I post at the teen pregnancy forum but wanted to join pregnancy community chat too since im pregnant.

Im 16 and only found out last week then saw my doctor last friday, he confirmed it and refered me to see a midwife for the rest of my pregnancy. It wasnt planned as we were using the withdrawal method so he never ejaculated in me. I was shocked at first, then really anxious, now im pretty happy about it. I know I have a lot to think about and plan and am in no way in the perfect situation to have a baby. Luckily I live in the uk where you can get quite a lot of government benefits and help with housing. My parents both live on benefits too and choose not to work but they spend most of it on alcohol Sad It sounds like im heading down the same road they took but I dont plan to and im still thinking about my options. I haven't told anyone im pregnant yet, it feels like such a huge secret to be keeping to myself but im trying to find a good time to tell my parents. I haven't told the father either and right now I dont think I should because I dont want to be with him and hes been into bad stuff so he isnt a good influence for a child to be around. Anyway Im due on 7th Feb 2009 anyone else?
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replied June 17th, 2008
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I just wanted to say welcome to the forums and good luck. I was due last year on February 8 and delivered on January 24th. Just because you are a pregnant teenager does not mean you have to follow your parents' past. Dare to be better for your child.
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replied June 17th, 2008
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Hey i'm Danni and i'm 16 too and i have an almost 1 year old daughter and i'm fromthe uk too. The sooner you tell yourparents the easier it will be. You can be a good mother at 16 but itis difficult
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replied June 17th, 2008
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hi! I agree with dannzibelle. I hope everything goes well with your preg.
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replied June 18th, 2008
thanks and hiya! I think I can be a good mum but it will be difficult because its all new to me. I dont have much experience with kids especially babies. Im already feeling different like I have to eat healthy and be safe for the babys sake. School is finished for the summer so im taking it easy relaxing. Is it safe to swim while pregnant? I go swimming every week and now school is closed I will go more if its okay. I applied to college for september but have decided to put it off for now. I didnt know what I wanted to do for a career anyway I was just going to study the usual subjects. Thinking about being a mum I would rather have a career that's suited well to being a parent, maybe work part time hours so I can still be home for my child and not use daycare, or work in a school where I will get all school holidays off and weekends same as my child.
I still havent told my parents. Instead I got a friend to casually bring the subject up around my mum to see what she thought about teen mums and stuff, she said she would kick us out. Now im worried because I dont know if I have to be 18 to go on the council housing list to get free housing or if I can do it at 16. Im going to find out.
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replied June 18th, 2008
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You don't have to be 18, i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we live in a council flat. Swimming is a great form of exercise when your pregnant because it's not too straining, but it is advised that you don't do much more then your body is already used to.
Personally i'd advise you to try and go to college because it's always easier to get a betetr job with more qualifications, i'm going to college in september for hairdressing and beauty when my daughter will be 14 months old and even though it breaks my heart that i'm going to have to leave her with somebody else i know that i'm doing itfor her so that i can get a job and so that we can move out of council accommidation because this place is horrible and has the nickname of 'the herion flats' because people used to shoot up in the gardens and one of my neighbours sells weed.
Your parents migth say that now and no doubt they will be upset and dissapointed but you aer their child and they will always love you. My parents said that there was no way i couldlive there with a baby when they found out i waspregnant but then i ended up living there for 9 months because the council couldn't find us a place.
Oh and another thing, don't expect to get a place from the council right away, it took me 9 months and i've known of people who have been on there for years
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replied June 19th, 2008
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I rememebered something this morning when i gotmine through the post. Have you applied for healthy start vouchers yet? You will get a voucher worth £3 a week to spend on cows milk, infant formula milk, fresh fruit and fresh vegetables up until you give birth and then once you've had the baby you will get two £3 vouchers a week to spend on the same things. If you choose to breastfeed then the vitamins from the fruit and veg really helps you out plus while you're pregnant the calcium from the cows milk is goodforyour baby's growing bones. If you choose not to breastfeed and use the voucher towards formula then i would imagine it helps out alot (i breastfeed so i don't actually know how much formula is but from what i can remember from myneice and nephew it's alot).
You can also apply for a £500 sure start maternity grant once you start claiming benefits in your own name. Here's some info about it if it helps you at all
http://www.jobcentreplus.gov.uk/JCP/Custom ers/WorkingAgeBenefits/Dev_013950.xml.html

And healthy start
http://www.healthystart.nhs.uk/
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replied September 13th, 2008
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welcome to the forum and good luck with your pregnancy and telling you parents

dont fear going down the same path they did and making the same mistake just learn from them and you will already be one step ahead
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replied July 6th, 2009
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I need to know some awnsers ?
Im 15 and pregnant . The baby would be due around april and im wondering if me and my boyfriend would be able to apply for a flat. And how much money would we get alltogether when the babys born a week ? And do you have to pay the rent?

Thanks x
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