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Im 13 and want a baby

Okay well im 13 years old & i want to have a baby. I have a boyfriend who is 14 and we have been together for almost one year now. I have told him that I want a baby and he said he wants a baby too. We have had sex and we dont use a condom or anything like that.How do I tell my mom I want to have a baby??
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replied October 3rd, 2010
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Surely you are not serious?

You tell your mother from very very very far away where she cannot touch you before you had time to run away and hide from her. And I suggest that your boyfriend change his name and move away before your parents get a hold of him.

In most countries around the world, your boyfriend will be classified as a sex offender for statutory rape. You are underage and cannot consent to sex.

Why don't you rather grow up yourself first before trying to bring another life into the world? At 13 you are endangering your own life and the babies life. Added to that, the chances are OVERWHELMING that your baby will grow up in poverty and in a broken home with all the problems that goes with that. Do you think that will be fair to bring a baby into such a life?

Please do us all a favor and grow up first. Learn to take care of yourself before trying to have a baby. A baby is not a toy or a fad or a want or a need. A baby is a HUGE responsibility.
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replied October 12th, 2010
Wow, your 13 and already had sex!!!??? Im 14 and my boyfriend is 14 and gonna be 15 next month. We have almost been together a year, in december it will be a year. We have done basically everything but sex. Yet i knew him since 7th grade. We started dating december 1st of last year in 8th grade, now we are freshman. Your really moving too quickly in your relationship. I think i eeven pasted a stage where a wanted a baby but to be realistic,you have your whole life ahead of you, a baby will be hard to have in your hands at this point. You wont be able to continue school, or get a decent job because of the lack of schooling and you wont be able to go do those fun things like go out and have fun. And no, thats not why there are grandparents or any other sitter. if yppu have a baby you need to take ful responsibilty in it, no leaving baby behind to go to the movies or some club. No, you decided to gert pregnant and youneed to take responsibilty for it. Thats not a life you want. even getting pregnant in high school is ruff. My aunt and uncle had there first baby in senior year. Everything was fine at first been then yopu decide you want to go have fun and leave babies behind or the father. Things dont work out well. You need to live and have fun, go to school even if ypu dont like it, its for the best for you, trust me. Plus how do you know this guy is gonna be with you forever??? You are young, you need to be realistic, ok if your with this guy till senior year maybe college then start talking about a baby, because yes relationships can last. And if he is the right one, than you guys can wait to have a baby if you guys will be together forever. In the meantime if your gonna continue being sexually active use a condom because you can get a high chance of getting an STD. I know it may sound like crap and you may think "oh, psh we are both clean" you never know things could happen. And you might consider telling just your mom, sheshould understand if your open with her and tell her you wanna go get checked to see if your fine and nothings wrong, tell your boyfriend this. I am very close to your age and i truely do understand, you need to make sure your using protectioln of some sort, because in the long run, it can affect both of you. And if you do get pregnant and end up having an STD or something it will ruin the baby's life too. Contact me back for ,more info if you'd like because i do know alot that can help you.
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replied October 20th, 2010
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NO no NO!...how are you going to bring a child into this world when you are not even old enough to have a job! and if you dont have a job how are you going to support yourself AND this child?? Talk to your mother about getting a puppy if you want something to care for..at least a puppy you can give away if it isn't working out..a child is an 18 year commitment!! This is a terrible idea..you are still a child yourself
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replied January 27th, 2011
13 & wants a baby...
I was the same way when I was 13, but realized a long time later that I thought having would take me away from my current problems & give me my own life that I could live differently with my child than what I was stuck in. Maybe deep down, you feel the same, that you want to start your own life. But, please know that I was mistaken. I was the best mom I could be but the problems I thought would never come & happen to my children, came in like a flood & I found out too late. Please talk to someone you trust and that won't treat you badly or judge you. Smile
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replied January 27th, 2011
This is not a good idea. Do u and your boyfriend have your own home? your own vehicle? Jobs? can you afford to buy groceries? You will spend on average half a million dollars on a baby by time it reaches 18. are you ready to do that? probly not so its not a good idea. its not even a good idea to have sex that young, especially with out a condom.

I never had sex tell i was 17 and im proud of that, i unlike most people waited tell i was in love and I finished high school, then got a job and then started dating, when i was 17.(like i said earlier) ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and im currently 20 years old and cannot imagine having a baby. even though me and my boyfriend are finantialy stable, we are not mentally prepared for it and i can garantee neither are u. a child is a life long comitment. And a full time job.

Try working in a daycare. you can see what it is actually like to take care of a child for even a few hours. I bet you will change your mind on the whole baby ordeal after watching kids everyday. You have a whole future ahead of you and lots to experience and learn. Its not fair to bring a baby into the world when you cannot support it.
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replied January 27th, 2011
im 16 my b day is november 14th and i realy want a baby to i think im ready 4 it wat should i do??
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replied January 27th, 2011
Babygurl33, you are so young as well to have a baby. you have your whole life ahead of you. there are so many more young teens lately under estimating the difficulty of having a child. and if you are not mentaly ready for it, it can cause depression. and if you are not finantialy stable the baby will not be raised in a good environment.I went through phases when i was younger and i wanted to have a baby, i wanted someone there all the the time with unconditional love for me. But having a baby is not going to fix that. maybe you just feel lonely? Think about everything u will have to give up at such a young age to have a baby? you are young. you have plenty of years left to have a baby. just worry about living your life first
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replied January 29th, 2011
As a 13 year old, just for what you right as a post I can tell you don't have the maturity right there. I wanted a baby when I was 10 years old, I had a boyfriend when I was 13 too we stayed 3 years together, a real magical fairytale, he was a year older than me, he wanted babies too. BUT DO YOU REALLY THINK I WOULD HAVE A BABY AT THAT AGE MATURE OR NOT??? WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN???????????????????????

I am 25, from 13-25 honey A LOT HAPPENED, A LOT OF THINGS CHANGES, at 13 i thought this is the love of my life nothing changes, well guess what it does.

16 years old had an another boyfriend stayed with him for 4 years... thought of babies too... again you graduated and there is a different life that begins too. I am 25 , and now I am graduating from university, i have a fiance, not a boyfriend a fiance! and if we are still together maybe in two years we will try for a baby, this is how you should think this is maturity, this is stability.

There is so much things you should do before you have a baby, travel, meet new people, BUT FIRST OF ALL GROW UP, making a baby doesn't make you cool, or mature, responsible or make your couple happier...did you know most of couple breaks up after the baby??? and in most case its when the father wants a baby and then realise its more than that.

Babies are a lot, they wake up in the night, when they get their sleeping pattern they wake up at 5:30 am, they dont go easy in bed, you have to buy food, diapers AND OOHH GOSH IS IT EVER EXPENSIVE, how long do you think a box of diaper last in a week?? not long you need to find place and since your 13 you cannot get an apartment you are UNDER AGE!!! dont you dare to think your mom will take care of your baby, its not your mom responsability, she doesn't have to spent a dollar for it. if she wanted an another baby she will made and another one, that not up to you to do that.

Babies are cute but remember this do you want to raise a child and he found out you got it at 13... what an ashamed mother you will be.
people will laught at you,in a matter of fact i just show this post to my friends behind me, and they are all laughing at you.

Don't bring a baby in this world yet, it will just be misery for the beautiful baby.

And even if its been a year with your boyfriend doesnt mean it will last forever, trust me on that!!!!!!

Anyway if you want to be mature and a fantastic mom, YOU WILL WAIT AFTER YOUR GRADUATE FROM SCHOOL AND WHEN YOU HAVE A SERIOUS CAREER AND A ROOF!!

oo and working at mcdonalds.. doesn't pay much.. you dont get far with that in life...........

Anyway I hope you get your senses right and please protect yourself! because once you have a baby, freedom is over honey!
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replied December 11th, 2011
teen pregnancy.
im 13 and i want a baby too. and so does my boyfriend, we've had sex with a condom everytime and im on the pill. my mum and dad knows ive had sex with my boyfriend and that we both want a baby, my dad and mum have said that i should wait a bit longer and i do see where their coming from but im serious about a baby and so is my boyfriend. my boyfriend would be a great dad i know that for a fact cos he has a little sister and hes great with her!and if i really thought having a baby would wreck my life and make me miserable i wouldnt think of it so dont call me a stupid little kid.
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replied January 2nd, 2012
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look even if your parents are ok with you having sex and you and your boyfriend want a kid doesnt mean you guys should. you have no jobs you'd be relying on your parents. your boyfriend isnt gonna be a good dad just cuz he takes care of his little sister. it means he's a good bigger brother. this economy isnt ready for teens to have kids for the joy of it. this is a tough economy and to have a kid is to raise it meaning YOU KIDS THE PARENTS OF THAT CHILD have to support the baby. not your parents they may buy the diapers and foof not your parents otherwise the child's grandparents will be acting as parents the job YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND SHOULD DO. and yea not to offend you you are stupid little kid for even thinking that it wouldnt ruin your life cuz it would you would drop out of school and fail your classes and most likely your boyfriend would leave you even if they say they wont he will. go a month without sex and you'll most likely see he just wants sex and will be telling you anything you wanna here.
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replied March 31st, 2012
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Wreck your life and make you miserable? What about wrecking the child's life and making the child miserable? Did you think of that?
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replied January 2nd, 2012
Im 13 too and i want a baby but i havent has sex or anything. My parents wont have another child and they wont adopt i want one so bad because i love to take care of children and they are super cute! Whatshould i do?
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replied January 2nd, 2012
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Madison1313 you should be a baby sitter there you can take kids.
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replied January 2nd, 2012
One thing no one has mentioned is how much of a drain it will be on society. Having a child at any age without any income means you'll be on welfare and where do you think welfare money comes from? It comes from hard working people like myself. Why should I have to work two jobs so my taxes can support you when I can bearly feed myself because you want to be selfish. Too many people out there on welfare think they are owed that money. Well honey how many years of working two jobs and paying taxes have you or anyone else who is on SSI or welfare? I'm 38 yrs old. I chose in my early 30 not to have a child unless I could be home for the first few years; well that hasn't happened yet. I've wanted to be a mo
Since I was 17 but I wasn't going to put the burden on society. Welfare was made to help people get back on there feet well that isn't how it is these days. When I was In need of help for just a few months, I couldn't get it because I didn't have a child. How is that for me? I work my ass off pay taxes but cant get help but some decides to get pregnant and I get to support them. It's to the point that the raised social security taxes that my raise is no longer a raise and by the time I can retire social security will be out of money because people are to lazy and don't want to earn what they get. Don't get me wrong there are some people who really need to be on it. Point being don't be that person. You're better and smarter than that. Trust me you'll be much better parents if u wait till your mid to late twenties. Enjoy being a teen as long as you can please. Take care
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replied January 25th, 2012
To say she's immature based on what she posted is flat out stupid. You're immature for talking to a young girl like that saying she can't handle it based on statistics. There wouldn't be statistics if some people didn't find success in having a child at a young age. Honestly, the only good arguements are that she cant get a job and itd affect everyone else.
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replied March 31st, 2012
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So you're saying the only good arguments are ones against having a child at a young age. And those arguments pretty much show that taking care of the child is harmful to everyone and practically impossible.

Also, no one is talking about statistics. As far as I'm concerned, statistics don't matter. What matters are the vast multitude of logical reasons not to have a baby when you're 13.
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replied January 26th, 2012
If you read my post I said she IS smarter than that, that i have no dout she'd be a good mom and that I was not downing her. Talking about maturity, why are you only looking for the negitive in the post instead of encouragement? How old are you?How is stating the facts stupid? And yes you do do a lot of growing up between the ages of 13-16 16-18 and 18-21 21-25 25-29 30-38 and so on. If you think it's ok to have a child without income then you take your paycheck and support that child so the 13 year olds don't have to go on welfare and you babysit the baby while she goes to school. Good luck with that.
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replied March 6th, 2012
wow you are so young and have so much ahead of u.. my brother was 13 and his gf was 18 when they had there lil boy.. Im not goin to tell you what to do because it looks like u have made ur mind up already but kids r hard work, there not easy and having a baby will never bring two people together or keep them together. my brother and his gf went through a load of hard times and still are she is 20 and he is 15 and they have had baby number two and its crazy because he can not do anything that he wanted to do... all in all he is a great dad and she is an ok mom but they were way to young and i think u really need to think about this before making a descion .. ur only young way young u got ya whole life ahead of u get out there live life and then settle down ur to young ,...
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replied March 31st, 2012
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Um, your brother's girlfriend is guilty of continuous statutory rape.
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replied March 19th, 2012
I'm 14 in I want to have a baby
I've told my mom but no way a parent is going.
To alow there child to get pregnant ,because so call parent say we are there babies in some little way we are.
If you need any tips inbox me your mom will be mad for a few sec. then she'll think about it every parent different mine is. If you want a baby bad enough tell her its all worth it GOOD LUCK girlie
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replied March 31st, 2012
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It's not because parents think of you as their babies. They will be fine with you having children when you're adults and are fully capable of taking care of yourselves as well as other people.

It does not matter how much you want a baby. Wanting a baby is not like wanting a puppy. There is a human child to be considered. Having a baby just because you want one is a selfish and cruel act.
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