I am 16 years old. I'm a straight A student, never been in trouble before or anything. I've had a boyfriend for almost 2 years and I decided I trusted him enough to lose my virginity. We used a condom, and I only did it once, but somehow I got pregnant.. How unlucky. At first I tried to see if I could get an abortion without my parents knowing but I can't in my state. So I told my mom and she was disappointed but didn't freak out. She already went through my sister having a baby at 17, and my mom herself had a baby at 18. My mom immediately expected me to have the baby, but when I told her I wanted an abortion she flipped out and said that was never going to happen. My boyfriend doesn't want to give the baby up for adoption and I don't want to keep it because I have always hated kids and I sure don't want my own. I love my boyfriend more than anything and now that I have to become a mother just to stay with him breaks my heart and I feel trapped. I think I'm going to kill myself soon because I don't think I'll graduate high school and go to college like I planned, and the thought of having a baby makes me sick to my stomach. Nothing makes me happy anymore, I don't leave the house because I've gained so much weight and I don't want anyone to know I'm pregnant. I'm so ashamed of myself and I just want to go to sleep and never wake up again. My parents have told all my family about me being pregnant and everyone is so excited except me. My boyfriend reads parenting books all day and is constantly babying me and I can't stand it anymore. I'm already 17wks so there is no way for me to obtain an abortion anyways. It's too late, my life is already ruined. When I think of my future I just want to cry because of how much I hate kids. The crying drives me insane, they're not even cute in my eyes, and all they do is make messy diapers. I think I may have a week left. I feel so awful and I don't want to do this to my boyfriend but I can't give birth, it's the most terrifying thing I can think of. The thought of a baby coming out of me makes me want to puke. I'm being forced into motherhood and I just can't let that happen so I think I am going to take a whole bottle of zoloft I've been saving. I wish I could be a normal girl and be excited about having a baby but it makes me feel trapped in my own body.
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replied January 31st, 2013
You are 16 years old. You have so much to live for. I don't know how your life is but nothing should be that bad to want to take your own life. I understand you don't want kids, but unfortunately it happened. Choose adoption. You are the mother that is your choice. It would be very difficult to be stuck between feeling forced to raise that child because of your mom and boyfriend "pressuring you" per say, but maybe you can get in contact with a local adoption agency and just open your mom and boyfriends eyes that they are a positive thing... Have you ever watched teen mom/ 16 and pregnant and Catelynn and Tyler chose adoption..? They have an open one that way once a year or more they can have contact and get updates.. Stay positive and don't think like that. Plus it's not fair to that baby, who didn't have a choice in all of this. Just saying..

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replied February 1st, 2013
My boyfriend said he will never allow his baby to be given up. So I either have to stay with him and take up parenting or break up with him and give the baby to him.
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replied February 24th, 2017
The same thing is happening to me right now, only I'm 15 and my boyfriend doesn't know about it. My mom won't let my have an abortion and I have know say on my own body. I feel like the only way out is ending my life.
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replied February 6th, 2013
Im a teen mom
I am a teen mom and yes it's hard if you don't have support but giving up your baby won't solve anything. I got pregnant at 15, had my son at 16 and now I'm 17 and he's 7 months. His dad isn't around or anything. I love my son to death and so happy I didn't give him up or get an abortion. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU! I just don't agree with giving your baby up. Then later on in life you may have another baby. That's not fair!
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replied February 21st, 2013
Hey. It's ok. Everything will work out in the end some way or another. There even may be a twist that you totally weren't expecting but makes everything alright. Don't kill yourself, PLEASE! That wouldn't be fair to yourself. You have several choices that are predominant here.
-have the baby and give it up for adoption
-have the baby and keep it and raise it yourself
-have the baby, break up with the boy, give him the child
-have the baby, keep the baby, let your mom change the diapers

Everything will turn out ok in the end. Just let life lead you on it's course for right now.
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replied March 2nd, 2013
Why do the doctors have you on Zoloft? That can cause suicidal thinking and depression especially in teens. Are you on this medication? If so the doctor needs to ween you off of it REALLY slow or yes you will feel like life is coming down on you. You poor thing. Hang in there. You won't regret keeping that baby alive later. If you truly don't want it. let your boyfriend have it. It is his son after all. He sounds like such a sweet man to pamper you the way he does. Most women don't have that type of man that is that into his sweetie and his baby. Hang in there. Your Mom was right and you won't regret it later. That baby is alive for a reason and so are you. You have a lot of wonderful things ahead of you. Years of joy....don't give it up now.
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