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How to talk about wanting a baby with your husband?

My husband and I are married 8months now. And I really want a baby. He said to me that is ready to have a baby. But everytime I tell him I want to practice for one. He say the time is not right??????? baffle glance I don't know what to do... Question Please help me!!! And at this moment we are struggling financial.

Please can someone give me advice. Crying or Very sad
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replied August 7th, 2009
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If you don't want to confront him about it, why not write him a nice love letter explaining that you love him and really want to have a baby with him and what that will mean to you and your relationship?
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replied August 7th, 2009
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u say he is ready 4 a baby but it doesn't sound like it. mayb he is scared abt how life wil change. u hav 2 talk abt it. explain why u want a baby. good luck.
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replied August 7th, 2009
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It is possible he's not ready. In that case, give him time to get used to the idea. You guys haven't even been married a year. Enjoy being together, just the two of you. You won't have that time again for another 18 or more years.

Also, you mentioned the financial aspect. Babies are expensive, especially early-on. Having a baby is very stressful and worrying about money is only going to put more pressure on both of you and put a strain on your relationship. What if he has to end up working more hours to make enough money? He won't be around as much.

Talk to him about what is holding him back and be willing to compromise. Maybe say that you will start trying once you have X amount of money saved or once you move into a larger place, for example. I know you want a baby now, but it's not all smiles and giggles. Make sure you are *both* ready in all aspects--emotionally, mentally, and financially. If he's not really ready yet, you shouldn't push him.

Good luck.
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replied August 7th, 2009
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He has an objection, it's certainly legitimate, how have you handled it? You can't just ignore your spouses concerns about something that will absolutely change the marriage. If he doesn't think there's enough money you need to sit down with him and show him that there is. Go over the family finances and show him how the Baby can be budgeted and planned for. Look into eligibility into programs that can help shoulder the cost. Find a way to bring more money into the household. Even if you find out that there's just no way to be able to afford a child now you will have a benchmark of how much money will be enough to where you can plan a family.
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replied August 11th, 2009
Thank you everyone for your concern. We've talked about it. And I understand now why he actually don't think it is the right time to have a baby. thank you every one once again.
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