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I stay hard but can not cum

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I stay hard but can not cum,go at it til I cant breathe no more ,then I get a guilt trip of she doesnt satisfy me,I am satisfied completely ,and she turns me on very much,just can not cum during intercourse.Jack off 3 or 4 times during the week,could this be the reason,I see her only on weekends so my last jack off day is wednesday time too build up,need advice cause now I feel as if I am under pressure,
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First Helper Rubbur

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replied March 10th, 2012
Welcome to e health forum.

Delayed ejaculation is a medical condition in which a male cannot ejaculate, either during intercourse or by manual stimulation with a partner. Ejaculation is when semen is released from the penis.

The issue in your case, would be due to your conditioning due to your masturbation. Every man has a technique to achieve orgasm via masturbation, and this is not the same feeling when you have intercourse.

Realize that you cannot force yourself to have a sexual response, just as you cannot force yourself to go to sleep or to perspire. The harder you try to have a certain sexual response, the harder it becomes to respond.

To reduce the pressure, absorb yourself in the pleasure of the moment. Do not worry about whether or when you will ejaculate. Your partner should create a relaxed atmosphere, and should not pressure you about whether or not you have ejaculated. The best way to handle this situation is to seek help from your partner and try techniques like mutual masturbation. When you achieve orgasm, when your partner masturbates you will help in removing any form of anxiety or frustration in your mind.

You might also consult with a sex therapist. Sex therapy usually includes both partners. The therapist will usually teach you about the sexual response, and how to communicate and guide your partner to provide the right stimulation.

I hope this helps.
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replied June 30th, 2014
I hear you, brutha
I have the same issue. I find that I could have cum if I did it quickly, but since I want the sex to last I try not to cum right away. Then my penis goes numb and I CAN'T cum. Sometimes if I take a break, do a little oral, even get a drink of water, and then start again I can cum if I do it right away.

Good luck!
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