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I let my brother and his family live with me becaue I felt bad that he lost his house. He has 2 kids 9 & 10 and 3 dogs(what am i thinking) He told me he would pay a few of the lower bills in the house which equal up to 200 a month. I am a single mom with 1 boy 9 and a 1 year old. Finances have been pretty tight so I can't allow someone to take advantage of me. He started to make really good money (which i was happy 4 him) I told him he needed 2 help out a bit more so it could be a bit more equal but he got angry saying how he is ******* broke and he is not making any money(i know he was making 1800 wk take home) He promised 2 do things 2 help me around the house and never followed through with it. EX. His wife talked me into purchasing a pool which I could not afford but.. she said they would pay 2 level the ground, he would do the electical and they already had the pump and filter 2 give me. I thought it was a good deal for all 2 enjoy. They r now leaving me with all 2 to do!


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replied May 26th, 2010
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Thanks for using this forum...

Its painful when your near ones take you for a ride but at times you are helpless..Time is a great healer..Ithink you should attend few sessions with the therapist and then reason out things logically..You have your kids to take care off and the baaby needs you so stop thinking and get into action mode ,will help feel you better..dont worry everything will be fine...

take care...




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replied November 21st, 2011
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SSorry to hear that

its almost unbelievable!
siblings, family more times then not they turn out to be a big big disappointment for us...

ill tell you what i do now after getting hurt!
i help those few that are true and special and the rest including family can go hang themselves..
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replied May 11th, 2012
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You can choose your friends but you are stuck with the relatives - surprise, surprise! You don't have to be that stuck with them, you don't automatically have to love or respect relatives, children or anybody and blood is definitely not thicker than water...

Sounds you are compliant, easy-going and a bit gullible and your brother, his wife and his brood have clearly taken advantage of your nature...

You have to put up with being crapped on in your own house or you have to get rid of the spongers - there is absolutely no point in complaining...
Chances are if you hesitate for a second they will talk you around and you will end up deeper in slavery!

The best advice I can give you is get yourself a cop or a lawyer as a boyfriend and tell him you want them out and ask for his support...
Maybe you already have these guys in your circle of friends???

If you can't do things yourself and you haven't the money for good professional help you have to help yourself by networking and surrounding yourself with people who can - the right sort of friends, neighbours and friendly acquaintances make life much easier for the low paid!
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replied May 11th, 2012
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Ther is a definate fine line between helping a family member in need and enabling their self destructive behavior.

You have tried to help and apparently been burned. Remember this when they ask for your "help" again.

That is not to say that other family members will do the same though. Make your decisions carefully.

To quote Rodney Dangerfield in an old movie: "...look out for number 1, but try not to step in number 2!..."

Good luck.
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replied July 29th, 2012
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it is really deplorable that ur loved ones betray u and play games with ya. try to be cautious all the time and dont rely on anybody too much, especially on financial matters.
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replied November 27th, 2012
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People today don't even care for their own family who has did so much for them. I would say stop think about them and just take care of your kids. Everything gonna be alright.
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replied October 10th, 2013
People is acting selfish sometimes, even with their relatives! That's why...just be strong, forgive & accept to move on without so much pains!

Otherwise, your sorrow gonna make them even more happy! The best revenge is living much better without them. If you can still behave well to them, it's gonna much better. If not, just ignore them...
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