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I hate how I diden't have a party for my 18th and 21st

like everybody else does
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replied November 15th, 2008
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I didn't have one either. I don't know where you're getting the idea that "everybody else does".

How is dwelling on this helping you? What possible good can come from looking back at things that didn't happen?
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replied November 16th, 2008
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My 18th birthday party was me moving out of my parents house to get away from my druggy sister and her abusive boyfriend. I also didn't have a baby shower like every one else did.
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replied November 16th, 2008
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when I was only 9 my sister had a druggy boyfriend and he hit me
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replied November 16th, 2008
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What does this have to do with not having a party?
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replied November 16th, 2008
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because the girl above me mentioned her sister been a druggy
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replied November 16th, 2008
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She mentioned it to show you what she did on her 18th birthday instead of having a party. She's not crying about not getting a party, and she removed herself from a bad situation instead of complaining about it and doing nothing to change it.
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replied November 16th, 2008
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I just get jelous of other fans of my favourate band
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replied November 16th, 2008
My 18th? Id barely come out of hospital due to an operation. No party for me either. But thats life, you rnot th eonly one and it dosent really matter that much.
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replied November 16th, 2008
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You need to learn how to build up your self esteem and learn to be satisfied with yourself - or find things about yourself that are fixable, and then concentrate on fixing them. Looking at other people and thinking how much better they are than you is only going to make you feel bad, and there's no point in that.

This also goes for looking back at your life and thinking "I wish such-and-such hadn't happened". Wishing it hadn't happened won't do any good. You can't go back and change it - it's in the past. Dwelling on it will only make you miserable. Instead, look back at things that make you happy, or try to remember that today's a new day and try to make it a good one. All we can do is move forward.

Everyone has things that they're not happy with. Everyone has insecurities with their bodies, and there's no one on this Earth that hasn't looked at another person and thought "Why can't I look like that?" The difference is, most people are able to move past that and try to be content with themselves, or try to change the things that are changable. Wallowing in self-pity will solve nothing - absolutely nothing. This is probably why so many people in your life are telling you to let go of the past or to stop whining about things. It's fruitless to do so, and it's very annoying for the people around you to hear.
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