Back in Jan 2010 while my wife was preagnant I started going out with a coworker it was just friendly at first. One day she made a move on me and I resisted but then she unzipped me and gave me oral for maybe 1 mnt, I felt so guilty that I couldn't even finish. About 10 day later I noticed some discharge and frquent urinating I went to the Dr and he said I had a UTI and he told me to take some antibios. I took the meds but my symptoms got worse each week. Finally after 3 months I whent back to the Dr to test for STD's incl HIV, everything came back neg-. I kept gettin UTI's for over a year then 1 day it just stopped BUT soon after I started getting shills that seemed to last days followed by breef hot flashes. On Feb 2012 (20 months later) I whent back to the Dr to test again and one more time my results were - neg. I know I should be over this by now but maybe my guilt wont let me move on I love my wife an family more than ever but I feel like they have lost me. The Dr told me that I need to talk to someone so that I can move on. I dont sleep good or eat for long periods. My little girl is 2 and I havent been able to enjoy her. Has anybody gone thru this? Will I ever be the same? Please help!
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replied March 1st, 2013
Hello Josemart! you can not beat yourself up first and foremost you made a mistake and you recognize it, now it is time to move forward. With that being said you probably kept getting UTI's because of the bacteria in her mouth (co-worker) - remember the mouth is one of the dirtiest part of our body. There was probably a strain that she had in her mouth that your body was a little resistant too. But continue to get your STD bloodwork just to be on the safe side for the future because certain viruses can lie dormant for up to 7 years with out any symptoms. Good Luck
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replied March 6th, 2013
When your HIV test result came back negative 3 months post your encounter you can be rest assured that the result is quite accurate....If your'e having any other symptoms do consult your doctor & get those evaluated, but with your negative test result you really have nothing to worry as far as HIV is concerned !!!
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replied March 6th, 2013
I also tested -neg after 20 months but I cant get over this. Thanks for you reply.
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replied May 11th, 2013
Protected Sex and HIV Anxiety !!!
I had a Rapid test after 9 weeks (results Negative).....(Determine test) Please also note....We had oral to where french kissing and she sucking and hand job me condom less. I am a man who had PROTECTED vaginal sex with my new girlfreind on 5th March 2013. Always i have is protected sex with her (before this event also). After few days after 5th March (when we had protected sex) she tested positive. I am trying to figure out if i am on Risk status and if yes when to get tested????. I had a Rapid test after 9 weeks (results Negative).....(Determine test) Please also note....We had oral to where french kissing and she sucking and hand job me condom less. Your fast responce will be appreciated. I am just worried...cant eat well...cant do anything... Honestly cant just let myself free from this......one sneeze and i fear that i m infected....one cough and i fear i m infected and rush to check. BTW my last check was 9 weeks.....(results negative)...had a Determine test !!!......Hope its conclusive !!! Man o Man...days arent passing !!!!!!!! hope to hear from you soon !!!!!! thanks Many say i dont pose any risk but just what if i did ??? Do you think the results can change further weeks ahead??? thanks
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