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I have a low self esteem and I'm being bullied...

i'm quite a loner, I only 1 or 2 friends I can talk to regularly, but one of them is always hanging out with other people and the other is always with his girlfriend which makes it awkward for me and he directs all his attention to her... I'm usually excluded from group activitys and left to work with someone else.. I also get bullied. I do absoutely nothing to deserve it. I'm usually waiting alone at the school bus stop with no one else while all the others are away some where else.. I have like no friends.. Sad sometimes I just go home and feel miserable and want to kill myself... I always wonder where I will end up in life.. my mum has doubts that I would get into university or anything.. she doesn't think its in me.. I've been trying hard in my studys this term so hopefully I will get a well deserved mark.. And I've decided to speak to the principal about the bullying incidents, I don't know if this will make it better or worse.. The bullies at school even chase me up on xbox live when they go to my friends house and say hurtful things there as well.. All I do when I get home is go on the xbox and computer do my 80 minutes of homework or more if neccesary have dinner and what ever else.. Not to mention I have a really low self esteem.. I find it hard to engage in conversations around the people in my class, but if i'm around a whole different group of people I feel like i'm able to socialise more and relax a bit more. get to know people bit better and act myself. Where as at school I can never act myself. I don't know why this is when i get home I can talk so much to mum and be fine.. but at school It doesn't work out liek that.. I feel like I get hardly any respect.. like i'm reguarded as an idiot by these bullies.. they will throw things at me on the school bus and pull my hair a bit.. I just hate it. They always tease me about the area I live in I go to a private christian school, been here since reception... Year 1 - 6 all went fine. Then I started getting bullied and having a low self-esteem... Sorry this is all muddled up.
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First Helper Irishmom19
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replied July 29th, 2012
I was also bullied too. I would have people spread rumors about me my FIRST day at a new school. They would also pull my hair or punch me in the back of the head. Just because I was quiet. After I went into high school I developed a dgaf attitude and didn't take peoples crap. I stood up for myself more. I had to become a "tough" person for people to leave me alone. I'm not saying this is what you should do all I'm saying is this won't last forever.
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replied July 30th, 2012
Yeah I get what you mean.. but I've been suspended for sticking up for myself or defending myself.. sometimes being tough as you say makes a difference and they will leave you alone. cauz they know they will be in for a load if they do something
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replied July 31st, 2012
Practice, practice, practice ...
I had a girlfiend in high school who was never invited to parties and she was called "ugly" by some. She stood up for herself.. My advice to you: stand up for yourself by saying something smart to those who bully you. Google in the Internet for some great phrases and then adjust them so they sound like there are coming from you. Then practice that phrase by saying it loud many times until you get used to it. This really works. Don't fight with your fits, but with your smarts. And you are smart person and by reading your posting a nice guy too. Another advice to you: practice, practice, practice. What I mean by that? Practice being social with the group you feel comfortable with. Afterwards, you can add practicing with someone you don't know by having a short conversation. It's true that some people are naturally sociably, others learn to be communicate like they are learning a foreign language. What do your friends like to talk about? Read about those subjects, research about them and then you'll have things to talk about. What I have learned is that many people like to talk about themselves, they are just a few listeners. When you listen attentatively to someone and ask questions about what they just expressed, they start to connect with you. Good luck!
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