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But well I dont get online much with the computer being in the bedroom but it looks soo much nicer in the house with it in our room. Lately all ive been doing is cleaning all the time! Jasons still on that game, the family advocacy lady was supposed to call this past week but i guess she forgot so i gotta call her tomorow. Its driving me up the wall! And this computer just sucks in general its an emachines and we really need a new one, it still runs like crud and there isnt anything extra on here! I cant even play the sims on here it takes about an hour just for the game to load! But im doing alright, still hate myself etc, ive gone days without eating then eating normal etc, its just hard when i feel alone even though jason is physically here but thats about it . His back is still hurt, last appt they did a nerve block or whatnot but I guess that didnt help him, something this month he goes back to landstuhl again i dunno what they are gonna do this time though. Joseph qualified for continuing speech therapy at the elementary school once he turns 3. He can actually count to 9 on his own though! its awesome, and lately he always says um excuse me it always makes me laugh cuz its just soo polite sounding coming from a tiny person. Wednesday we have a meeting up at the school. Friday they have physicals so i can register them for childcare in case they should need it. Tomorow jason should be getting this car from some dude for $500 wich we soo need with the gas being $4.14 a gallon. Because right now its like $100 to fill his truck and soon it will prob be over that with the gas prices like they are, so yeah we need a small car. Still got the dog and our cat. I got the kids a slip n slide yesterday spent the past 2 day soutside with em. I ended up getting sunburn today! Of course while i was outside with the kids jason was in the house playing that game! This past week he has either stayed up till 5-7am most nights or pulled an all nighter playing that game. its just ugh insane. some days it drives me crazy but then hes like well what do u want me to do theres nothing to do. Take the kids to the park sit outside with me and them , play with them etc. But yeah Im calling that lady tomorow cuz im sure she forgot to call, like she forgot the meeting we were supposed to have a week or so ago! Jordynnes doing good, she is talking some , learning from her big brother, she says no alot lol. Josephs so great hehe when he is done eating he always brings his plate to the kitchen and emptys it in the trash and puts it in the sink! I dont think there is much else going on other then the same old stuff! Just cleaning and more cleaning and reading books and writing in my journal. The internet just isnt that fun i dunno plus its too hot in this house ot sit in front of the computer since we dont have air conditioning in germany. But wow its 1:30am im prob gonna head to bed, who knows what time jason will decide to go to bed!
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replied June 3rd, 2008
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well i guess someone can delete this...........Smile
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replied June 3rd, 2008
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Don't be silly. I didn't even see it until just now (where have I been?).

Are you in counseling for yourself? Have you considered it? I think it would be beneficial to you with your feelings about yourself and all.

I wish it was sunny here! Its be raining today - hard. Sad
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replied June 3rd, 2008
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Sorry I didn't respond sooner. I saw this yesterday but Dan spilled milk on our keyboard and it wasn't working so I had to wait for him to come home and bring a new keyboard.

It sucks that you have to go through this and I say that because I have been there. I would like to say to just be a brat to him but that probably won't work. I would also like to say that maybe you can break something on the computer he plays on but that will just cause more problems. So... I guess that you are going to have to talk to him.

I think the important thing is to be careful about how you talk to him. Try not to make him feel you are nagging him to get off. Whenever I get the 'naggy' voice with dan I have to stop and reword everything or else he will do the opposite of what I ask him to do. It's a weird guy thing. I have learned to use 'I' a lot and be sweet and loving while I ask him if he could spend time with us.

If he uses the whole 'there's nothing to do' line maybe you can sweetly suggest a picnic with his favorite foods and then you all can go as a family. You can aslo see if there are any movies to go to or fun events in your area. Sometimes it takes a little work to get video game guys to realize that they are missing the real world.

I hope that the family advocate gets back to you soon!
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replied June 4th, 2008
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Diane, not many people come here naymore so don't ever expect a snappy response. Look at all the posts. . . barely any new ones.


Anyhow, i'm sorry your still having problems with Jason. You know, screw counceling. If he wants to sit on his ass all day, id tell him that I was leaving. . . .to go out and *HE* had to take care of the kids. I really don't know why you put up with it ya know? Why do you allow yourself to be treated this way? You know you deserve better and so do your children.
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replied June 4th, 2008
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Personally the only way I can see him stopping his addiction to that game is to go cold turkey. Unplug the computer, internet, whatever.. or put a password on it or something.. & he'll just have to deal with it. It's not like giving up a drug.. he's not going to get the shakes & vomit everywhere & act like a mess, he'll just need other things to distract him for a few days.

I do understand that it is a real addiction, but I can't see him "cutting down" so easily, so maybe just stopping altogether is the answer. It's not healthy for him to be spending so much time playing that game, he's a husband & a father. He needs to get his priorities straight.
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replied June 4th, 2008
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You're allowing him to be that way and it's time you stand up for you and your children.
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replied June 4th, 2008
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im sorry about my reply! I was having a bad day that day. But im good now. I duno he is starting to realize things and spending more time doing other things. This week has been super busy Today though i met with the people at the school, joseph will be attending a special education preschool wel its at the elementary school but the teacher specializes in special education. Its to help with his speech since he still qualifys for the program but they stop in home vists at 3. So for 300 minutes 2 days a week he will be at school, and has 40 min of speech therapy each week as well. We just got a car for $500 from someone on base so i can do al il more now. I got an appt for the kids for physicals for daycare registration on friday morning. tomorow i beleive the parenting lady comes by in the morning as well and i have to go mail something out. THen friday afternoon joseph has speech therapy. SO yeah busy busy busy! I go to the drs on the 17th again about my meds. cuz she just put me on the prozac almost a month ago so it may need to be uped most likely. I just hate having to tell them that i feel depressed cuz its not the anxiety that bothers me. but sometimes id rather jus tbe depressed and not happy.
I got lucky jasons at CQ again so i can be on the laptop , my desktop keeps doing weird stuff im waiting for the day it goes caput! I need to get on the ball saving to get rid of! And ive been playing the sims when i get the chance. We will see how this weekend goes with jason and his game. cus im to busy the next 2 days to do anything. We are broke so this weekend will be spent at home but i hope i can convice him to hang out in the front yard with me and the kids again, last weekend they played in the slip n slide. but we gotta get some sunblock!
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replied June 4th, 2008
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There is a very, very easy way to fix his addiction. Are you ready for it?

Change the password on his WoW account. Lock him out of it. Don't give him the new password, and force him to spend a week off of the game. This is time he should be spending with his children and his wife. Sitting in front of the computer all day long can't be good for his back problems, either.

To change his password, go to the official WoW website. I probably can't link it here because I'll be accused of spamming, but type 'WoW' into Google and it'll be your first hit. Click on "Account Management", enter his account name and password, then click "change password" once you're in. Bing, bang, easy.

If his addiction doesn't improve after a week, go directly to his CO. There are ways to get him out of this cycle without waiting for some lady to get around to calling you back.
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replied June 4th, 2008
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i dont know his password. or account name! i knew his old one at one point but it has since been changed cuz his account got suspended before. He has 2 WoW accounts.
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replied June 4th, 2008
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Okay, change of plan. Uninstall WoW and hide the game CD's somewhere where he won't look for them, like with the Christmas decorations or something.
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replied June 5th, 2008
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Well I hope he chooses you and his children over that silly game.

Thats great that Joseph is getting therapy. It will help him loads!
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replied June 5th, 2008
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I would like to think I would leave a man like that, but I'm not in your situation so obviously I don't know what I would do.

Good luck.
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replied June 8th, 2008
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Friday i did talk to the family adovacy lady, she advised me against taking the game off. More of him having to realize that it is a problem to stop. He was supposed to meet with her as well but he was on 24 hr duty. Wich hes been doing all weekend pretty much. He gets time to catch up on sleep only to do 24 hr duty again. Tomorow Im supposed to go and see her again, I guess to try and set up a day where she can meet with the both of us. So we will see what happens.
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replied June 26th, 2008
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Oh No WoW..... My husband and I play the evil game.. we call it WoW crack.. He is on 24/7 I play a litle bit daily but maybe an hour a day. ll I can say is turn off the internet for awhile. WoW is an addiction I will be the first to admit it. I use to play for hours and hours on end.
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