I've been married for almost 20 years and have never been sexually active with anyone but my wife. She claims to also have never been sexually active with anyone but me. She has had two genital herpes outbreaks in the last year.

I've come to the conclusion she's not being honest. But is it possible she contracted herpes over 20 years ago and is now having outbreaks or does this mean she has recently cheated?
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replied September 14th, 2017
Thank you for asking at Ehealth forum!

I read your question and I understand your concern.
Have she been tested positive for herpes? if not, do not get sure that it was herpes.Even if it is herpes,yes, it can remain dormant for so long time.More likely she had a mild initial outbreak or no outbreak at all and didn't recognize the symptoms. Most people with herpes don't know they have it [studies say 90% of people with genital herpes are either asympomatic or have very mild symptms they don't recognize as herpes.]

I hope it helps. Stay in touch with your healthcare provider for further guidance as our answers are just for education and counselling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit to a doctor.
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