My husband and I have not been together for very long. Matter of fact, we got married 4 months to the date of our first real date. One week before that I found out I was pregnant. I was very in love with him and he with me, but I am nowhere near in love anymore (it's been 3 weeks)! I started noting the things I was feeling: he is ugly and repulsive to me, looking at him makes me ill, he talks and I want to tape his mouth shut, and I hate the way he breathes (it is so deep), the way he gulps when he takes a drink, and much more!!! I thought once upon a time that he was highly intelligent.... I was wrong! I had my first doctor visit and found via my first ultrasound that I am pregnant but there is no baby. Somewhere along the way it stopped growing. I should be 7 & 1/2 weeks pregnant, but there was no heartbeat and no sign of a life inside of me other than the sac. My husband is very hurt, but I am thankful. I feel horrible that I feel this way. I have wanted another baby since my son was born 11 years ago. I know that I am depressed, but I think it has much to do with how I feel toward my new husband and my thought of wanting to leave him. Everytime I look at him I see nothing but a big headed, fat, out of shape, disgusting man. I think, "how did I end up with you?" Can anyone offer me some advice....please Sad
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replied August 7th, 2008
divorce him?
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replied August 7th, 2008
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Wow. Is there a reason for the hostility you feel towards him? I can understand that after that honeymoon period is over that things aren't all sunshine and rainbows, but you seem to have gone from love to hate in a very short amount of time. Do you know what set this off?

4 months is an extremely short amount of time. It's a shame you two didn't give your relationship more time to grow before marrying - you could have ironed out some of the problems in your relationship or walked away without needing a divorce/annulment.

I'm sorry you've lost your baby, even if you're not.
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replied August 8th, 2008
i agree with AyaMiyaki.
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replied August 8th, 2008
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I would be lying if I said I never feel that way towards my husband. But my situation is rather different. He has been on workmans comp for over a year a half and we have been struggling. We also go married way to early. 2 months from our first date in fact. I would stick around a little bit longer and see what happens. I have thought those things about my husband i think everyone does once and awhile
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replied August 8th, 2008
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I am sorry that I lost my baby. Well, I am scheduled for a D & C this week. I have no real reason for the hostility which is why I am so confused about the way I am feeling. He is a good man... a very good man. We have talked since my initial post and he understands that I am not doing this intentionally. If I could go back and change it, I would. I know we would have waited longer to have a child. We thought it would take time and we were just preparing not activily trying. I do appreciate your advice. It is nice to know i'm not completely alone. We decided to take things slow over the next couple of months, be considerate of each other, and see what happens when my hormones go back to normal.
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replied August 8th, 2008
instead of seeing the disgusting things in him, try to focus more on the good things he does. if he is a good man like you say, you should cherish that because good guys are scarce in the world nowadays. in a nutshell i would say just try to be very optimistic about your life.
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replied August 8th, 2008
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It is good to have the ability to discuss your problems with your husband. I have always had some problems talking to mine but we always work it out. I also think that your sudden change is due to hormones. I also lost a child but it was very early on in pregnancy and I recall having some of those same feelings. You are going through a rough time emotionally and hormonally (if thats even a word) I also want to say that marrying somone and only knowing someone a few months can be rough because things you did not know about them come out later and cause fights. Just don't give up a good man is hard to find. Hang in there things will get better.

-truth me told I was drawn to comment to this post because I think the same exactly things about my husband sometimes. He has a big head and is a little chubby =0)
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replied September 7th, 2008
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i found my ex bf who impregnated me really ugly, used to think he was handsome on our first few dates. then felt he was like some malnourished squirrel.

so what happened to the sac? did u have to get it removed?
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replied January 8th, 2012
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Please PLEASE don't have a child unless you're sure about the father. If you have any doubts at all then it will end badly and your child will pay the price for your misjudgment. Then your child will end up having another child at the wrong time and the cycle will continue.
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