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I suspect my husband has Bipolar Disorder

Hi everyone,

As the title suggests, I think my husband is 'Bipolar'. I haven't heard of this term before until few days ago when I googled 'unforgiving husband'. We have been married for 2.5 years and we were happy until June 2010. He threatens me with divorce over unreasonable grounds but never did it. He just ignores me and swears at me whenever I try to speak to him. To make the story short, he has 'returned' to me and reconciled twice now but everytime I do or say something small which he dislikes, he goes back to abandoning me and being hostile towards me.

He's hyperactive. He loves arguing or debating with his brothers and never wants to lose. He'd be singing out loud by himself in a really hyperactive way. He's smart and loves linguistics. He's quite well versed and towards me, he's very conceited. He's humble towards other people but to me, he praises himself alot.

He's also lazy when it comes to his responsibilities at home like mowing the backyard and putting the bins out for collection. All he wants to do is eat, sleep and stare at his laptop.

Whenever he's in the state of 'abhoring' me, he gets easily irritated. Like as if he's never loved me before.

I'm not sure if it's possible for someone to be bipolar but doesn't show any signs of contemplating suicide, but I don't think my husband ever wanted to kill himself. If anything, I think there are times he wants to kill me.

He loves drinking coffee and energy drinks and stay up late even tho he's got work the next day.

Whenever he 'returns', he completely changes. Like as if nothing's happened.

Please comment. Do u think is behavious is of someone with bipolar disorder? I'm planning to see a specialist but in the meantime, I just need to know what you guys think. Thanks!
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replied February 18th, 2011
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hi hmm this is very typical of bipolar people. i have a friend whos like this. but my friend is even worse. hes always complaining about something being sore and blames everyone else for stuff and he makes up stuff you said that you didnt.
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replied February 19th, 2011
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Hi Hind and welcome to ehealth: It sounds like someone else I used to know...I am not an expert in anyway, but my humble opinion would be yes, I think he is bipolar....Take care...

Caroline
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replied February 19th, 2011
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i would be careful i have a friend who is like this and now for the last 3 years he only wants friendship and when i try and ask him if he would ever date me again(we dated before) he either gets mad or says there are other fish out there. it breaks my heart because he used to be such a caring and compassionate person. i want him but right now he doesnt seem to want me
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replied February 20th, 2011
Thanks for your replies. I've spoken to his mum about this and told her that I have this hunch of him having bipolar disorder and I was surprised with her response. She told me that her ex-husband (my husband's dad) went through depression, contemplated suicide and started hating going to work. Although, he wasn't diagnosed as having bipolar but the symptoms seems to be showing that he has it or possibly something similr. She was really surprised that I thought of it because it never crossed her mind. Is BD hereditary? Could it be possible that this is something passed on to my husband from his dad?
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replied February 20th, 2011
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Hi Hind: Yes, it is hereditary...Much more hereditary that people realize...Take care...

Caroline
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replied May 2nd, 2011
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my boyfriend is acting like that. i dont know what to do..
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replied May 2nd, 2011
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He certainly sounds bipolar.I recognize specially the bit about being angry for no reason, for a simple word you say, my bf is exactly the same and it seems to be a general characteristic of BP. Also, when my bf 'returns' it is like nothing ever had happened, for ex, last Sunday he was very angry because I said something he didnt like, however today when I phoned him he was soooooooooo sweet like if he had never said what he had said. They change acording to cycle and can change even in a day. Mine can and so can lots of other BP we read about in this forum.
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replied May 2nd, 2011
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When a person is truly BP, they don't look at life as we do...They can be sorry, but sometimes are not sure what they are sorry for...They can easily swing into another mood just like that...They expect forgiveness, but over time it may become more difficult to forgive...

This is a disease...Medication can and do help, but like all things in life it is not a cure all....Take care...

Caroline
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