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I think the pill ruined my libido and natural lubrication

I need help. I'm 31 and up until a few years ago, I had a normal, healthy sex drive and vaginal health. When my now husband and I had been dating seriously for awhile, I decided to go back on the pill. I'd used it with success in my early 20's. We had a great sex life and we wanted to be safer. I can't remember how long I was on it before the problems started, but at some point, my sex drive just died and I never got wet anymore. I thought the pill was the problem and eventually stopped taking it. For awhile I thought the problem would fix itself after I'd been off the pill long enough. It's been over a year and nothing has improved. In fact, things are worse. Not only do I have no sex drive and no natural lubrication anymore, but now I feel like I'm constantly irritated. I keep having flare ups with yeast infections and bv. I've gone to my doctor several times over the past few months. First she put me on a two week course of Vagifem to increase my estrogen. After that I was supposed to use it twice a week, but it gave me a horrible yeast infection so I had to focus on getting my skin calm and comfortable again before I could try any other treatments. It's been several months and I'm still waiting for that calm, comfortable skin. I don't like over the counter treatments like Monistat. I tried boric acid suppositories without success. I recently did a round of Diflucan for what my doctor thought was a yeast infection and I was starting to feel better, but then my lab results showed it was BV. She put me on an antibiotic and sure enough, by the end of it, the irritation was back and I had to do Diflucan again. This time the irritation is not improving. I follow all the rules...I wear cotton underwear (and I don't use fabric softener or scented detergent), I very rarely wear tight pants, I sleep in loose fitting pajamas and no underwear, I eat very little sugar and only drink occasionally, I drink tons of water, I have a healthy diet, I don't use any scented soaps or douche, I've stopped wearing tampons. I can't take this much longer. My husband and I have no sex life and while he's sweet and understanding, I can see it's making him depressed and frustrated too. We want a baby eventually, but we've agreed we need to wait until we can enjoy each other intimately again. I'm so tired of putting huge parts of my marriage and my life on hold...not to mention I'm going crazy constantly feeling swollen and irritated. I just want to feel normal again. I want to feel sexy again. I want to be with my husband again. Has anyone else gone through this? Can I ever restore my body and libido back to what they used to be?
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replied May 15th, 2016
Welcome to this forum.
You are devoid of pills for a long time and still continuing blaming the pills for your vaginal dryness and loss of libido?
No dear. Pills do not have so long standing effect.
Briefly, though you have some form of vulvovaginal infections which could cause vaginal dryness,I presume, there is also a psycho-sexual counterpart.
You need to screen this also. You need a counselling now apart from routine gynecological checkup.
What are the other measures you are following is fine. Just continue those healthy habits.
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