEASE READ THIS:

If your husband is Satan's child meaning that he:
Blames you for everything
Rages at you - Absolute rage and pure spewing hatred
Verbally, emotionally, possibly physically abuses you
Has unreasonable expectations
Demeans you with digusting insults
Accuses you of cheating on him
Is Very Controlling - asks what you do, who you are with, etc.
Has tried to Isolate you or Has Isolated You - Keeps you from friends and family (insults them, tells you they are not good, has moved you far away from your support system)
Me Me Me - Thinks the world revolves around him
Has no genuine interest in you except what you can do for him
Has a superior, condescending, entitled attitude
Does not like to or rarely apologizes
Even if apologizes it is Not genunine as it happens again and again and again ....

He has NARCISSITIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
Read about it.
Narcissists Are Highly Controlling and HIGHLY ABUSIVE
He is an abusive man

One book you MUST READ:
Author - Lundy Bankcroft
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

This book has become a bible to me. Everything I have read in all your posts is exactly my husband. This book clarified everything for me.

One FACT: ABUSERS NEVER CHANGE
You can pray, you can beg, you can rationalize with him, you can cry, you can pretty much cry and depress and worry yourself to death (which happens as they slowly erode your soul) BUT HE WILL NEVER CHANGE

These people what the Bible calls "Reprobate"
They possess all the traits of Satan himself and God says clearly in the Bible that we are to have Nothing To Do With Them. Reject Evil.
Traits of a reprobate:
Conniving, Self Centered, Devious, Calculating, Ruthless, Vindictive, Highly Manipulative, Expolitative
(Basically all the traits of Satan)

I am a good, honest, hard working, intelligent (I have 2 bachelors degrees and a Masters degree) kind woman

My husband has verbally abused me, mentally abused me, accused me of cheating, raged against me, thrown things at me, cursed at me even while pregnant, intimidated me, tried to control and isolate me, has insulted all my family members, etc. Threatened me to take my child if I leave him, to hurt me or my family, etc. Has promised to change, that he loves me, give him one more chance, etc. While he does take care of our child and is kind on occassion it is rare and he always shows his true colors again.

Do NOT WASTE 1 more second on a man like this. I have a 21 month old daughter. Our only child. I'll be damned if I'm going to have her watch me get called the most demeaning names imaginable. I have known him for 12 years and been married for 7. I am 33 years old.

MY PLAN
I fished around and got the name of a good attorney by talking to a few trusted friends. One friend described hers as a "Pitbull" This is exactly what I need. My appointment is coming up. Before that I made photocopies of every document we have and am keeping at my parents house. I opened a bank account at a bank he does not go to. I started withdrawing cash and putting it slowly into the account over a long period. I will go and take the advice of my attorney and make sure I get through this.

IF YOU ARE STAYING in an abusive situation with children involved you are NOT STRONG. You are Weak. It takes a Strong Woman to say NO - Enough is Enough. Be That Strong Woman. God has entrusted you with the most important job in the world. He put a child in your womb (not a man's womb) so that the child would be protected. In this world you are the protector of your child.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Trust me when I say this with 100% certainty. I am a highly educated woman. I have done tremendous research on these types of abusive men (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) - Bible Reprobates. They are of the DEVIL himself. They have given their soul to Satan. They Know and Understand Right From Wrong - they choose Wrong. Yes - They Choose to abuse you. You KNOW its a choice because they do NOT do it to anyone outside of the home. Its not that "he loses his temper" or he would "lose his temper" with others. He Chooses to Abuse you.

These men are Pure Evil. I know, I am married to one.

I promised myself I would do ANYTHING to protect my 21 month old daughter. I am getting ready to wage war against the devil in home. God and the Devil cannot live under the same roof. If you are a good Godly person, you CANNOT survive with Satan. You MUST REJECT SATAN. No matter how hard it is for you, or how inconvenient. I have a beautiful home, luxury cars, we have fantastic vacations, my daughter's nursery is larger than most peoples master bedrooms - I am giving it ALL UP. No wordly thing is worth the loss of your soul. These SATANIC demons from hell erode your soul and laugh inwardly. You know they are laughing because They Keep Doing It.

GET AWAY and live a real life. If you keep your children in this situation you by default ARE A ABUSER ALSO. If you are an accomplice in a bank robbery and sit and watch it happen in the getaway car you will be tried and found guilty. You cannot associate with Evil and claim to be good. You must REJECT EVIL. You must find the courage to leave. If you wont do it for yourself, pull out the MAMA BEAR and DEFEND YOUR CHILDREN.
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